i have a big fight with my gf last week.....he always say that i cannot aford her with my income.....our relatioship is going well during our universities, we been paktoh when during studies at uni, i know that i am using my PTPTN money, but we always spending time together and took her travel to almost every state in penisular Malaysia...to Penang, KL (every week days) and Johor....during the time, we even went to Genting Highlands and Cameron from Ipoh.....during the Uni?studies years, we benn staying together and rent a house...but i know..the PTPTN money is not enough for our studies living...our parents do sent us more money not less than RM400. For me i think that my GF have arich family that her parents sent her mauch money during our studies years...

When we grad, we still together and she been post to a company near my place...then i also haven find any job for one year...but the second year on 2007 i finally find a job for a gov sector..... but my salary is not high if compare to those others gov officers that can get RM4K per month.....then i applying for an interview that i failed the interview twice....so my salary now becoming static with only RM2++K. i also afraid that i will lost job soon....when these two years goes by, i can see a change from my gf that she says that i am a loser....so i often see her going out with other guys.....then we always fight. i wonder how can she behave in such ways...she has change.....i wonder what happening to her.....she always not intrested in me anymore....maybe is my income or my apperence that she always say that i am not goodlooking anymore like before...but i fell so starnge becouse my weight havent even change...maybe i now wearing spec?????

So just few days, my gf oledi dicuss with her parents that she dont want to meet me anymore.......she say many things about me with her parents....then she act so stange lately then finally we saparated.I am so despo right now couse i am not young anymore and all my pass friends oledi getting married and even had kids....my parents always advice me to forget about her and says she is useless , and dont think of getting girls right now....i now conduct a phycology doctor and take pills every nite to calm me down

You still a virgin or not?

did u manage to bed her?

40 years old virgin

Money beats everything, my friend.

she made a good choice

I want to ask all the question above...

Its not wrong for a girl to look for a more financial stable guy...
U'll just have to work harder to earn more, or find a girl that willing to stay with u although u not earning much.

Been there, done that. I know how it feels

ADA WANG ADA AMOI

Well, it is pretty obvious she bang someone one day and found it exciting since he has everything - money and power.

In this case, there is no true love. Just give up and move on.

MONEY > SEX

move on...

let it be la my fren ... put money 1st
got money = got everything

This post has been edited by d@n: Feb 19 2009, 04:36 PM

People grow up and their needs change with time. Perhaps she just couldn't wait for u. I mean, 1 year to get a job?!

Tada wang, ada tangan kanan to fap.

Now only you know. Don't worry as time passes, you will be scared to have gf after you taste freedom but you also get freedom from easy sex.

This post has been edited by MY_unker: Feb 19 2009, 04:39 PM

biasanya tangan kiri, kawanku

Tak Kaya tidak apa, Tetapi, Gaya itu mesti ADA!!

This post has been edited by N's: Feb 19 2009, 04:40 PM

so..stay single...problem solved..

tangan kiri tak boleh ke?

let this be a motivation for u to earn more money
after u succeed....look for her, show off to her, and then say good bye.

If it is true you take pills to calm down, it is consider quite serious man....

Take it to heart the constructive advice been given here... Whatever it is, life still goes on ~ ~ ~

This type of girls are not good only like about your money not you

make her regret for leaving u.. work hard nawww...
anyway, either she's materialistic o attract to other guy adi...
probly got some rich guy pikat her de, n she start to feel dat guys is better den u...

anyway, welcome to reality world...

This post has been edited by j_coolman: Feb 19 2009, 04:40 PM

TS gf is a he?

maybe is because of girls in this century had became more independent and optimism and be more reallity to the world.
well, what i can say is "Welcome to the 21 century"
Everythings are deals with money, even you need to pee outside the house have been forced to use a public toilet. only 20cent

How to use tangan kanan...will it pancut many????

Since you mentioned you were graduated from university, wouldn't be the degree you got from your study will help you secure a better job in private sector?

trans

been there bro.. i know how u feel.. it was just last month

all you know by time you go show off, she married a doctor and drive a BMW

kena 2X depression, dun play with woman, they can overnite become millionaire

consider yourself lucky because she left you before you get married. find another one which is not so money minded

maybe ts grade is just average or less general knowledge during an interview?

soli for ur lose

hmm, TS, no worries, just work hard......forget abt the past and move on ler, i am sure u can find a better one, gals with money minded thinking wont go far one..

when i say success, i mean out-do the guy that take away his gf. hahaha.
he is a millionaire, be a billionaire!

but never ever want her back even if she wanna be with u....once a girl leave a guy for material, they will leave again for material

sad world we are living in...

It's hell having this kind of girl as gf/wife.

yea yea.... prove to her tat she is wrong!!

人又老， 钱又无， 老婆又走路

Anyway, life move on. Don't always linger onto your past.

move on
no point to sad for this type of girl

life goes on bro, i'm studying in a private school now, the girls there like money eventhough their bf damn kao yong shui, money will be everything

Cut your kuku, be a trans and find a richer man.

Then flaunt in front of her.

