Hello... Nice to meet you all... I have some doubt on how to woo this girl named A that I just met her few days back....

The Story goes like this... I met her last Saturday at Maxis fair... She approach me and introduce Maxis plan to me... I replied her that I applied long time already... Before this I notice her quite along time... I dont want to miss this chance to get to know her.. So I decide to get her hp number... Chating with her that time and finally I got her hp number... On the next day morning... I smsed her and said that I got something for her and ask her for a dinner if she wanted to.... So she agreed and we went out for a meet... At that time.. Im not so happy yet cause I think that she might bring along her bf since she want to meet me for dinner.... When we meet up... She came alone... Oh my god.. I was so happy... We get some place to eat and chit chat about everything... Almost reach 4 hours... I end up the session cause it is late at night... I was so excited that night cause she attracted me... and my mind keep thinking of her.... Next day morning... I smsed her again and chat until evening... How I going to woo this girl? Is sms and call the only way to mix with her..? I scare I sms her too much will get her realise that Im chasing her indirectly... Oh my god.... Help.... I dont have experience on this matter lerr.... Last few times I always fail on this kind of matter...

date her out more often lor, but not asking her out everyday laa..that's a bit desperate and scary, might freak her out. call her or sms her often..i think she's also interested laa..or else she wouldn't go out alone with you for the 1st time..

gambateh kudasai

Don't worry..she will let u know if u woo her directly...stay calm

u r edi wooing her wat.....

Sleep Together is another method to mix with her...
Gogog ts.....
U sure can....

wow wish u luck man... she actually agreed to come out with u... thats a good start

bah... u r already doing it... and u r jz here to showoff instead of asking advice... *fear the joining date*

wooooOOOOOoooOOOOOOooo~~~!

^ like tat?

Agreed...
From wat i see, u already 50% successful.
That is if she isnt a flirt biatch that goes out eventhough got bf already.

Yeah i think TS is asking how to get her on bed asap


p/s: i wonder why got girls so cheap open minded willing to give phone number to stranger.

I think to be able to get this far from just knowing her as explained, furthermore being able to go out with her and spending time with her that much. I dare say that you are heading towards the right direction. If she was not interested she would not have gone this far with you. Kudos and all the best!

Just relax and proceed as usual. As icyz says, do not rush it just let it go naturally... remember, there is such a thing as spending too much time together with a person.

I think you need not worry if what you write is true, you've got her!
let us know the outcome.

first thing first.... find out if she's got a (or a bunch) of bf or not

can post her photo here?

Because you confess too quickly? One thing to note, is she meeting you to pursue business opportunities? Keep that in the back of your mind before you get too happy...

melon wanna go for a date or not ... I am doing a bulk on this...

why must ask for ppl photo here
.....weird neh....

yeah .. find out more info about her ... see she have bf or not ...

Bro if ur first date last 4 hours and u dint find out she got bf or not, i feel you PHAIL'ed... I am sure you could have sneaked in the indirect question in that timeframe...

a picture of u and her will make this thread more intersting...
and we will help u judge by her look too.....haha

Hey.. Guys and girls... Thanks for your feedback....

I got ask her she got bf or not.. but she said dont want paktoh in the mean time... Concentrate on study and career is most important for her because having a relationship quite wasting time if her bf stick too much on her.... This is what she mention...

I got smsed her this morning to send my morning regards to her.... wait wait wait... luckily she got replied with a nice forward msg.... I scare that I sms her... She feel annoying then dont want to reply me.... I just sms her now... Haven get reply from her yet... Her reply sms may make my day de... Oh my god.... keep thinkning of her.. Suffering ;lerr..... Can you people tell me what to do next arr..? Especially for girls readers... What would you think and any suggestion from girls point of view....

You just found something rare in this world. glhf then.

Give her a little space bro. If you too often she will scared of you and then you become upgraded to Stalker oredi.

Take it easy a bit, she say duwant BF might also mean duwan YOU as BF, read your signals correctly.

Team, proceed with caution, PHAIL alert ...

What is glhf?

If u like her, say so and ask if she likes you. If she doesn't, there is nothing you can do other than throw money at her like a whore.

+u+u ganbate

good luck have f***.

just kiddding. good luck have fun

haha learned tat from games huh

well keep it slow and steady

That part is 100% BS , dont believe it that is what you call playing hard to get
what she means is she dont want any serious relationship yet. but dont mind casual dating

i can tell u i heard that statement b4, n after a few months she will have a bf already

remember she can make 180 turn and change her mind, by saying when fate comes cannot avoid it

so like every1 here says, take it nice n easy

all the best

good things are meant to be shared

change ur maxis rate plan!

hehe..just go on slow and steady man! dun sms her too much so that she does not feel as if u're pushing into it...

