agreed...

hell yeah...

instincts perhaps...?

for topic starter: i think u should advice ur frend to accept sex, i think ur frend get a closed mind, not open mind, she think sex is somethings dirty and not good, and ur frend aso not very join the SEX i think. The boy also need some skills and knowledge, like be4, while and after sex also hv skill one, not just straight go in, like when u r a generals and u go for war without strategies and u just rush to enemies there u sure lose easily right? same that u hving sex lar, that boy need to let the girl high be4 the chorous start.

i recommended ur frend and ur frend's BF watch some XXX movie then only go for real one.

correct me if i'm wrong

Didn't really read the rest of the replies, except that last one, which IMHO was completely chauvinistic.

Sex should not be a necessary ingredient of any relationship, at least, while they are still in the courting/dating phase. Call me "kolot", but I believe in sex after marriage, because I believe its sacred.

Sex however, is a necessary ingredient in a marriage, BUT should not be the deciding factor on whether a marriage goes on or not.

My opinion on your friend's BF -- this is totally ridiculous. He's ignoring her because she doesn't want to have sex with him? It only goes to show you that the most important thing to him, is sex. You then have to question the motive of why he ever dated her in the first place. This kind of guy should be neutered and dumped.

quite true and i agree with you too, if true love and feeling for each other is only by look and sex only thats not called love, its lust... and how long will this continue?

after married, call their family for help, u should said their situation to their parent, and ask their parent ask them to born a baby for them.

this might be possible but also might be impossible

Sorry to say, but the boy is being a jackass. Yes, sex should be enjoy by both partner but note that again, it should be enjoy by both. Not both must enjoy.

I feel sorry for the girl. Love is about passion. I don't see the passion in that boy who only thinks for him self, self-centred and simple minded guy. He's totally addicted to sex.

The other guys, please don't be like him. I do not say that sex is not important, but in this case, I vote no. Poor thing...

lol, everybody has his/her own point of view, maybe u vote no but i'm voting yes, but if u want a baby then u must hv sx lar, if u want a life that dont want to hv sex also can.

Personally I voted for yes.

Sex is very important in a relationship BUT I agree that is should not be the sole factor to determine the relationship. Its a great way for both sides to communicate but often times this is abused i.e. one side is doing it for pure pleasure. Maybe the girl does not want sex because she feels insecure of the bf. There are actually girls that do not enjoy sex... weird as it seems but then again most of them that feel weird are guys.

I feel that both of them really need time to talk it through and she needs to clearly lay down the rules. Imagine if they were married and she felt this great obligation to give in all the time... seems to me like its no point then... although the guy won't notice/complain about it too.

y the guy act so harsh to his own gf tat soon will get together? even sex mechine wil break down lo..
this guy is totally senseless... jerk
"no word say " = bo ua kong ..lol

Listen to me. Sex is very important.

Sex IS important. But it doesn't have to be the number 1 thing in the relationship. This kind of situation come up, not so simple as saying "the guy's a jackass".

Come on la. Most guys, if just in that situation where you feel you are rejected, that's a painful letdown too. I bet the guy's pride was just hurt.

The problem is probably communication more than anything. If the guy is a jackass or the girl is a b****, then why their relationship so far along already? The girl has to make her feelings clear, or at least try to. Why is she not enjoying the sex? Is it a medical reason? Psychological? Only because want to wait until after marriage? Just saying "I don't feel comfortable, and that's that" is not a good thing either. If she still likes the guy she needs to let him know through OTHER WAYS than sex. From a guy's point of view, sometimes we just need 'relationship things' to be discussed very clearly rather than letting us jump to our own conclusions.

Of course, the guy shouldn't just insist only lar. If he thinks sex is the only way to prove their relationship that's bad too. But 2 of them need to try to work it out someway. A girl cannot just keep repeating "I don't want sex" without further explanation. This kind of problem will not magically go away if she ends up with some other man who is willing to wait until after marriage etc. A guy also cannot simply respond to this kind of remark with the silent treatment.

Haiz it always amazes me...wonder if sex or money is harder for 2 ppl in a relationship to discuss.

SEX is important..

but only after marriage...

well, the questionaire was rather vague. anyway, sex is important in terms of 'human bonding', part of nature's cycle, reproductive purposes, and last but not least, pleasure .

however, i agree with you abt having sex after marriage. premarital sex is a no no n i hope the gurls wouldn't fall easily towards your boyfriends request to do so. u'll be the biggest loser.

after for so long u guys still arguing..? i spent more than 1 1/2 hour reading this thread... it leads to no where.. stop all this...

y no premarital sex ??

read about TS's fren stories..and many more stories...

girls..wake up please..

aikss....

This post has been edited by mindkiller6610: Dec 30 2006, 12:38 AM

IMO sex is needed in a relationship, but of course should not be forced to the extent like in TS's case. It's not wrong to have pre-maritial sex, just wrong morally which differ's to each and every different person. I think sanook and wacky-angel just have some misunderstanding between them tho, sanook does not really mean that we must have sex everyday hour in a relationship, but in a relationship sex for the guy and the girl is equally important and very well normal, but there's no need to rush it. (Though i agree that 3 years is kinda abit torture for the guy lol). But wacky-angel isnt right o say that a guy can survive sex until after marriage or when the girl is ready, because i think it should be a mental torture for the guy to be like that. And one of the reason why wacky-angel is of sure in his relationship is maybe because birds of the same feather flock together (no offence just my opinion).
I think just there's 2 parties here which have different opinions and morality, and we all each have our own ways of living life. Sorry if i offended anyone in this post

haiz!! off topic lar!!

to topic starter: ask ur frend and her BF to watch more porn movie to learn more about sex lar, or go to some porn website, after marrige, they know wat to do already.

U guys are really funny...

U guys said its not wrong to have pre-marital sex...
But yet the girl is WRONG to deny sex...

And u guys are saying if any arguements regarding this issue, the girl must obey the guy's satisfaction, and even have to learn from porno.....

In other words, girls must have pre-marital sex.....up to extend in order to sustain/keep thier bf...


Do i interpreted correctly?

This post has been edited by WaCKy-Angel: Dec 30 2006, 12:20 PM

that boy love the girl only because want to hv sex with that girl? if the girl/boy need to hv sex with each other to keep their relationship then better throw it away be4 sex, coz WARRANTY VOID IF SEAL BROKEN!! ^^

I think the guy shud think maturely....couples are always have 2 b communicate...