TS, take these to ur heart.
QUOTE(layoff @ Feb 19 2009, 05:25 PM)
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excellent insight. TS should reflect on that.
there's nothing more of a turn off to a lady than to see her man comfortable just having enough and not motivated to achieve more in life.
when your parents say she is useless, do they mean that because she's not willing to strive with you?
as a man, you are to marry this woman. you are to bring her into your family.
as a girl with a decent background, imagine her situation if she had to struggle not only to survive with you, but to contribute to your parents expenses too. is that fair for her?
QUOTE(n8210 @ Feb 19 2009, 06:25 PM)
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But definitely grow up, upgrade, MOVE UP your level. Don't blame her for her family background. No matter how good is her background, she has to put in the EFFORT herself. You cannot force knowledge into her, or pour wisdom into her.
She had the chance, the opportunity, and she also had the means to be better and she made used of all that is available to her. So ask, why didn't you? Why did you only focus on non-important things, and now time wasted, money wasted. Ah moi also lari.
Good news is, it is never too late to realize and to change. Maybe after you have move up your level, you'll find that you actually like other types of girls, and not her.
QUOTE(kslee79 @ Feb 19 2009, 10:20 PM)
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In most surveys and research, ladies can put up with lack of financial security from their men with on thing in exception. That she must observe that you, work hard, and take additional remedial steps to improve your finances, meaning if you take night class or get a second job; it calms their nerves to see you work hard to earn a better future for the both of you.
In summary, what girl needs from guys: affection, conversation, honesty, financial support and family commitment.
Added on February 19, 2009, 10:22 pmThere's a saying that, 'Water flows towards down streams; People climb towards uphill'.. (translation from chinese)
It's d nature of mankind to keep improving in d history of evolution. Otherwise how did mankind evolve from brushing stones to using matches, in order to get a fire ? If mankind stick to their old ways of doing things, then mankind would not have wat all those invention n technologies exist until this century.
Change is d only things that will not change. It's d matter of whether u change for better, or, for worse.
Wat happened in ur case oledi happened, n u can no longer change it; so looking back is of no point, in a sense that it will not bring u anywhere further in ur life. But at d same time, looking back has a point that u could learn a lesson for u not to repeat d same flaws in d days to come.
So move forward. Life can only be understood backward, but must be lived forward.
This link, i guess, would give u more insights as to wat d essense of life is about :-
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/757079/+280 
Feb 20 2009, 12:24 PM
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