Thanks for all the replies all.

I know everyone is divided on how I should deal with this. Anyways had a chat with her after I came back from work yesterday and she just brush the topic away and said its not discussable as the dye has been cast.

Oh well...

my last post in this thread, how hngh is yr wife? 1-5, 5 is max

Why does that matter when she’s older than him by few years and he’s in mid 30s. Max also milf but she’s never looking as good as in her mid 20s. Personality is what matters 40 and onwards.

If she 5/5 in mid 20s, then will be 4/5 in early 30s, 3/5 in late 30s. Depending on the girl also la -> some age even quicker.

What u do can make 30k net a month?

Hello everyone,

Just a gist of it, I am paying for the house loan, the utilities & groceries (milk & diaper for my baby) and my bring home pay is around 30k per month & the Mrs is bringing home around 5k a month.

We had a fight this month and she exploded saying she doesn't get any money from me & her colleagues husbands all "put money in their purses when they see its empty".

I am reluctant to give because majority of the money I make goes to my son's education via investments & I do not expect her to chip in at all for the maintainance of the family well being.

Am I the asshole?

And what does It leave me? I cook everyday after coming from work. I do my laundry. I wash the plates. I hired a nanny for my son & is with me at my clinic everyday.

So how is it that she makes me feel like I'm not doing enough?

Has to be both spouse

So many people always say happy wife happy life

WTF happen to the HB, its like they never existed

90k wedding, pay for everything, TS has a role of house husband, TS is also the mother of the child. Wanna compete with the "husbands of wife's friends" to give allowance for free (nothing in return from her - no positive change). Who is the real champion? The guy who makes probably 10k per month and doesn't give free monthly allowance (pampers wife once in a while), splits the chores with the wife, wife gives decent piap or the guy who makes 20k per month + /k min salary, no piap, no chores done, no take care of child but...happy wife happy life HAHA 

Seriously in what age now a days people think that marrying young is good. I am just 28 years old and my girlfriend is 31 years old and we been only together for two years. I went to her house just now and my girlfriend told me her parents are saying why does it seem like he isn't planning for the future? we both had a huge argument and I drove off without saying good bye and she slammed the door.

what the fuck? with this shit economy its been years since I took a long vacation to go for travel from my clinic, I hardly go out these days and everything I can save I try to save. sometimes I need to think twice buying pizza for myself as I need to save up for my future.  i have a fucking house ready and yet to them it seems like I am not seriously growing up.

who here is getting the same shit? sorry for the rude words. I'm just so angry.

men are born with burden of performances, regardless of feminism brainwashed on fellow females.

I opened up to discussion on how much she should think I should give her per month after she exploded during our argument about me not giving her any money.

Her thinking is that discussing about it is beneath her. I shouldn't be talking just give.

So my understanding is I give 500 is good? Since don't need to discuss right?

When I enquire about her money spending she says the make up I buy is so I look good for you. You don't want to be seen with a run down wife right? Clothes? Also same.

She says she wants a maid and I said no eventhough she doesn't do any house chores. I ask about her cc and it seems to be always maxed out. When we first got married I was shocked she was just paying her maxed out cc with monthly minimal payment & had to settle it by closing one of her ILP & close the cc.

Now she's back with the cc problems.

Ts. Cerai jela. Apa susah

Hello everyone,

Just a gist of it, I am paying for the house loan, the utilities & groceries (milk & diaper for my baby) and my bring home pay is around 30k per month & the Mrs is bringing home around 5k a month.

We had a fight this month and she exploded saying she doesn't get any money from me & her colleagues husbands all "put money in their purses when they see its empty".

I am reluctant to give because majority of the money I make goes to my son's education via investments & I do not expect her to chip in at all for the maintainance of the family well being.

Am I the asshole?

recap
sad to say TS, you already kana game.

You are 33 years now right?

to be frank TS, you need to man up in this matter. stop giving without any concrete discussion. Trust me once u give in she will ask for more.

it seems to me she is a bad spender. Have you settled her CC before?

Yup

This recap is good

Lots of ppl wading in with anecdotal experiences from frankly much more decent spouses.

Wont work in this case. And she replied to TS nothing to discuss, die is cast. Yup even with a kid still cant behave like an adult

I am afraid the situation will be much worse after this if TS declined to give in. But once give in ... haih ... 

BUT WAIT... TS already gave in long time ago before get merrid... she already know his move, his game, so basically now almost kana check mate

ditelan mati emak, diluah mati bapa

but like BillCollector said, sometimes being that arsehole is the only solution

I dont know about others, but I have the soft spot on that 5 months baby.

haih

The baby in this topic is only 5 months old?

I think this is a little extreme no? Do remember I have a 5 month old son who needs his mom.

Anyways I feel better getting feedback from everyone here

I won't give in that's for sure. Maybe give 1k or something that's fine

And what does It leave me? I cook everyday after coming from work. I do my laundry. I wash the plates. I hired a nanny for my son & is with me at my clinic everyday.

So how is it that she makes me feel like I'm not doing enough?

recap

Why does that matter when she’s older than him by few years and he’s in mid 30s. Max also milf but she’s never looking as good as in her mid 20s. Personality is what matters 40 and onwards.

If she 5/5 in mid 20s, then will be 4/5 in early 30s, 3/5 in late 30s. Depending on the girl also la -> some age even quicker.

recap

That's tragic for everyone especially for the baby.

If I were TS I'd be extremely careful that the mother doesn't use the son as a hostage or for emotional blackmail purposes which won't surprise me one bit if she does.

Seen it happen a few too many times.

I think this is a little extreme no? Do remember I have a 5 month old son who needs his mom.

Anyways I feel better getting feedback from everyone here

I won't give in that's for sure. Maybe give 1k or something that's fine

I have been thinking of the future after my recent ordeal with being dumped and I came on this train of thought. Would like to discuss with cupids.

Have any of you went through a relationship whereby you gave 110% of your time and commitment to prove that the person that you loved for a long period of time is your future and life. Then things go badly for you both and you found out that things do not work not because you cheated or you were lacking but more to do that the other half just didnt want you anymore for his/her selfish needs.

So question is, you were the perfect person for that someone and at the end you were broken hearted. Will you have trust issues in the next relationship and there you think, I must protect a little bit of my heart in case the next one breaks my heart again. If so wouldn't that be unfair to the next person that comes in your life?

Honestly, I really cannot imagine me loving someone like I did my ex anymore. I cannot be the perfect boyfriend if I were to start a new relationship. Do you guys feel the same way too?

really pity TS, work everyday come back home where's his wife.
earning 30k per month and still feeling unfulfilled as man, that just proven money is not everything (shout out to these blackpillers out there)

That's tragic for everyone especially for the baby.

If I were TS I'd be extremely careful that the mother doesn't use the son as a hostage or for emotional blackmail purposes which won't surprise me one bit if she does.

Seen it happen a few too many times.

Look,

People here who have gone through the same or similar experience like yours shared the experiences how it is going to look like down the lane with such girl, they gave you advice and actions what to be done, and you go do the opposite that will only be oil on the fire.

I guess, someone who doesn't want to be helped can not be helped.

It's fine, you have not reached that mental state yet to understand what people say here or she has not yet pissed you off with BS to new heights, either way, you can always come back here and tell us how it went by opening a new topic.