Seriously in what age now a days people think that marrying young is good. I am just 28 years old and my girlfriend is 31 years old and we been only together for two years. I went to her house just now and my girlfriend told me her parents are saying why does it seem like he isn't planning for the future? we both had a huge argument and I drove off without saying good bye and she slammed the door.

what the fuck? with this shit economy its been years since I took a long vacation to go for travel from my clinic, I hardly go out these days and everything I can save I try to save. sometimes I need to think twice buying pizza for myself as I need to save up for my future. i have a fucking house ready and yet to them it seems like I am not seriously growing up.

who here is getting the same shit? sorry for the rude words. I'm just so angry.

sama like my story lah ... this part **I went to her house just now and my girlfriend told me her parents are saying why does it seem like he isn't planning for the future?**

bro, you have to think on her side, a 31 yrs old girl parent normally will rush? no?

my girlfriend is 31 years old

thats ur problem.

You doctor man.. Some more own a clinic... Sure lots of money..
If you say no good business... Then tutup clinic lo.
I am sure you can afford to get marry.

at the expense of us rushing to a marriage that none of us are ready? what we gonna feed the guest? sand?

I do not expect my parents to fork out money for my wedding and I see my peers going drinking every day and changing girlfriends like changing baju.

gila. nak cucu? sorry la Wei. having kids now so expensive for Chinese families and I seen the shit that happens to kids esp with birth defects. not going to be the factor in over population

not about the money. it's about the personality. we just got to know each other (two years ain't enough bro) and you want me to jump straight into a marriage? habis when I want to expand cannot because I'm tied down.

women or rather, girls, are insecure by nature.

they do not know that we men have our own planning ahead nor will they try to see what their men are trying to do for their future.

to them, if you don't do what they want now, it means you have no planning.

well to be fair to her, her biological clock is already ticking hard so it is no wonder that she's insecure.

but marriage shouldn't be rushed.

i am not sure why women think of marriage as a safe haven for them because divorce can always happen.

she should put some faith in you. sadly, she doesn't and that goes to show you guys are not prepared for marriage yet

This post has been edited by Saladz: Dec 27 2016, 10:27 PM

and moreover i just found out throughout her ten years after coming out from high school she has ZERO savings and one of those I wanna work so I can travel type of girls. I had to chip in money to deal with her repair work and save her ass countless of times for not saving and spending every month.

pot calling kettle black kah. you expect me to buckle up when your finances are shit poor. sorry not looking for a broke ass wife as a liability until she fixes her shit.

then dump her.
End of story.
If you want to help... Help willingly and not complaining.
Don't tell me it take 2 years to realise when she push you for marriage.

why is everyone so adamant about marriage these days when we can't even afford to care for ourselves? what more to say a kid.

To her.. You a doctor and waterfish who can help her when she in need. I am sure she pay her dues to you in her own way.

If you still insist on keeping your house in order... Then don't get girlfriend lo..
Remember she is 31....and not young anymore. As she approach 40....it will be hard for biological clock.

You a doctor and I am sure you understand women.. Right??? No??

It seems like you have all the answers to your own question. You are still angry thus it's clear you aren't accepting any criticisms when your mind is clouded. You are not ready for marriage and also condemn her for not saving money. Critical of the costs of raising kids and maintaining a family, so much so you cry it's going to hold you back from expanding your clinic business. Complain 2 years is still not enough to get to know her better. Will 5 years be long enough for a doctor you? That means you keep her waiting till she's 36 to get married and have babies two years later at 38.

See the problem here? It's YOU. Not her, and certainly not her parents for doubting your preparedness. You are just a self-centered doctor who is in this relationship for yourself. Everything has to revolve around you.

we aren't intending to have kids. I seen all the special needs children to know how awful a child with special abilities can be to a marriage. she agrees with me since she doesn't have the patience to have kids too.

oh really?



so this ring I am custom making is a sign I'm self centered aye? pfft . that's an aquamarine that she always wanted for her engagement ring. had to get my own jeweler to head to Singapore and Thailand to source for it. tell me to my face one more time I'm being self centered

This post has been edited by Avangelice: Dec 27 2016, 10:59 PM

Oh, so showing off your fingers absolve you off everything that you have just brought up? And automatically it's back to her and her parents' fault?

Is this a game to you? If you love her, then stop talking bullshit here and man up.

not my fingers asshole. my jeweler's hands. that's hers.

"Clinic"?

Her parents obviously don't think that much of your "clinic".

so what you are saying here is I should be pressured to get married not because I need to but not the question if we should get married. two years is still relatively a short relationship. didn't know cupid has turned into a cesspool of ktards looking for an argument rather than talking a brother into doing what's right.

You should now realise nobody's replying in support of your puerile and amateurish rant about love while coyly showing off your doctor qualifications and richness. In the end, we can see through your bull and you're just an immature young man.