Well I guess a lot of you here are teenagers or minors.

Sex in marriage is extremely important. Having a healthy sex life is almost always the most paramount importance in a healthy marriage, and there are many marriages that failed due to the lack of a healthy sexual connection between the two.

We live in Asia, where people are extremely close minded and taboo about sex, partly thanks to chauvinistic religious teachings (that insist on virginity), and this is an indirect cause to unhealthy sexual life in most marriages.

Firstly, we don't talk about sex. It is taboo. Then, we have people who scream the "holier-than-thou" image telling people premarital sex is wrong, when they don't seem to understand the source of the problem at all. And finally we have hyprocrit pastors who tell each other that sex is bad but crave it themselves deep inside.

To the TS, tell your friend this - don't be afraid to talk to her bf about sex, and the both of them should see a councellor. It might be her not liking sex due to the above mentioned reasons, or it might be him not knowing how to please her or push the right buttons. In either way, it is a problem that both of them should come together to solve (no pun intended), as in all problems in marriage.

Just get them to a psychiatrist or a marriage councellor. And oh, when I say councellor, I mean qualified ones, not those you grab from the church. Those are the really screwed up ones most of the time.

I guess a lot of girls here are sticking to their own female perspectives and refuse to see things from the guy's point of view. In other words - selfish.

For a guy to be rejected by his gal, is a painful blow. It is only natural for a guy to feel unloved because unlike girls, sex to guys is an important thing and most guys see it as a method of expressing love. Similarly, when a guy is rejected, most of the time the guy will see this as a form of love rejection, and will be hurt because of this.

Not that this behavior is right or wrong. It is simply the way an average joe perceives sex in a relationship. Now before you scramble for the moral high ground, think about this for a moment - a healthy sex life has been proven again and again in various researches to be one of the important factors in sustaining a marriage. While the guy in this scenario can be blamed for taking the wrong signals from the rejection, the girl should also shoulder the blame for refusing to find a way to make things work.

Pain can be averted by various means - lubricants, better foreplay, and even sexual therapy. It depends on how much the girl understands the guy's needs and how far the girl is willing to satisfy the guy's needs. To say that she wants to refrain from sex just because she is afraid of it is plain selfish.

So the verdict here is, don't get married. The guy doesn't know how to communicate, and the girl is too selfish to develop a relationship of mutual satisfaction. So this relationship is doomed from the start.

Exactly my point: The girl shouldn't just stop because she's afraid of it, and the guy shouldn't have taken the rejection emotionally. Both have to take the first step... not just waiting for the guy to be patient and pretend that you're all righteous and innocent, and is the victim in this scenario.

And you know the funny thing? When men deny sex to woman, the man's a jerk, impotent, or gay. Haha.

Take it with a light heart. When you say us guys are stereotypical, don't forget that girls do have you own stereotypes too. I'm just trying to be fair here.

I'm not saying the girl or guy is wrong here. I'm just saying that while the guy is wrong, don't forget that the girl isn't without faults too, and perhaps if you girls would attempt to see it from the guy's point of view, the guy's reactions could be easily understood and a solution would come by easier than holding onto your own grounds and insisting that you are the victim (it's always easier to blame others, that's human nature).

404 logic not found. What exactly are you talking about?

Sorry bro, no idea what you're talking about

to settle the score. Otherwise girls would think we're only interested in sex with them.

You must be crazy to ever get bored of sex.

Actually, it's more possible that the lack of skill on the bed is causing the couple to gradually lose interest in sex. Guys don't know how to please girls, and girls don't know that sex is supposed to be enjoyed, not run away from like its some sort of a dinosaur strapped with miniguns and a tactical nuke. You can't run away from a tactical nuke anyway.