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Common dating apps:

Tinder
OK Cupid
Coffee Meets Bagel
Bumble
Tantan
MalaysianCupid
Sweet Ring
Badoo
…and others

Dating Agencies:
Lunch Actually
Dateworks
iMatch
etc

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This post has been edited by sweet_pez: Jun 3 2021, 01:30 PM

Reserved space

It has been a month since i used tinder platinum
before subscription
barely get any matches at all, maybe 2 matches in a day if lucky.

after subscription
on average, i get around 5 matches per day within 2 weeks, on the first few days i got around 10+ matches without boosting.

*every normal swipe you swiped may be prioritized on their profiles (as you know, girls usually get bored after 10-20 swipings, cause every guy they swipe may instantly matched)
*send a message before superlike (it will work typically your initially message is polarizing or humurous)

today before 12pm
i got 3 matches within 10 minutes, ain't sure about how the algorithm works
i used a 30 min boost last day, i had 6 matches including two trans

*if the women are constantly replying you, your score will go up, as the result you may get matches at the moment, so please do not spam messaging on girls who never reply you*

p/s: i had 6 pictures, 2 out of 6 are short videos (it can be as added advantage if your quality of photo sucked or you don't have travel photos)

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Feb 25 2021, 12:16 PM

There are ALOT of scammers in Tinder.

Here are some of the hints that a profile might be a scammer.

1. Mostly, if not always, use Chinese girl photo.

2. Usually use English name like Anna

3. If matched, will tell you that "she" is living in Singapore or China and running their own business.

4. If living in Malaysia, will immediately ask you for meetup at a place of her choice.

5. Nothing on their profile bio except Wechat or LINE ID.

6. poor, blurry picture

7. without bio, or bio that only shares instagram id (check also their instagram whether it's legit)

8. the way they reply is either few words answer, and you may sense something's OFF by the way they reply you

But i guess it's also quality that you'll want, apart from quantity. Any luck so far?

#4 - if they actually meet up, would it be scamming at a bar? asking for money. Recall someone mentioned that in CC before.

usually if my profile is not strong, the system will not expose to me to more quality prettier girls
most i matched have been cute, maybe im lucky i will match with a below average looking girl she will turn out to be pretty on dates.
i'm going on a date this saturday's with a fun slender hot amoi because i used the 'message before superlike' feature, she noticed me.

other apps i noticed and used
wechat (it has been dead, not a lot of pretty amois there)
bumble
instagram dms (went out with 5 girls? very tough luck if you don't have blue check mark)
CMB (went out with few dates, mostly are professionals)
Tantan (has been dead, went out with more than 50 dates in 2019)
facebook dating (works similar with tantan, matched with a lot during the time)
Omi (mostly malay girls, matched a few, havent gone out with any i guess)

Yeap. It is usually a bar or a pub.

I also would like to add my experience on detecting a scam. Hope there is no dupes.

1) Too good to be true. Like suddenly this hot girl very nice to you, try to talk you. Well, when have this, firstly i think better be realistic and ask yourself whether your profile could attract those type of girl. Further, screenshot their profile picture and do a google image search in google as well as china equivalent google for image search too.

2) if you somehow think that you got chance for this hot girl, try give her a week and see how... Their SOP is unleash their product (eg. bitcoin platform) around 4-5 days..

3) instagram girl or FB girl who wants followers, usually dont talk or their profile description usually put their IG (their IG sometime has 50 post but mre than 1,000 followers) or FB and not active. TBH, i dunno whether this is consider a scam, but i feel shouldnt waste time on this kind... Unless you are rich or you damn handsome, or both..

To protect yourself, if lets say too sudden, like want to hang immediately, suggest you tell your friend where you heading, and propose a place that is crowded.

And another step to further protect yourself and not wasting time which I DONT RECOMMENDED AT ALL, stalk the shit out of the person to ensure he/she is single , legit and not a catfish. A google search, including linkedin fb instagram twitter would do.

This post has been edited by siew14: Feb 25 2021, 08:48 PM

ive encountered more time wasters instead, usually
(a) they dont respond you after you initiate more than 3 times text
(b) the interaction never goes anywhere, they're never intended to go off the apps.
© you got them off the apps, they gave you their digit, but you'll never able to ask them out or they kept declining your call

the dating apps mostly are designed to hook up first, usually if my pics are passable and she likes my texts, maybe we'll text back and forth 20 times, we'll probably make a short call on whatsapp and make the date ASAP.

Posting in legendary thread. Anyway, will park here to find out which app gives out the most response as I have tried majority app and still no luck. Could be face problem.. sigh

If you think you've average photos, give yourself a chance to subscribe its mandatory to stand out. Use boosts, swipe more often if you can.

