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 Need a little marriage advice, Wife is asking for monthly allowance

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9m2w
post Jun 12 2021, 12:33 PM

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QUOTE(Avangelice @ Jun 12 2021, 12:09 PM)
[12/06, 11:56] : I'm open to discussion
[12/06, 11:56] : I'm opening up now
[12/06, 11:56] : And I don't mind discussing
[12/06, 11:57] : You shut me down now then you suppress it
[12/06, 11:57] : Next time we fight you bring it up again
[12/06, 11:57] is that fair to me?
[12/06, 11:59] Other ppl don't even need to hv this kinda discussion
[12/06, 11:59]  The husband just give
[12/06, 12:00]  Cos it just be a biz transaction
[12/06, 12:00] No different from a hooker and her client
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If you don't mind me asking which part of this convo is hers? This plus the cc part and justification for spending and lack of picking up the slack in your household is indicative of something serious and deep rooted.

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post Jun 12 2021, 12:44 PM

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QUOTE(Avangelice @ Jun 12 2021, 12:34 PM)
[12/06, 11:59] Other ppl don't even need to hv this kinda discussion
[12/06, 11:59]  The husband just give
[12/06, 12:00]  Cos it just be a biz transaction
[12/06, 12:00] No different from a hooker and her client

Hers
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Sigh

You got to have a heart to hear talk. What you make is beside the point, and from what you say you're more than pulling your weight in the family. I fear you give in its never gonna be enough. Elephant in the room is frankly her attitude . Shes not acting like an adult and a wife and mother

Good luck 🤞
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post Jun 12 2021, 01:05 PM

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QUOTE(Avangelice @ Jun 12 2021, 12:46 PM)
Trying to right now. She's not giving in discussing with me. Now she shut down texting me
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Frankly speaking you're already a responsible husband and father. You've given her more than a stable life and picking up the slack at home. I think you probably shouldering the burden of taking care of the kids during weekends too I guess? The issue with her I suspect is more deep rooted than husband not giving pocket money. If she has any sense she'll come to realise how good a deal she has and open up to you. Give it some time.

All the best

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post Jun 12 2021, 01:17 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 12 2021, 01:08 PM)
responsible husband and father but failed to teach his women
that's a sign of beta bucks without alpha traits.
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I'm not interested to go into the details of alpha or beta, but in my book TS got my respect. And by right adults should well behave like adults. If need spouse to rein in... Something is wrong and it ain't the spouse
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post Jun 12 2021, 01:23 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 12 2021, 01:19 PM)
earn rm360k per year, still need to open thread?
already so high value liao still need to kowtow to a woman
this is so hilarous lah bang
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Well I guess it shows hes a bigger man by willing to talk to the wife instead of dumping her by the way side.
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post Jun 12 2021, 10:16 PM

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QUOTE(rtk74 @ Jun 12 2021, 08:47 PM)
Truthfully I emphatise with TS. In terms of monetary, you did more than enough. But in frank I believe you made a mistake when you payed off one of her CC debt. That opens up a new can of worms. Like you said, the actual issue is not about giving the actually money but where it leads to, not to mention her lack of contribution towards the marriage in terms of chores, money and sexual.

I believe, its possible that's she's easily affected by her environment; friends, family, internet etc etc. Easily swayed by her friends. Comparing friends receiving this and that are signs of trouble. With my past relationships, these type of women are quite hard to coerce. The only method that work is using her own ways against her; her friends husbands give them money but they also do chores, spends on household groceries etc, etc.

Quite frightening when I read that you're also the one to cook. Hiring a nanny is a solution but a stop-gap one. Main issue is Trust & Responsibility.


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You and me appear to be on the same page. Red flags here are all on the wife. The husband is doing it all, providing, chores and even thinking about the future. The pocket money is just a symptom of a bigger problem. I hope they can talk it out.
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post Jun 12 2021, 10:22 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 12 2021, 10:19 PM)
you pamper a woman ie paying for her debts
you're settling yourself for failure
only mom will try to soothe daughter feelings, a REAL, strong father will not help her pay her debts

you have to train women to be accountable
otherwise just stay on onlyfans suck the money out of these simps
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Well debts is just one part of the equation. From what i can see got a whole lot of issues that may also be due to external factors and some character issues with the wife.

But yup i agree, paying for the debt is just a stop gap at best.


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post Jun 13 2021, 08:55 AM

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QUOTE(degraw1993 @ Jun 13 2021, 07:00 AM)
u never take /k seriously lol thats why they didnt knew TS backstory then came out with that fucking retard logic

can see few of replies here trying to make TS life even worst whistling.gif
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Most I see are wading into the discussion and sharing what worked for them and missing the additional information that TS shared. Like I said lots of red flag there. This issue is beyond a stipend for the wife

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post Jun 14 2021, 12:47 AM

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QUOTE(JimbeamofNRT @ Jun 14 2021, 12:38 AM)
recap
sad to say TS, you already kana game.

You are 33 years now right?

to be frank TS, you need to man up in this matter. stop giving without any concrete discussion. Trust me once u give in she will ask for more.

it seems to me she is a bad spender. Have you settled her CC before?
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Yup

This recap is good

Lots of ppl wading in with anecdotal experiences from frankly much more decent spouses.

Wont work in this case. And she replied to TS nothing to discuss, die is cast. Yup even with a kid still cant behave like an adult



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