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Is sex really important?, What is your opinion??
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TSquireyuyue
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 Dec 7 2006, 09:21 AM, updated 19y ago
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Recently, a fren of mind encounter a problem. She and her bf decided to get married by next yr, so they have been having sex a few times d but my fren does not really enjoy it. She feel uncomfortable and she said its painful for her bcoz of it.
So, she's been giving excuses and tried to avoid from having sex coz even after she told him the problem, he still insist. Now her bf did not push my fren anymore, but he also did not tok to her. Did not touch her anymore, not even hold her hand!!! he basically just ignore my fren. Not just ignore, he totally pretend as if she's not there!!!! FYI, they're living together and both parents also know about their relationship and the suppose to be coming soon marriage(i dont really know if marriage will take place anymore anot) so their relationship is very very much a serious 1.
haiz....i did not know how i can comfort my fren but i personally disgusted at that guy. I wanna ask my fren to dump him straight out but then i just dun wan push my own opinion on her. Pls give ur opinion on this so i can tell my fren about it.
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 09:49 AM
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QUOTE(WaCKy-Angel @ Dec 7 2006, 09:38 AM) Since they're going to get married, why cant he wait? How long have they been together? i think they have been together for more then 1 yrs coz the first time i heard her tok of him is when she went to Thailand for holiday wif his whole family  |
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 09:55 AM
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QUOTE(YLT @ Dec 7 2006, 09:37 AM) I vote "Yes". Sex should be enjoy by both partner. I think the guy did not perform very well.   i dont think its about technique or wat so ever. i think there r still some ppl out there that dislike sex. Last week i read from the Star about a married woman in Singapore who ask the court to restrict her husband from having any sex wif her. Coz now she got a baby coz her husband "rape" her while she's asleep . She said that she's still very much in love wif her husband but does not wish to have sex wif him coz its painful for her. When i first read about that article i feel very funny about it. But then i'm not too sure anymore  |
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 09:58 AM
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QUOTE(cksoon @ Dec 7 2006, 09:50 AM) I think to save them, they need the help of counsellor... or somebody to help them talk and unwind and understand each other more into this sex thing. BTW, I'm serious and I'm not joking erm......do u know where can i get counsellor?? coz i have no idea at all. I can get my fren to go but i dunno bout her bf on this part.  |
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 10:02 AM
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QUOTE(WaCKy-Angel @ Dec 7 2006, 09:57 AM) 1 year decide to marry? Maybe its the guy just trying to "get" her....and now after few times she doesnt give him.... Yeah....should do that.. The guy wants sex more than wants to marry her Well...i guess if they're married atleast she wont reject... hhmm.......i dont think after marriage will sure no reject. My fren is the kind that very thick head. She hav a mind of her on. You cant just get her to do something else when she already decided |
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 10:07 AM
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QUOTE(WaCKy-Angel @ Dec 7 2006, 10:01 AM) I have alot of candidates for cousellor post.... But they're all from church Your friend wanna talk with them? My fren is a Christian so i think it will be very good. I dunno if my fren wanna tok wif them anot but i definately will try and get my fren to tok to 1 since she's now abit afraid of ppl liao. |
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 10:11 AM
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QUOTE(WaCKy-Angel @ Dec 7 2006, 10:06 AM) Neah i bet she wont reject so much... But that back to one point.. The guy wants her or just wants SEX ? i'm also pondering on that question myself |
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 10:14 AM
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anyone know any counselor who is reliable and hav to be woman . Can give me her number?? I wish to ask my fren to call a counsellor but i just dunno where to find 1. |
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 10:36 AM
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QUOTE(GunMetalX @ Dec 7 2006, 10:30 AM) Yaya, agreed... Why everytime blame a guy when a relationship gone wrong bcoz of the S word... Girls play a role too.. well will u stay wif your gf or even marry her if she told u, u cannot have sex together???  Lots of guys just walk out of a relationship just bcoz girls say no. While lots of girls just totally ok w/o sex but guys.........  |
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 10:42 AM
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QUOTE(cksoon @ Dec 7 2006, 10:29 AM) erm.. I'm also a Christian... but maybe a very open minded one . I assume both your friend and fiance are Christians? Well... actually... from religious point of view... I guess they'll be told no premarital sex the point is.. still haven't married. but from professional's point of view... try to get more info about that counsellor first. at least.. there's a counsellor, but make sure it's a proper experience one. you can try ask our fellow LYN forumer for help  all the best and wish your friend and her fiance a happy wedding in the end  thanx, i'm also hoping for the best for her |
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 11:28 AM
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QUOTE(Guai Guai Zai @ Dec 7 2006, 10:55 AM) last time i read a news, saying tat a new couple are not enjoying while they r having sex.. the wife feel pain everything her husband have sex with her.. so they both went to see doctor, finally they found out the reason, reason why she feel so much pain.. is becuz the husband went in the wrong hole  thats a........very shocking news |
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 01:21 PM
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hhhmm....... they did talk about it b4. Her bf did try to do it better. According to my fren, they did try foreplay and eveyrthing but still nothing work out. So........
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TSquireyuyue
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Dec 7 2006, 02:34 PM
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QUOTE(sanook @ Dec 7 2006, 02:22 PM) three years together with no sex? most men would have dumped you already. there must be something wrong with your man. I am not being derisive. there is really something wrong with your man. either that, or he really love you a lot and can't bear to leave you despite not being able to enjoy sexual intimacy and pleasure with you. the biggest likelihood is he is getting it somewhere else. it is a very serious possibility. no healthy, normal adult man who have already experienced sex and interested in having a relationship with woman can go without sex for three years. you are just giving him ground for cheating on you. it is very likely he is already doing it and nobody would blame him. you are just being silly to think men can go without sex for three years. mark my words! i think what is said r very rude. I personally think if a guy truly in love wif their girl, they will respect the girls decision. i dont think all guys r really sex maniac like you who cannot go on w/o sex. Guys tat cheat on girls just becoz of the sex issues is just someone who is not worth it  Lucifer, i totally agree on ur opinion and they r still living together This post has been edited by quireyuyue: Dec 7 2006, 02:38 PM |
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