she wanted to be siew lai lai type? every month got money without working? give her la but she needs to let u go out 'eat'.

Lol u making 30k and u didnt even give a lil bit of cash/duit belanja to ur wife?

I honestly think u shud start giving her a little. Maybe 1.5k every month. See how it goes.

actually it is kinda similar as i watch quite some video on dog training. infact dog trainer understood the behavior of the dog way before the problem happen. this way advanced than anything i seen.

If I am you, probably I'll give her RM2000 for her to spend.

Since giving RM5000 is as good as going down the drain since your wife shops a lot.

The rest, just save up for your future and children education.

dont make it monthly permanent. give her as you please, otherwise she'd expect you every month money in.

You mentioned she doesn't cook and clean. What's her contribution to the household other than making a baby? Also 5k salary vs 30k salary. Tak sekufu. Marriage is a gamble. For woman, there's the fear of marrying a wife beater. For men, a gold-digger.

90k wedding, pay for everything, TS has a role of house husband, TS is also the mother of the child. Wanna compete with the "husbands of wife's friends" to give allowance for free (nothing in return from her - no positive change). Who is the real champion? The guy who makes probably 10k per month and doesn't give free monthly allowance (pampers wife once in a while), splits the chores with the wife, wife gives decent piap or the guy who makes 20k per month + /k min salary, no piap, no chores done, no take care of child but...happy wife happy life HAHA

to be fair. its common for the female side to ask for money when the guy is earning a lot. its kind of like backup plan if anything goes wrong, she still has some savings. since its a common conception that guys tend to "cheat" when they have money. if youre the brother or friend of the girl, i believe youll advise the same too.

Ya wei, giving 5k per month is already like paying alimony d, time to find PROPER mother for the child .

Now things get abit mafan cuz they got a kid lmaoooo I betcha the mom would willing to abandon the kid

Too bad lo, follow dick dont think with brain like this lo. Is ok most guys have to go through it the hard way, TS will learn. She's not marriage material. Ideally, TS should have broken up with her when she was already showing red signs during a normal relationship. LMAO true, she cares more about her own wellbeing than her own kid. Great mother happy wife happy life bruh

if you've money and still bring money back family, how many girls you slept outside, your wife will close one eye only
so your statements are not legit
if she wants to control his money, that means she has motive
she also earn for herself, why cant she make savings? that means her spending habit got problem la
why would you complain you dont get enough money from husband after you got your ''strong and independent title''

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Jun 13 2021, 06:29 PM

50% of the salary to joint family account.

Then how are you able to pay loans, daily expenses, investments with the rest of the 50%?

Loan, daily expenses, FD from that joint account.

Other investment use own savings.

thank you so much

Some girls will wait until they have kids to demand such allowances. Because if this happens before having kids, the husband can just divorce easily. After having kids, it's harder and costly.

And they will not abandon the kids during the divorce because kids can be used as their leverage.

I can't believe what I'm reading here. TS has a wife who doesn't cook, doesn't do house chores, doesn't take care of the kid, doesn't give sex or only starfish sex, spends all she earns on herself and now demands RM5K from TS? What kind of wife is that? Maybe TS should give her some ultimatums or physical disciplining. If she can't shape up, let her go. With an income of RM30K, other women will be lining up to take her place.

And I heard TS ignored all the red flags before marriage. Never expect a woman to change for the better after marriage. She will probably get worse after she has trapped her man into marriage.

If I were TS I won't give her a single cent until she starts doing her wifely duties (including decent sex) and even then only give her 10%-20% of what she asks for.

This post has been edited by Ginny88: Jun 13 2021, 08:37 PM

Just to add to those that mentioned joint account. If it's a small percentage of the salary then it is fine, but if it is a huge chunk, especially from only the husbands side, then beware.

The current world is not like 1950s. Divorces happen very frequently. Especially now with social media and dating app, divorce rate is higher.

ive read some of your comments, and they seem quite extreme. theres no right and wrong here. im just sharing my experience.

This is TS last reply.

Can you guys stop giving unsolicited advices? TS got what he wanted and has thanked you all. So stop prolonging this discussion. 20+ pages of discussion who has got time to read all that? Further, those who reply don't reply with TS's full story in mind and just making uneducated assumptions which is downright disrespectful to him. That is also not to mention that some just creating issues to spark secondary discussion unrelated to TS's objectives.

If there is any unresolved issue, I am sure he will open another serious thread.

Stop looking for TS's attention. You all are not gonna get it. Your stranger advices only worth SALT to him. Get a life.

This post has been edited by imadeyoureadthis1: Jun 13 2021, 08:52 PM