Can see the problem is not money issue. That's just the symptom

Root of the problem is her mindset and how she perceive things

Hopefully you two made some positive progress....

hooo boy..
TS, the whole thing about her not wanting to discuss the issue because its 'beneath' her...
man that's just some sorta next-level defensive response tbh. I feel like its a combination of her being insecure about her pay in relation to yours and some sort of self-entitlement that she's got that led her to questionable long-term spending habits (did she come from a wealthy household?)

if i may suggest - i think u should speak about the underlying problems before doing anything about her request.

This post has been edited by Endeavour: Jun 14 2021, 08:58 AM

Generally every family will have misunderstanding over money.

Is better to quarrel over something one has than none.

Money can solve problem at that point of time. If one has no money, no problems can be solved but only quarrels.

You obviously have not read the previous posts in this thread before jumping in with this comment. Putting the money into EPF is the last thing TS's wife will do. She is a spendthrift who maxes out her cc and is still short of money even spending her entire RM5K salary on herself.

This would be true if the wife saves up the money she drains from her husband in case her husband strays. But TS's wife just wants more spending money.

Tak kan the wife will tell the husband on the face that he will stray and need money to secured her financial position. Its just giving hint to the husband that he cannot be trusted and I see no reason to cont to sleep on the same bed if he strayed.

Edit ...

My spouse rich uncle wanted to buy a car for the clan association's secretary to fetch him for meetings and hell broke lose for few months !

This post has been edited by mini orchard: Jun 14 2021, 10:08 AM

He ignored the red flags and married a parasite who doesn't cook, clean, look after the baby or contribute to household expenses. Now the parasite is demanding more money and he wants advice on how to deal with her.

well, you cant change a person you may guide a person but cant force someone to oblige, anyway that was a flag when her parents demanded them to get married also, their background can also come from poor financially so it will also influence the generation how they think about money. When you've a narcissistic parent that demands privileges without necessarily teaching their daughter how to behave like a woman.

Usually this sort of thing happens when you subscribe to the mantra “ada wang, ada amoi”. When you flex your wealth to attract girls, you will end up with gold diggers.

Usually it’s best to NOT flex your wealth when choosing a life partner or you will be attracting the wrong crowd. Seen this happening too many times already.

- buy make up to look good
- wants a maid to do housework, so that she no need to do
- cc always maxed out
- always overspend on herself


looks like you married a pretty girl gold digger
she is only interested in herself, making herself look good, feel good
she is only interested in your money
such women (easily lured by money) will leave you for a richer man

you may earn 30k a month but she will leave you for a datuk that has much more money

being modest is powerful, cause when people dont know you're rich or poor, they cant manipulate you. Women choose the lifestyle, its not necessarily about the money, when they say i want partner who's intelligent indirectly it means i want a partner who will provide me a solid lifestyle.

Its good to have service like maid, cleaning etc
when people start to live comfortably thats where they start being lazy and take things for granted, virtues are still important. Thats what happen to the leftists, they often only know how to complain; instead of focusing inwards (what are the core problems), they project their insecurities onto the public.

Where is the love and vow during marriage? Earning 30k not enough for 1 kid...

We have 4 kids and I stay at home take care of the kids still enough for a happy family. We shared a joint account, the husband earning all went to account and we use it for the house with discussion. Anything we acquired before marriage in our own account, anything after marriage all go to the joint account. You know why divorce your other half get half of what you own after marriage right, cause anything after marriage is deemed to be earned by both of you equally.

Happy wife happy life. Made the wrong choice then you screwed.

with 30k.
ill pay my wife 5k/month just to make home and took care of the kids.

I havent been following every page so I could have missed out.

Can TS share some good points about your wife or someone linked me to the page/post ?

Let us hear something positive about her other than some forumers may say in bed.

Problem is seems like the wife doesnt want to cooperate.

Hearing directly from the horse mouth is better than quoting.

Ah, have to communicate patiently. Something might have happen between the be together no matter rich, poor, healthy, sick, till happily ever after marriage vow and situation now.

Bullshit! She isn't spending money dolling herself up to look good for you. Women like her have a dual mating strategy. They marry a beta provider for maintenance but goes after alpha males for their thrills. They are not sexually attracted to their beta provider husband so they will give minimal starfish sex but reserve their best sex for their alpha male lovers. They will get impregnated by their lover and get the beta male to bring up the child.

Get a paternity test for your child.

bruh reading all these replies really gives me shivers as a d00d earning 3k at 28 man

perghhhh what happened to girls these days