Yes, one of top 10 lame reasons a girl reject a guy
but slowly lar

-date her once a week (at least)

-CHat wif her thru online (MSN,YM and etc)

-Call her for pillow talk b4 u sleep.

then icyz u post out ur photos lo
hahaha
u said 1 ma
good things are meant to be shared <<<

No matter how much you miss her, you have to stop sms-ing her. She may just freak out. Very important advice, listen or regret.

good luck ts, u r halfway successful already

dont screw up from now on

but i'm not a hot stuff..nonit la..

u post out liao then we judge whether u hot or not ma
hahaha

http://www.hotornot.com/

How many points can u get?

i got 1..am i hot??

yeah find out more info bout her first......if she is clubbing type,she will most likely go out with anyone.......like last time i work part time , interested wit a gurl....but after i found out she is clubbing type....then i give up.......

good luck man......

1 also hot dy
so post out
hahaha

um ... thank you for not showing me ur pic
Its sad but addictive site, used to click thru thousands of pics

what's wrong with clubbers? still girls ma..hot stuffs

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Added on November 6, 2007, 10:29 pmar..u created that website to con for pictures???

This post has been edited by icyz: Nov 6 2007, 10:29 PM

LOL.....OWNAGE

lol bro just read the ladder theory. Google it, obviously she's lready putting you at her friends list. What your trying to do is ladder jump and it could be futile.

I would be honored if I came up with the hotornot idea.

I love clubbing gals. Nothing wrong to go out and shake ur booty a little. U think all clubbers are hoes ka?

If you have time to post these kind of crap to crumble people's confidence, you might as well spend the time doing something else like ... rub your manhood with a banana ...
That might make your wiser ... really

Wow.... So much reply already... Guys and girls ... thanks for your concern o....

Updates:

I just call up her... She is busy doing her stuff so sometimes she cant reply me... Just normal chat... I will try to date her this weekend... Will update you all about it ...

Patience is a virtue. Don't blow it.

GOOD luck Dude wish u all the best !!!

eehh~~ let her realize that u are chasing her lah. No need to hide.

sometimes you need to be realistic to achieve greater things in life.

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Added on November 7, 2007, 12:14 amthis method of courting usually you need to show your 'earning power'. if you drive a nice car, looks well groomed and display your status of artifact, your success percentage of kao lui is quite high.

Dating is always about playing the game and having it to your advantage and winning it.

This post has been edited by max_cavalera: Nov 7 2007, 12:15 AM

Yesterday night I msn chating with her... that time she is working... and then she said she gtg so I goodbye to her lorr.. After a while... I still saw her msn online... So I call her and ask whether she is still working or not... She said yes... and I remind her to off the msn when leaving...

I think I care too much on this tiny things de.... Yesterday night chit chat with my roommate.. They said dont always sms regarding of what are you doing larr... dinner already or not arr... This might make the girl frustrated if we are not so close de... They suggest to forward some meaningful msg to her... Once per day.... Just to keep her remind of me.... If can... sms at the same time.. So that she will used to it receive the msg at the same time.... How you all think arr..?

sms that ask what a person is doing, have dinner already and such are just lame. shows that you do not have substance to talk about. don't put on a "desperate" tag on you.

good luck

Yes =( I r loser

Yes, try not to sms too often asking those mini minor things. Will feel very 'farn'. Same like nagging, like her dad asking her whether she has taken her dinner and bla bla. Just tahan a bit at the moment. You're not her anyone yet, later she might feel as if you're stalking her. Then the situation might get even worse. Or as you said, sms her at a particular time each day.

so if no substance how to make substance ? la .. rourou , care to advice all the young innocents boys and girls ?


yeah, true but then some girls/guys like their "mate" to do that wor ..
i know its fan and also wasting money but in a way it shows you care mah...

yeah like at night, asking how was her day, but don't to often la.. must pancing pancing abit huh icyz

very true. i used to hope my ex would do the same, but he just never cared. even when i sms him, he would't reply. and that was after working hours..

i think i know how TS feels, but working time is meant for working. better dont disturb the other party so much. be professional maa..even when it comes to kau lui..

hahaha that have to come from within i guess... to be able to actually have conversations and not bombared the other person with one liner questions. but that's just me... i like it when my guy can communicate with me and have friendly, flirty battles of words. there are gals who like to be dominated as well. those are the ones who would annoying quote what their bf/husband says 24/7. very much depends on the kinda gal ts is interested in.

urghhh i hate sms-es... don't know how ppl can actually have conversations pressing on those tiny buttons on the damn mobile @_@ don't your fingers hurt??

wow that just blows man, at least when people sms you can just reply bz now call u later or something..
good for you now he's you ex.. at least you can find/be with better people who actually give a shit, by shit i mean care more..

but then working time can also sms a little bit la.. send jokes or what, make the other party happy.. de-stress a little but not too much until it becomes annoying.. maybe icyz should write a book..

dating the professional way by icyz or another book from table to bedroom, secrets of the trade..

