She doesn't do my laundry or cook FYI. I do those things at home

This hit me like a lorry when she said I didn't give her allowance like other husbands.

no your wife is an asshole.

you pay all the maintenance, yet she still want you to give her money.

she cares for your money obviously.

Ah sorry. What you said make sense now you mentioned.
So in the end make her understand that her money is hers. She can do what she want with it.

Your money is your family's money. She have to understand that as well.
- Savings for future.
- Savings for rainy day.
- For kids in future. (if in plan / pipeline)

If budget RM40 per day for meals and roof all covered by you.
About RM1'500-2'000 for her to cover any house improvements / meals together sounds fair?

Hope you can resolve this happily among both parties in the end.
Wish you luck.

wtf ?!

And what happens to my son? He lives without a mom or dad? Or having to know that's not his biological mom or dad?

I opened up to discussion on how much she should think I should give her per month after she exploded during our argument about me not giving her any money.

Her thinking is that discussing about it is beneath her. I shouldn't be talking just give.

So my understanding is I give 500 is good? Since don't need to discuss right?

Frankly speaking you're already a responsible husband and father. You've given her more than a stable life and picking up the slack at home. I think you probably shouldering the burden of taking care of the kids during weekends too I guess? The issue with her I suspect is more deep rooted than husband not giving pocket money. If she has any sense she'll come to realise how good a deal she has and open up to you. Give it some time.

All the best

I'm not interested to go into the details of alpha or beta, but in my book TS got my respect. And by right adults should well behave like adults. If need spouse to rein in... Something is wrong and it ain't the spouse

Well I guess it shows hes a bigger man by willing to talk to the wife instead of dumping her by the way side.

I think she type of lady dont wanna kalah with others, especially to her friends/kolik that she said their husband give them money. Dont wanna kalah attitude also one issue, wanna mirror those classy friends outside is not good also. Tell her she need to be moderate.

not kowtow ma ... find middle ground ...
sometime woman-on-top also ok de ma ...

Sorry to say, too many of them outside. Even my own relatives got. See her fren buy expensive handbag, she also ask husband buy expensive handbag for her. See her fren buy bmw, she also keep pujuk2 husband to buy bmw, but husband never buy bmw for her lar lulz!

maybe give 3k, then ask her do something else in return? e.g start to do some easy house chores, laundry, cooking?

. The lazy trophy wife

I hired a nanny for my son & is with me at my clinic everyday.

So how is it that she makes me feel like I'm not doing enough?

30k also can't give a little pocket money to wife?
If 3k I can faham..

My ex also never did house chores, and I didn't mind.

Sex after her pregnancy was zilch too. I was supposed to feel lucky if I can get it 3 times in a year.

I didn't earn 30k, but I still gave what I can spare then. I was also paying for the house, deposit on her car, some shopping...

But, after years of almost zilch sex, I stopped paying. She never asked then coz she was earning big bucks then.

Fast forward few more years... out of the blue, she asked for a sit down, talked about money. She was earning big bucks then. I believe the amount that I said I am willing to provide her monthly was not to her satisfaction. I didn't bring up the almost zilch sex.

Few months later, she asked for a divorce.

My 2 Sen:
Go see a good marriage counselor together.

sometimes people just need some motivation/ encouragement do something they haven't done before maa, if give 3k really helps her to become a bit more 'traditional', then why not?

and if she perform well, then maybe can increase to 5k per month, then both sides also happy.