sex is an important part of a relationship lah. especially after marriage.

one- your friend doesn't like sex because it hurts. hello, of course it hurts lah if it's the first few times. she can't just shut him off from sex totally because it hurts her, that's pretty selfish.

two- him not showing any affection is also selfish.

conclusion? they totally shouldn't get married. it's gonna be heading for disaster if they can't realize that love is selfless and it's about both of you being happy and reaching a compromise. it's not possible for her to not have sex EVER because she doesn't like it. two, he has to understand other ways to make it better for her.

can't say that sex is not important, but can't say that it's the most important thing. sex, like anything else, should be in moderation. there's no such extremes.