Me and 2 of my friends are now 24 and we still don't have / never had a gf before. Do you guys/girls think this could be a problem or do we still have lots of chances in the future? According to some people, girls nowadays are starting relationships early, around during school days 16-18 age and by the time we, 24 -25 age meet them in their 21-24, they're already taken and are in a stable relationship. Do you guys/girls think this is true?

Some girls commented that the 3 of us are a group of too 'husband-looking' guys and girls at 20s do not like to go out with us because we don't like parties/clubbing that much. We are those honest types of guys where, in the outside might look boring (because we dress normal and not very attractive) and girls say that we might get our love only around 30s because that's when girls finally find guys with our character to secure a future. What do you girls/guys think on this issue?

Do give me some feedback on this.

you are actually right, so get out from that boring life and enjoy, you've got only one life, its your choice, go F around some girls, let me tell you, i am only 20 and i have screwed more than 7 chicks... what about you?? think about it...

go clubbing more

But we don't like clubbing at all. I don't know if what I heard is true but according to a lot of girls, they say that they like playful guys more in their 20s and that's why we're still eating 'white-fruit'. However my main concern is, is it too late for guys at 24 to begin having first loves and all or we don't even get chances because girls at these times should already being taken?

life only once... effort for it

wah...................

whats wrong taken girls?

are there not up for grabs anymore?

let me tell you.. some attached girls are actually just waiting for mr right or their dream prince charming( better guys ) to rescue them

From what experiences we got, all attached girls stay stable to their current bf no matter how not right they are. One of my friends that I mentioned, got too close to a girl and when he showed intention of furthering, the girl immediately told her bf about it and the bf came and told him off. How sad he was, looking at how both of them are suitable with each other. This makes me think that getting girls nowadays is a game of first come first served.

yalor....1st come get 1st ....so now day need to booked fast fast ,expectualy the pretty girlsss

And I seriously doubt a taken/attached girl will wait for a Mr Right. I myself tried to see see if some of my female friends that are taken is interested in me or not, and the result was, eventhough their bf might not be the right one, they are satisfied from whom they chose and might not choose again in a short period.

if you really wanna score...go hit the clubs, and don't say no just because you don't like it...

if you really wanna look for a proper suit...well...i can't tell you how...but it's usually with those people whom are already in your circle of friends (or at least, some people whom you are able to have communication with)

This post has been edited by LostWanderer: Oct 4 2009, 09:01 PM

Damn,after reading this thread,i beginning to worry about myself.

STDs

hey dude... m 30 n yet no gf.. cheer up dude.. don't feel sad.. u can pay to get girls.. )

nop .. it's not true. Certain percentage may be only. For me myself, i'm owned but i'm still waiting for the Mr. Right to come for the rescue.

Yeah, according to some surveys I read of Malaysian/Singaporean girls and guys and they are hitting on me and my friends hard.

One survey said that girls today are normally taken by age 18 so school is the only probable place a guy can score first love. - We're out already long time

Another said that girls often choose playful guys during their early 20s and when they are done playing, they might find homey guys for future plans. - This is so hurting me

One more said that it is impossible to hit on attached girls because girls are normally true to their relationships. They will never betray their partner even if the partner is not their Mr. Right. They will wait for their other halves to change and they shape them to what they deem fit them at that point of time. - So saddening, since I always had crush on attached girls.

And the above are so true looking at current conditions now, and I am feeling worried because most people asked me, "What? You're looking for first love now? You must be joking, you should had a couple in school days already".

I have some male friends (aged 30s) haven't had a relationship, too.

how old r u,Cheesenium???

mid 20's?

Ok,so,you mean non-clubbing,more carrier focused,non playboy guys have absolutely no chance to get attached now?

What happen to the be yourself bit? Or everyone just has to be a guy who goes to club to get drunk and shit to get attached?

ok dude. I'm gonna tell u what you need to do first and foremost. You seem to have very good hing tai but really you guys are what is holding yourselves back. You need to branch out and meet girls yourselves. Quit hanging out with each other every other day and go out and meet ppl on your own.

