if i were that girl, i will try talking to my fiancee. If he thinks a relationship require sex occasionally, then I rather end this relationship. Yes, I may have hurt his feeling indirectly by saying that having sex with him is painful but he, as my fiancee should respect me and care for my feelings. He is taking advantage of our relationship by asking for sex occasionly. He is selfish. Why do I need to stay on with such person for the rest of my life. Talk to your friend about my opinion. She needs a man who knows how to respect her and care for her feelings and not someone who is selfish..