well..
1st of all i wana say that i did not read all of the threads (caz i somehow got fed-up by the same thing posted again n again..)
n 2ndly i want to ask the author of this topic,how's the situation now?
for one thing i can tell is,the relationship between both of them is not bonded too strong yet..well,somehow ignorance just because she's not offering him sex...is definitely not a sufficient reason..
i do notice that one of the forum-er here said that she n her bf didn't have sex for 3years.i assume that is true and i would like to stand at her side. Sex isn't EVERYTHING in relationship...do u think of "Wow,she'd a great body and i wana Fxxx her!" before u tackle a girl? (if u answer yes,then i think u're a pervert.)
Sex is not the thing that drive me crazy over a girl. is the bond,the fun,the exitement and also the hapines when being with her... (though sex would create all the above,but once again,it's not the MAIN reason.)
In the case for the girl mentioned, firstly, i think it is wise to know the REAL reason for not offering sex for the guy, if PAIN is really the reason,then i might agree with one (or some) of the forum-er that they should make some fore-play b4 having sex.
but somehow,some girls are still not so open,and they would think that they should reserve the amazing moment for the amazing one at the amazing night after her marriage. (i know i know,they'd sex ya'd say...but we dono if it was being forced by that guy~) well...maybe this girl just don't feel comfy by having sex pre-marriage and is feeling guilty,or,she simply feel that the guy is just wana have sex with her n not really into the marriage thingy...
alot of the ppl here say that girls LOVE sex after they'd tried it,but somehow,i've met a few,that they hate them (well,not my gf or ex,if u guys wana say that is becaz my technique is not good..caz it's not about me).Not that they dun enjoy sex, but they think it is not the thing that they shud be doing all of the time.When they do it,they actually facing a few concerns,being pregnant is the most concerned thing,whether or not they had made safe sex,there's no 100% guarantee that she'd be safe.
2nd is they do feel anxious about how their partner real mind is,that is,whether they just wana have fun making love,or they really love them to make love..
3rd,hey'd wonder if the bf is sex-craved and might having it with someone else
4th,they actually worry about how they perform(or look) when giving it to the partner
etc etc..there's still alot of factor if u wan me to list out,but in a nutshell,i wana say is that,not EVERY girl LOVE sex even if they HAD or HAD NOT have sex.
Girl is a compliacted creature.(girls dun flame me..)
they might be enjoying this moment while having sex with u,but the next time when u ask aagin,they might get angry n annoyed..
anyway,from my opinion,just clicking for one year and plan to get marry???
that's too soon for me...(well,especially when u say they'd stayed together...)
me n my gf together for 2 years...ofcaz we talk about it (sex n marriage that is) but both of us understand that it is still too early for it to come true...too much thing we need to achieve now..anyway,we'd set goals for ourself b4 we getting married/serious relationship. And if sex is the thing that will make me ignore her, not even 1minute,i will be dump by her.
Girl,STAND UP,that guy is just simply not worth marrying...what if after marry,the same thing like the singaporean happen on them?DIVORCE???might as well get another guy that don't mind not having sex,or,have it when the right time.i'm sure many of this kinda guy is available.if u're worry of ur virginity,get a counsellor or best fren to talk with.anyway if a guy loves u,virginity sin't going to hold him back.
if u feel urself dirty,think this way,i'm having sex with my ex,because i'm deeply in love with him.too bad he feels differently..the choice of leaving him is wise.talk to ur current/going-to-be BF about ur virginity,be honest,i'm sure if he love u,he'll accept u.(n ur virginity issue).love is about both parties,understandings,communications and also trust...so...advice to the author....talk with her again,get the WHOLE PICTURE of why she doesn't wana have sex. and when i say whole,i mean WHOLE!.
hope i'm helping.