Sure you guys can meet up like once a week to hit the gym (Pls do this together and motivate each other to keep going to the gym) but having that safety net (ie your friends) is what is keeping you from taking the leap of faith and pursuing girls. I know this because when I was in secondary I had a very good bunch of hing tais. We were like brothers and because we always had each other we never courted girls. When I went off to college and they stayed and did form 6, I got my first gf.

Well, this is what a lot girls are saying. In their 20s, they like guys who can teman them to go clubs/pubs and bla bla so I am feeling the pinch already.

21.

Still in uni.

Not very far off from TS.

This post has been edited by Cheesenium: Oct 4 2009, 09:15 PM

It's not that we don't go out and meet girls. We do. In college, I get to meet girls that I liked but what they said hurt me. One of them ignored me when I showed small signs of advancements. I tried to talk to her and she just doesn't respond. Another one is even worse, saying that I am a boring guy to begin with because I don't go to clubs and I never went to interesting places like discos and pubs. She even went to gay bars before.

If go clubbing is the sole solution then heck, I am not gonna lie to myself, I rather stay single.

Are you looking for the right girls? If you're always chasing hot chicks well you have to have at least 4 or 5 of the the following "C"s
1) cash/credit card (ada wang ada amoi)
2) condo (you live on ur own, also relates to the saying above)
3) car (ada wang ada amoi)
4) confidence (looks)
5) charm and charisma

Do you have 4 or 5 Cs?

No, they weren't even considered hot chicks. They got close to me as friends and I tried to see whether if there's an opening for me. These words came out and I was like, WTH, a homey-guy is now left behind in chasing girls? A guy who sleeps mostly at 11pm/12am at nite is not considered as eligible bachelor anymore? This is just sick.

I beginning to think TS is going on the wrong crowd.

I will not accept those who like to go to gay clubs.Something is wrong.

Perhaps it's something with the gals nowadays.

uni boy no need to worry abt ladies la...go study la...

gay clubs??
no need to go to that extreme la...

No la. They just said that going to clubs, discos and pubs are fun but to me, those places are just plain noisy. They said they can dance and release their stress there and I told them no, I get more stressful there and they began to despise me as a non-clubber.

you're mixing with the wrong crowd lah... go meet some nice homey girls lah

Okay....

Okay,so i study now and end up like TS 3 years after with a thread like this?

This post has been edited by Cheesenium: Oct 4 2009, 09:28 PM

then it is their (face) problem. I have my ways to release stress, it is not compulsory for me to club.

Clubbing seal is more benefit than clubbing itself.

homey guy + wild girl = girl

Homey guy + homey girl = guy girl

wild guy + homey girl = girl

maybe the ladies that u've met are the more playful ones.
i'm pretty sure there are lots of other ladies out there who are more laid back and homely.
i dont like clubbing. and i would prefer my other half to be a non-clubber as well.

No.

Smart persons know how to balance and weight his life and study. It doesn't mean a student have to stay at home all time just for study.

yeah...you dont have to follow what other ppl do to score chicks...
there are many other ways to meet and mix with the opposite sex



kan ada famous quote ni-ada wang ada ah moi lor

This post has been edited by vivienne85: Oct 4 2009, 09:31 PM

True but however the homey girls I met were the taken ones. That left me no choices at all. The homey girls that I liked were normally very true to their bfs and one even said that she and the bf mengkaji for sometime, around a year before starting an official relationship.

Dude, stop making a thousand and one excuses for not having the balls to date women.

Why not just hit the pause button ?

Stop looking.

This post has been edited by Fatimus: Oct 4 2009, 09:33 PM

mengkaji??

study/revision/anything related to education

but that mengaji

She said she and her bf also first timer, and they waited for some time to understand each other fully like a year only they started as official couple. This girl is actually a good girl and homey type but I was late.

To be honest,im pretty much the same as you. Clubs are noisy like hell with sucky music,unless they have Apparat or some Europeon DJs.Typical Malaysian clubbing music is shit.Cant dance at all. Shots taste like the worst medicine ever. I do consider myself as non-clubber and i rarely go clubbing. Even if i go,i'll find way to enjoy myself like talk to some friends and have some beer at the same time.

If you dont like clubbing,dont go then. No one is forcing you. The more i read,the more i think that you are with the wrong crowd. I really doubt every single girls out there is a clubber.

not all single girls are clubbers...

