Jan 1 2007, 12:33 PM
QUOTE(quireyuyue @ Dec 7 2006, 09:21 AM)
Recently, a fren of mind encounter a problem. She and her bf decided to get married by next yr, so they have been having sex a few times d but my fren does not really enjoy it. She feel uncomfortable and she said its painful for her bcoz of it.
So, she's been giving excuses and tried to avoid from having sex coz even after she told him the problem, he still insist. Now her bf did not push my fren anymore, but he also did not tok to her. Did not touch her anymore, not even hold her hand!!! he basically just ignore my fren. Not just ignore, he totally pretend as if she's not there!!!! FYI, they're living together and both parents also know about their relationship and the suppose to be coming soon marriage(i dont really know if marriage will take place anymore anot) so their relationship is very very much a serious 1.
haiz....i did not know how i can comfort my fren but i personally disgusted at that guy. I wanna ask my fren to dump him straight out but then i just dun wan push my own opinion on her. Pls give ur opinion on this so i can tell my fren about it.
Voted "Yes".So, she's been giving excuses and tried to avoid from having sex coz even after she told him the problem, he still insist. Now her bf did not push my fren anymore, but he also did not tok to her. Did not touch her anymore, not even hold her hand!!! he basically just ignore my fren. Not just ignore, he totally pretend as if she's not there!!!! FYI, they're living together and both parents also know about their relationship and the suppose to be coming soon marriage(i dont really know if marriage will take place anymore anot) so their relationship is very very much a serious 1.
haiz....i did not know how i can comfort my fren but i personally disgusted at that guy. I wanna ask my fren to dump him straight out but then i just dun wan push my own opinion on her. Pls give ur opinion on this so i can tell my fren about it.
i've decided to skip the 14 pages of replies and proceed with replying..
to a guy, the sexual relationship can mean one kind of recognition to the relationship.
so her reactions to his eyes could be somewhat a demotion to the relationship.
before disgusting the guy, one should probably put oneself in his shoe, imagine that ur partner express dislike--at some point even reject all kinds of intimacy to take place, how would u feel?
he, in this case should not be the only one to get the blame.
they both share equally responsibility to make the relationship works.
the pain during the initial few times of sex is bound to happen.
Try using lubricants and better foreplay before attempting again.
they may need counseling if this situation continues, marital counselors might help too.
This post has been edited by weeluvmal: Jan 1 2007, 02:59 PM
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