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Added on November 7, 2007, 11:32 amhandphone's keypads are soft, just like breast implants hahahah lol

pardon my choice of words i'm cheery today seeing you all here..

yeah some girls don't like to sms they rather you call and chat on the phone..

This post has been edited by JinXXX: Nov 7 2007, 11:32 AM

dear jinxxx..i'm actually very free @ work and i can go multi-tasking. just that i do not wish to disturb my friends during working hours unless there's any emergency.

how i wish i can call him but dont dare to ask or his number..icyz is a shy girl, lol

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Added on November 7, 2007, 11:36 am
by the way, i prefer sms as i am to shy to talk, agagagaa

This post has been edited by icyz: Nov 7 2007, 11:36 AM

dear icyz.. i'm actually very free @ work, as i work on project basis , i'm also an avid multi-tasker, but i considered myself to be a "super-tasker", i don't wanna disturb my friends on msn as they are well busy with work ...

btw do you have his phone number? maybe u can sms him asking simple things first see how he respond lo...

oh i see, i also prefer sms for "first contact" basis, to gage them though the words they use, how the express... so that i know i won't be acting stupid of silly in front of them when i meet them..

i dont have. dont think i have the guts to ask. i seldom ask for guys' numbers. not my style?

well true true also, maybe you can change your style a little bit..
maybe you have the thought/impression if you ask a guys hp means you like or is attracted to him...
maybe thats why you dont ask..

maybe you should at last think , let's be friends first, and keep in touch if its ment to be by fate and destiny and guided by god then we will be together if not let's be friends and enjoy each other's company and jokes..

no they're not.. at least not mine.. maybe i should get the guys to buy me a new one

hrm.. i can understand when some ppl prefers to msn and sms because they're shy.. but once you asked the person out for a date you should be comfortable enough with each other to have real life conversation? what dissappoints me is that guys who seems to be witty online can turn up to be such duh when you actually meet them.

true true.. you must understand.. online in the virtual world we don't need to worry about facial expressions which actually gives people the shyness feeling..

in the real world its different.. lucky i'm not that kind of person.. maybe on the 1st or 2nd i meet people in real life but later on when i accept them into my database then i'm who i am.. online .. offline.. middleline.. no line..

aiyoyo... it's early to put feelings into her. Give yourself maybe another 6 months or so to know her as a friend. Treat her as you would u treat you usual friends . You don't sms you usual friends asking him/her whether finish working or eaten dinner already right?

The fact that she bother to reply your sms and msn means she already have a good impression of you. Don't blow it. Spread your effort like butter. Call her maybe once in 2-3 weeks?. Maybe date her once in 1-2 months. The rest of the time, study/work and play hard. Your life doesn't revolve around her.

Usually, don't put feelings in a girl unless she put feelings into you first. This is because, girls are slower to like guys. They take a long time to 'warm up' and takes a long time to 'warm down'.
Guys are the opposite. So be patience.


Continue like this and you will ended up like the guy who 'stalks' icyz.

Avoid disappointment. PM me for details.

hahaha.. you can save yourself a lot trouble by getting a temporary prepaid hp number and ask that guy to call you to chit chat. The benefit is tremendous, such as:

1) Save yourself a lot of time from typing. Talking is faster.
2) Faster for you to judge his confidence. No chance for him to 'correct' his msn/sms message before sending.
3) His tone and speech tell a lot of about himself.
4) Just throw away the prepaid card if he starts stalking you.

Of course, if you are interested to know more, PM me for details (just like vey99)..hahha!!

This post has been edited by hyperweb: Nov 7 2007, 12:18 PM

Rourou is old timer, need to join forces to tackle her. The force is strong in this one. I need to use the power of Darth VEYder to win.

To the gals,
If want to play chatting, please use a 2nd mobile line.
Don't expose ur on privacy by giving strangers/new friends your real number.
Never tell them where you work/study.
If meet also in public place.
Do not let them offer to pick you up/drop you home.

Play safe.

Yalorr.... I shouldnt be so desperate... Just treat her as normal friend 1st... When get close enough to each other... Then only I chase her.... Should be like this... Thanks guys and girls...

exactly, spend more time knowing each other to see if you guys are really compatible. things that come fast will end even faster.

cool way to go....