Well, not every but around 90% girls at 20+ age seems to be like this. I did meet with girls who doesn't like clubbing but then again, these girls are too overly homey. Asking them out for lunch before classes is like impossible.

damn true,i know a guy who loves clubbing and his gf hates clubbing.

It didnt go well.

I know,and thats the reason i run for Honorary Secretary for a society next year. I cant just spend my entire uni in a room,except 4th year.

Now,i just hope i can get that post.



Money isnt the only factor that have an impact on whether a relationship work or not.

+1

haih....got girls who are between in 1 la...not too homely and not the clubbing type...

Yes,i do realise that.

No offence,just like hawkie say,you are making up thousands of reasons for not going for a girl.

This post has been edited by Cheesenium: Oct 4 2009, 09:42 PM

btw, I actually found my true love, right miss left ?

And is there a probability to find one so perfect? I am still searching but till now, I never met a girl in between like this but if I could, I might try provided she's not taken, since my record on taken girls, failed 100%.

Yeah,i know she's your true love.

She awesome.Always manage to fulfil your specific needs.Right?

well, of course there are girls which don't like clubbing
there are obviously guys which don't like clubbing as well

if you really want a shortcut to learn the way a relationship "works", get to a club, try to open someone there...and things may happen...(of course, you need to have the charismatic speech and a loud voice to do so as malaysian clubs are dam noisy...LOL)

you are giving yourself quite a few reasons to not get a "proper" gf...try to be less self-aware and just enjoy yourself with the people you know...and have the energy in your speech and be fun to be around people...while communicating, try to tap one another..."act" angry and see how another reacts...kinda fun too you know...?=)

physical probs? pics pls

I bet you don't even go out and meet girls... and you pre-judge them too often. How are you ever going to meet a girl that fits your criterias? Heck, even if you do find one that suits you, what makes you think a girl like that will want you? All I can see from you, is that you're a hopeless guy who expects things to be handed to him on a silver platter. Hoping a girl will just magically fall for you, cause you like her.

she is kinky

It's not like I am not enjoying this life. My parents are always saying that when I get out to work, I'll surely find the right one but friends out there are saying the opposite. Who to believe? I myself am really afraid that I may end up like a single poor old man.

thats your problem. You think you're high and mighty be so picky yet complaining y no gf. =.=

You told me that already.

D1u... stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it. GO STUDY HARD AND BE A MILLIONAIRE!

This post has been edited by B@rt: Oct 4 2009, 09:52 PM

OMG. you rather listen to ur friends then learning how to accept. If you stop listening to ur frens who prejudged that girl, mayb u cud have a stable relationship.

Where ye balls? It ain't gonna get anywhere if you're containing it. A lil kick here and there IS okay and meant to be...at least you'd get somewhere!

So nuff with the excuses and act like a man!


Cheers

nahh.. not true. i'm in my 20s and i'm single. and i still like 'tame' guys too.. so no problem at all. there are still so many ladies out there who are like me.

maybe going out once in a while can get you lady friends to start with~

have u ever thought of spannaring? hahaha

since some ppl said that some attached gals are awaiting their prince charm to rescue them from the inferno

but beware though, spannaring is quite risky in many cases, who knows u could have spannared a gal from a taiko

This post has been edited by dattebayo: Oct 4 2009, 10:09 PM

Ah,how tame do you want?

too tame is bored

be careful Redblaque. "Tame" guys might seem tame to you but when they go in the bedroom they either:

1) finish too fast because they can't believe they're doing it with a girl and not their hand, or
2) do some weird kinky stuff that they saw on disk 568 of their 100,000 porn CD collection

and yeah I'm a "tame" guy

This post has been edited by B@rt: Oct 4 2009, 10:17 PM

I know some tame looking guy that is completely different on bed.

that's why dont judge a book by its cover

This post has been edited by vivienne85: Oct 4 2009, 10:24 PM

Who says 'tame' guys will have so big a collection of porn stuffs? I am a tame guy and I seldom watch any.

