I'd just like to reiterate your point above, soggie and thanks. To the TS, you've mentioned that your friend is supposedly "thick-headed" and won't be forced into doing anything she doesn't like. That could be a good thing as long as it's with good reason.

But in the reality of it, sex IS important for a healthy marriage. Yes, you could say it's not the only thing or everything IN marriage. Good point. But I didn't say it shouldn't be either. As far as your friend is concerned, I don't see much sense in blaming "painful intercourse" as the one reason NOT to have sex at all and hope life will go on well in her marriage. Is she aware of the root cause of it in the first place before throwing sex out of the picture? (could be due to multitude of reasons for eg lack of foreplay, lubrication or even could be a medical condition)

As for your friend's hubby, blaming the "denial from sex" thing and that alone to justify giving a cold shoulder is WRONG too. Again...not trying to understand the root cause(s).

Talk. Talk heart-to-heart. Get help. Get professional help.

IMHO, to those that still thinks "sex isn't required for a healthy and happy marriage", please discard your imaginary wings and step your feet back on the ground. Welcome to reality.

Cheers!

This post has been edited by hcbing: Jan 24 2007, 11:20 AM