One thing that i can share with you just in case you experience it.

Some gals are attention seekers. When they sense that they are not getting enough attention from you, they will try to throw 'hints' to you to mess you up. Here are some classic examples these type of ppl would do:

1) Send those cute sms to you. These sms has words like 'missing you', ' you brighten my day', 'thinking of you' and all sorts of nonsense. Usually these sms are those type that are mass forwarded and not a personal message.

2) Keep calling you 3-4 times a day says that she is bored.

3) Share dramatic stories about her life with you. Usually those stories are similar you see in those korean drama.


If you ever responded to her hint start starts giving attention to her again, she will then will withdraw herself from you. She will repeat this cycle when she thinks it is necessary to continue to get attention.


I'm not sure about you, most of my friends (including me) experienced it many years ago. So, it's best to avoid falling into this type of trap.

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Added on November 7, 2007, 10:08 pmhahaha....you seems to be tackling all the gals in this forum...may the force be with you...


This post has been edited by hyperweb: Nov 7 2007, 10:08 PM

good start always end up with success ... 80% success

dats the way to go.

I don't press on buttons to type sms on my phone. I tap on the screen. heheheh

lanci ppl are not very well liked you know

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Added on November 9, 2007, 11:16 amhahahah good for you.... i like ppl who's the same online..and no line

such an opportunistic you are...

nah.. too much trouble... it's easier to scream to that person to fark off!

This post has been edited by rourou: Nov 9 2007, 11:16 AM

I'm not asking to be liked

But you like me anyways, hehehee

lanci!!! tapi wa suka

You're a rare one then, most girls don't like me. hahahah

i find you interesting.. i like interesting guys... and i don't need to act all polite and ladylike with you.. i can just be as crude as you are

fat fingers hard to type

no wonder i've never gotten sms from you

You better be careful, I like crude women. Like Xena the Princess Warrior.

i nv have ur number... u think i psychic meh?

Just call her occasionally and bring her straight for dates la... bring her to some fun places. y sms all day long?

Latest Update:

Last Saturday... I went to The Curve find her... That time, she having lunch time... So when I came to her working place... I cant find her.... Wait wait wait for so long time... Finally meet her... She is window shopping that time... She was so surprise when I was there... And then we chat quite some times and I pass a souvenier to her that I bought from Melaka... Just a simple bookmark... Anyway... I had date her for a meet a Sunway Pyramid on Monday night for matter and she agreed. The gathering session end up by her friend ask her to accompany her to shopping... So we left....

Sunday night, she call up me saidthat she might bring her friend too when meet up with me... Since the time quite time for you.. So I suggest that we meet up next time and I dont want her to rush here and there... So she said ok... After that... We chat alot of things... End up she received a call and she said she will call me back.... After a while I received a sms from her said that she extremely tired and she want to rest already.. chat next time and make the appointment again for next time...

From the 2 incident above, I think she treat me as a friend and do not have any feel that will lead her to avoid me.... How you all think arr..? What should I do for the next step...?

The next step. Invite her out for something casual. A drink, a movie, a makan or anything to get to know her better.

Just continue doing what you are doing. Treat her nicely. You are doing fine.
Ask her out for a few more time and then just let her know that you find her to be very attractive. Then say that you will be very happy if you can have her as your gf. I think honesty is the best policy for you especially for a newbie.

advice go slow don't move to fast and go slow on the call and sms don't make urself too desperate. Cool and smooth. Girls like it if you don't rush get to know her and let her get to know you better. gud luck

This post has been edited by akupalau: Nov 13 2007, 10:18 AM

Thanks for the guidance... guys and girls ... I will gambateh lorr... Will update you if there is any progress... thanks.. ^^

Never get needy. Mix up your signals .

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you're obviously not attraactive enough,thats why she only see you as a normal friend after so many outing. If me, go out 1 time she already beg to be my gf. And on the 2nd night she already on my bed.

hmm for me i think it's a good sign , not? cus i think being ur fren is good enough for a start...atleast she nvr rejects ur calls/invitation n she does call u / sms u...ganbate ya TS

Actually i do not agree with what you have done to woo her. I mean, what r u waiting for?. If u r waiting for so long, she will eventually lost interest on u and it the end u 2 r just 2 good friends. Ask her out for a date and try hinting to her tat this is a serious date or direct tell her u r dating her. If she accept it..voila u haf a gf...if she reject, at least u dun waste lots of time on her just to woo her or waste money to buy her things. Time is money and honey, so when the good time had pass, u will eventually lost ur chance