Seek advice from a doctor. Check up with gynecologist. if nothing is wrong,maybe the guy is not doing it at the most preferable way. If still no improvement, maybe it's the mindset of either one.If still can't find out why, ask her look for happily married couple that loves sex and seek out for pointers.If really really no solution, then find out whether both can live without sex or not.

This is jsut my view about them. The girl is first timer. Guy may not be. The girl have a preset mind about sex is something very special but have no experience in that. Thus, after the first time, it felt so much pain and that makes her feel more scared. After a few times, same thign happen and then she conclude by herself that sex is painful and such.I think SETTING HER MINDSET that sex is painful is NOT APPROPRIATE and also i think what THE GUY did was SO INAPPROPRIATE too.He may be doing that because like what others have said, his ego.The girl probably shoudl try to talk to him and tells that it's not because of he sucks in bed or watever, it's jsut because she's first timer and needs more time to find the best position n such.MAke him feel more confident. IMHO, i feel that couple need to put down their pride and stubborness when it concern the other half.Give and take when tlalking and doing stuff together. It's not fair only for the girls to treat the bf good, it's also not fair only for the guys to treat the gf good. you can call it divine love or not la when that happens but everyone also have feelings and wish to be treated good.


junnie87, when you said that if having sex occasionaly in a relationship, the relationship you refering would be the paktoh time, isn't it? it is not refering to marriage,is it?I jsut want to make sure i get the right point to what you want to express.

WaCKy-Angel and chachachaaa, so you are saying that pre marital sex are not appropriate in your eyes rite? How about when u are married? will you be saying no sex to your husband(i'm talking in the sense of consent sex, not rape or such )?I'm just curious about that cos from what you girls been saying, it's like you are saying sex before and after marriage is wrong in your point of view.Not flaming you girls, just wish to know.

Lucifer_Light, i totally agree with you. There are a lot of people that have no-sex-relationship until they get married. i even know a few couple that last as long as 7 years without sex...but with or without foreplay, that i dont know:). However there are a lot also that based on sex in a relationship. I'm a guy so i dont think i'm being bias here.It just that i felt whether having sex or not in a relationship is up to the couple, and not following what others do, you must do.It's couples decision.

That's just my opinion.I'm sorry if i hurt anyone's feelings. just my 2cents.

EDIT:Typo

This post has been edited by cadmus: Dec 8 2006, 06:20 AM

wah, though this topic will go silent liao after keep on arguing about the same point all over again and again.

Everyone have their own preference whether to have or not to have sex before marriage. Why bother wor whether others doing it or not doing it?it's not gonna harm you in any way also..

Unless you are stating that watever others do, it reflects on the society and thus will bring distruction on you.For that, i totally have no comment.

haha. Not aqua meh?

WaCKy-Angel, u still bo shong with those ppl that says about premarital sex is okay?Why bother what they say?they belief in what they belief, you belief in what you belief. That's all.No need to prove that you are right or they are right.

I dont see where this topic is going.Kinda out of topic. Besides, the thread starter also never bother to reply us...

Wacky-angel,
wah, din know that my reply to you would bring in more argument. sorry about that.


hm, ok..i know what is pil pencegah kehamilan.. but i've not come across this morning after pill yet.i know that most common pill pencegah kehamilan msut take everyday for at least 1 month continously n such.. So, i was just wandering whether would you tell me more aobut this 'morning after' pill? From the way u say it is as if, once you take this morning after pill,pregnancy is avoidable for a certain period of time.

don't flame me.i just feel it's a knowledge.

EDIT:i just google it up. Seems like the sideeffect is very scary.
http://www.morningafterpill.org/mapinfo1.htm

This post has been edited by cadmus: Jan 2 2007, 08:28 PM