IMO

Sex is important in a marriage.

However it should not be the defining quality of your relationship with the other person or who you are as a person. It should compliment the love that you feel for the other person and should be one of the ways that you show your love to the other person, it should be one of the many ways to express how you feel for the other person.

Sex means something when it is done with the person you love otherwise we would be nothing more than animals. Because all we would be doing is acting on instinct not understanding. This is one reason why pre-marital sex is not encouraged. Because sex should be a personal, intimate act.

And in order to feel that way about love and sex the person needs to be someone your committed to, and the marriage is the greatest form of commitment.

Sex starts in the mind, not the body, and when you share your mind and your body with another person you lose part of yourself to them and they to you, at least this how it should be.

However random sex and one night stands eventually make you an empty shell because you keep losing who you are and eventually you find that your life is meaning less and empty. Sex outside of marriage corrupts the soul because we keep dwelling on the next quick fix.

Did you know that the chemicals released by having sex is more addictive that cocaine?