Man, I understand how you feel. 4 years of relationship .... it is long dude, very long. Me myself, the longest is my current relationship which almost 2 years, and she had me bonded for life ...

My previous relationship does not longed for a year, cause if I found that she is money minded (material type) then I will straight away CUT! Say sorry, but I am not suitable for you. I cannot afford a girl who always want me to buy her expensive bag, dine her at expensive restaurant, which in the long run hurt ourself. But we remain as friend, we do go out when we travel in group.

Hope that helps.