As for spanaring, I don't think that works for a couple of reasons:
1) If you can spanar a girl from one guy, who knows someone else might come spanar her from you again later?
2) Most girls don't like a guy friend to spanar her from their bfs. Once they notice something is wrong with your behaviour, they will immediately cut contact from you and it's dangerous.
3) Spanaring is not ethical. Who knows the girl might be having problems with the guy and the guy is on his way to recovery and there you go snatching away what he's trying to fix. I pity the guy because the same incident might happen to me, it's like a cycle.

Hahahhahahah.

Damn true.

You can come out with thousands of reasons why you are still single,unless you stop thinking so much,you'll still be single.

No offence TS, but i can sort of understand your situation here, whereby i can say i'm completely in your shoes(just that i might be slightly better in terms of the experience) but your doubt here won't do you any good be it Physically or Mentally(actually esspecially mentally). What you need to do, is just Ignore it and focus on something else. E.g a Career?And with luck, you might just bump into one. But when that happens, don't let it pass you by

Good luck

Plenty of fishes in the seas, but they are grumpy got it from 500 days of summer.

oh noo.. now u guys scare me. i'm never gonna see "tame" guys the same way again.. lmao

i think doing it with ur hand and porn is normal. to finish fast is a complete turn-off, but if they can do kinky stuff when in bed, why not? not to the extreme, of course.

nahh.. sexual behaviours aside, for me these "tame" ones usually make you feel secured and calm inside.. "wild" ones can give you headache. maybe heartache.

so TS, i hope you be a gentleman and just be who you are. no need to change just for the sake of wanting to be in a relationship.. don't worry too much~

This post has been edited by redblaque: Oct 4 2009, 10:36 PM

alot of people are like that tho. It will be nice if everyone dont do it, but at the end, its still. ppl judge the books by its cover. :/

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Added on October 4, 2009, 10:37 pmYea, the msg.. Just be who you are !

This post has been edited by KVReninem: Oct 4 2009, 10:37 PM

I wouldn't say its "Judging a Book by its cover", but i would classify that as "First Impression"

For guys maybe.

But for most girls, the book cover is always nice.

Until you open it lol.

Not all books lar.

of cos nt all books lar...lol

haha ya...always concern abt the cover than the input

True but this is just to satisfy your lust

Girls in clubs normally are just for 1 nite stand....if you're aiming for long relationship type of gals, dont be choosy there are a lot of girls out there

Just build your self esteem and be positive

At least the title of the book MUST NOT BE BORING.

Then I'll go and open her.

...Open the book, I mean.

title of the book??

oops...title of a person?

Yeah the title.

It's okay if the cover looks bad, but if the title is something like:

"How to communicate effectively", I will simply turn away.

But if the title reads, "How to talk PROPERLY to PEOPLE, you piece of SHIT!!!!"

Then I'll be curious lol.

cos the latter one sounds more erm,aggressive and thought provoking?

Yeah what!

Plus, it's LESS boring lol.

Better still, teh girl do all the talking and I'll go uhuh, uhuh, uhuh.

Even when she has finished talking lol.

This post has been edited by Deadlocks: Oct 4 2009, 10:54 PM

Lol, my point is, I don't like BORING books lar.

point taken.

not a problem u can't fix~ go out and start meeting girls~ try bookstores, then shopping malls~

blardyhell, its a BIG issue... when d chics r ard 20s they F ard... n now they look for guys like u to settle down. its like ur d last option. apart frm dat, when those gals r ard 24-28, they slept wif how many guys d? if they r aftering u for security, they will chop u kow kow n u noe wut, u need 2 spent so much on a whore, n announce to d whole world dat she s ur wive, i rather spend RM50k n import a viet wive.

read more on david de angelo, YOU are the provider, not the man... at d end of the day, if u get dis kinda wife, they r more likely to cheat on you.

d world s not dat GLOOMY after all, if ur afraid of dis kinda chic, u can settle for kampung girl lo.. simple

actually(true fact)

Those who have relationships in their schooldays, wont have trouble getting into a relationship when they are older.

honestly, u just suck.

No no,im not talking about that "tame" on the you know where.

Im talking about the one that make one feel secured and calm.

Thats not good.

wah, i tot im too blunt... ur more blunt dat i am.....