Dear Ts,

I think you should focus on your career right now. I imagine that your lack of good job and lack of opportunities must be tearing your confidence down. It becomes an extra thing that your ex had to cope with.

Also, love is important but so is money. Why? Well, so you and your gf/wife will not have to argue about money all the time. Girls want financially stable men because they don't want to suffer every month from the lack of cash. They want to know that if they marry the guy, their children will not have to starve and their life will not be lacking of necessities.

Love turns sour when 1 argues too much about the same thing and money is a gigantic cause to arguments.

So for now, just work, seek opportunities and so forth. Asking a poor person to cope with being a rich guy is hard. Asking a rich person to cope with a poor partner is practically impossible. they are used to luxuries.

girl are materistic even they admit they are not..
you get them something expensive, they treat you like hero..
you get them somethting cheap, you get nothing ...

Not all, especially me.

wonder how u can be jobless for a year .... addicted to something ?

not all girls are materialistic
probably coz she was exposed to wealthy environment/frens
sooner or later, they will want more, they will nid more

its just reality....
just let her be a reminder for u to move forward
excel in ur career
may not have to be rich
but at least make ur life a better one financialy
one day, prove to her right in her face that u got wat it takes to succeed!

your parents cheat u, ur the one who useless.

can''t blame her for wanting to find stability in life.. i suppose you guys are at the age of settling down... but.....

she has been seeing someone even when you two are still together...
ever wondered where she went or wat she did with the other guy?

you are considered lucky to be able to see her true face before u are married...
you might still wan to linger on yr sadness and past... but it will only bring u harm...

cherish yrself.. only you and only u can save yrself...
take a moment and think for yrself... wat do you have to lose if u live yr life without her?

5 years from now, she sits at home
feeding the baby, she's all alone
she turns on tv, guess who she sees
skater boi rocking up mtv


*

dude, you took 1 year to get a job? and that time economy wasn't even bad...

Love also need $$$ to maintain 1,nothing is free under the sky!

without $$$,gal will look down on u at all times!

without $$$,a love relation will nvr last long.

There is no gals will say this word to their bf "I dun mind to eat roti everyday & share any burden with u,as long as both of us can b together" (In movies/dramas got la)

Every girls are materialistic, but it depends, some are like that because they are realistic too...

Love is just like a set of wheels, you need money to maintain one...

haha, modern days cannot like that
in the ancient days only can. can still grow own vege and breed chickens.

put this on your mind,

women are only good for sex
women are only good for sex
women are only good for sex

you'll be fine.

fong sau .. fong hoi soh yao!!

This post has been edited by AhS4b: Feb 19 2009, 05:12 PM

Hopefully most guys will wake up and realized that girls are a peace of assets for you to invest as well.

Well they're old saggy and ugly, dump them for a new one too.

time to move on lol...when you are in diff stage is not talk about love only , material , security all is put into consideration

move on ..get better to show her what u're capable

TS,

i have been married for more than 9 yrs...believe me the problems that always.. is "money"

She want somebody with good or stable financial status and job...

My advise is ....update yourself...

Move on ...find other girlfriend....

Find truth love... Hidup & Senang Bersama

If your job is a problem, did you try other means of making more money? Did you try looking for other jobs?

A girl doesn't just leave because the bf has no money. She will leave when the bf is comfortable at where he is now. That means, he doesn't do anything to improve his situation. He does not put in more effort for his own good.

You must know your gf has a job too. She comes from a better family than you. Do you think she needs to depend on some guy? She needs someone who has self-respect and dignity for himself.

money talks, bullsh!t walks.

Girls wan money, guys wan beauty.

SO girls, keep up your beauty always. ho ho ho.

I seen many of them during my college days until now!

As for me,I will nvr fall bcos of women! I will nvr ever repeat like those happened in history such as:

-Helen of Troy : The face who launched a thousand ships
-Samson & Delilah
-Mark Anthony & Cleopatra
-吕布与貂婵

This post has been edited by b3rnard7: Feb 19 2009, 05:20 PM

yeah... campaign against the woman

excellent insight. TS should reflect on that.
there's nothing more of a turn off to a lady than to see her man comfortable just having enough and not motivated to achieve more in life.
when your parents say she is useless, do they mean that because she's not willing to strive with you?
as a man, you are to marry this woman. you are to bring her into your family.
as a girl with a decent background, imagine her situation if she had to struggle not only to survive with you, but to contribute to your parents expenses too. is that fair for her?

That's why parents always say don't pak toh while still young. Some might not know what they want yet, until later, until they are grown ups and know what they want.

She has changed, and one of the human feature is we can change!! Can't blame her, no one blame you too. Things are just not meant to be.

But I think she has grown up, while you still not yet.

yes, people change. what they liked before, may not be what they like now. and what they want before, may not be their want now. that's how life is.

it seems to me that you're stuck in a moment, and you're not getting out of it. and sad to say, she's moved on. however, i'm sure this didn't happen overnight, and must have been a buildup of things between you two. what really happened, only you know. but the important thing for you is to move forward.

key word: move forward
tips: don't wallow in self pity

Move on TS. There are many women in this world, like grains of seeds. There are many to pick on, just you have to know which is compatible with you. Try to change your environment, that will give you a good start. Think positive.

dam...i was eating spaghetti when i readed this post...i laugh like hell dam u....

TS, u more strong than me even my relationship juz 2 months...u still able to joking in tis moment, but i unable to do it... now.. i juz trying to separate my attention with work n study...

go out and sell karipap and earn more than RM2000 a month garantee

money > girls. You forgot this before going to date.

ur avatar spoiling my mood...

Agreed

TS, start revenge by getting yourself a honour .Work hard, save money and show off your new no money minded gf. OK?

Or don't move on, if it is not your pace. Since you only just broke up, maybe there is still hope if both of you are meant to be together.

But definitely grow up, upgrade, MOVE UP your level. Don't blame her for her family background. No matter how good is her background, she has to put in the EFFORT herself. You cannot force knowledge into her, or pour wisdom into her.

She had the chance, the opportunity, and she also had the means to be better and she made used of all that is available to her. So ask, why didn't you? Why did you only focus on non-important things, and now time wasted, money wasted. Ah moi also lari.

Good news is, it is never too late to realize and to change. Maybe after you have move up your level, you'll find that you actually like other types of girls, and not her.

Good luck.

aiyo, when you got gf, this kind of money u had to standby liao, if not , later sure kena teruk.

i agreed with u but the last sentence i was strongly disagreed to u , it was like children fighting each other n revenge, dun think too childish thing, positive minded, take ur effort and invest to the others...

good thing she dump u.
else u will suffer for the rest of your life for this money sucker

TS, stay strong. I believe someone is out there who will love you for who you are, not how much you earn

earn $ time...
when evy1 is retrenched... time to earn more $$$$$

so eventualy u become rich faster...
lolx

Quoted : Warren Buffet

nah, I just want to cheer him up. most post quite serious. hehe

later u joking, he really think seriously, =.=" if he did something wrong... u bear the result ah =.="

Haihz this type of girls not worth it la..In fact..ALL MATERIALISTIC girls aren't worthwhile. I don't care who I offend. My ex-gf was one and was I glad I got dumped by her. Seriously, things could be a blessing in disguise = ) Cheer up dude, not end of the world. If she's being a cancer in your life, well, you know what to do with cancers la.

On the other hand if she really loves you..sorry "loves" you then I think it maybe the time to say goodbye. Go listen to Bon Jovi's Living on a Prayer la..And yeah, there's still hope k? Don't give up, I know it's hard to move on, but when you do, that shift in momentum will be great and before you know it, you'll be at the top of the world again. = )

Don't give up! The world's just seeing how hard you can take a hit, show that you can take one and get back up again. Cheerz..

tought luck mate, not all girls are dumb.

If the story is end, ENDED.
Still have many girls in this world, make it in to other episode.

hahaha...

u mean money is larger than sex?

or money = sex?

get over her TS, she's not worth u seeing doc n taking pills every nite,
wht's the point being sad for someone that's in love with ur $$$ n not u??

some gals like fame rather than love TS, im studying in private too, i know how it's like

she's like a tumor, and tumor grows into cancer. i'm glad you've cut it off.

Move on friend, other girls even prettier, cheer up k

when u are hard working so can earn more $$

she will complain that you dont have time for her,
u always neglect her,so she look for some1 else

if u dont work hard where got $$.

more time for $$ sure less time for gf

which 1 u choose

rileks la bro...bunga bukan sekuntum...u'll find ur perfect match...and being rich does not bring hapiness what...

Cant deny dat there are alot of b**** act like this nowaday,wat u can do now is be a player.

she grew up
u havent
its time

She is a b****......its good she should her true colours before anything could happen

so forget about her......and work on ur work ....you will get someone...

materialistic girl...dump her!!

maybe one dae i also will be de same case as u bro....no worries.. juz leaved her... maybe she will realize dat u treated her gud when she break wit u

Sorry to hear about this.

Be strong and get through this.

you should be glad. single life is the ultimate freedom. plus u get more chance to date many other girls and take your own sweet time to pick... especially girls younger than you. and you can go out with a few other girls at the same time! plus you're no longer answerable to anyone for your whereabouts.

so what if and when THE NEED arises? well, there's always...

Ann-flatable, Ann-visible and Ann-Job!

-Guru Pitka

i dont want to do that to my wife..

but for TS gf kind girl..will be my pleasure..

@TS..
actually Rm2K++ and live at kuching already stable..
just ur x-GF is damn material..she wants more..humans never satisfied easily when they have the chance to grab more do they?

thats why whenever girls ask my about my job..my answers will be either office-boy or security guard..to drive that type of girl away..

In this world, only the strongest survives.

be single now..
work harder and get higher better post then earn bigger better money..
get a super leng lui gf when u're rich andden show her how capable u are..

anyway, move on with life.. she's not the only girl in malaysia..
i'm sure u'll find someone better..