I have read that once u subscribe bots will come and match with u to make u think ur money is worth being spend. I also see that especially tinder charges quite heavily for the additional features

tinder platinum for me is around rm50 per month, wdym by heavily? Coffee meet bagel I'll agree its subscription is more expensive. Ive matched with ladyboys or trans when opened boost. Who cares that much? Its numbers game.

Lol from my experience, I'm having tough time on Tinder too. Too many scammers. Even some matches are doubtful (from the way they reply my messages) which made me unmatched them too.

So much win there.
Actually app creators should come out with something that doesn't have any photo. Options based on location, but matching ie. through interest, hobbies etc.

There will be no judgment or bias, and users can approach each other with a more open mind. If users themselves wanna DM their photo, they can do that.

There should be something more genuine in the market. Otherwise i always feel these apps are very superficial - but just my personal opinion je.

That's not possible! You just haven't met the right one.
Look around you - there could be options too ie. ex college mates, friend's friend/ sister(s), gym (if you go) etc

Fundamentally, its initially about look. If the guy or woman is obese you would be turned off by that. Everything is fast online, thats how people make money (mostly). The reason why the love classified section here has been dead is the same concept.

if they ask you where are you very quick, or the way they texted seem 'cacat' just report to tinder, no further questions.

Yes and no. That's why if there's an app that doesn't contain photos but more for personality to shine, I'd say it's more genuine because people can get to know each other better. You'll know the other party is genuine when he/she can look past 'appearance' and care about what's inside more.

I'd say Love Classified still survives although a lot of people has gone on app. There are still postings and correspondence as far as i know. I'd call it "dead" only if there's no activity for at least a year or more.

Tinder quality has dropped... many fake profile (PRC), bots, trans, selling service & girls with their bio of not interest to date

Thats why i don want to take the risk of spending RM50 and receiving this kinda search results. Hoping there will be a better app like CMB but with a cheaper price tag eg: RM50

i played like 8 different apps at the same time, i don't think CMB is going to reduce its price soon lol
and i don't think the quality of chick there justifies that price. Obviously ive met hotter body indonesian chick at facebook dating too (FREE)
it's luck and placement factor.

I have tried fb dating , get matched but usually no reply

have you tried cupid corner CC here?

never because i know the numbers of guys more than girls... so i will take my chances elsewhere

From a female point of view:

1. Dating apps and FB dating, even Love classifieds - lots of scammers or married/non single men

2. Usually for sex only, not genuinely looking for a relationship

3. Modus operandi for scammers is some good looking guy, usually gf/wife died few years ago and now he's ready for a relationship. Usually located overseas, US or Singapore and more than willing to move to Malaysia for you, ha ha

Why is it difficult to find a chatting platform like IRC last time? Or is there one but I don't know about it?

Have you gone out with guys here. Dont need to disclose their id
How's your experiences so far with online dating.

i think very minority of guys are looking for relationship from the start, everything is fast paced nowadays, there's lack of incentives for guys to 'move slow' because there is always bigger shark out there.

I'm hoping to find a decent girl to get into a relationship but seems its going to be tough and I don't understand why girls after being matched starts to ghost and so on. Well probably they are bots too. Don't think I would find anyone but I'll just keep trying.

a lot of girls they just shopping on the app la
maybe they swiped a few times, or they swiped and had 100 matches easily, no time to reply or lack incentive to reply since majority of guys text the same boring thing...

Yeah that's true. Just play along that's all.

this covid can give your advantage
i just had 2 tinder dates on last saturday

one girl, just stay nearby me, she came out because she felt bored because of covid
second girl, she purposely mrt from cheras to sunway putra, 23 years old quirky nerdy girl

i arranged two girls on same day.

so, play along and swipe more.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Mar 1 2021, 12:22 AM

Yeah.... thanks for your encouragement!

I'm just starting to wonder if these kind of apps are actually helpful or its just people to have some fun/shopping.

just dont spend on sites that guarantee you finding serious partners, a lot of the matches they gave you are those who are 'working for the company', so there's always trappy element there, regardless dating app or meet in real life

I believe there are sincere and genuine males out there (even in LYN) who are serious in looking for real relationship, not those that you have listed.
Maybe you want to chat more to find out about the other person, and learn to identify if it is scammer type, con type or those sex maniac type from those genuine type.

I do, which is probably why they got filtered LOL...

I have, a few but nothing came out of it?

Lol some of the girl's replies are so discouraging.

Me : What are you hobbies?

Her : Reading lo.

Me : ok.....

answer: doraemon/erotica/animal discoveries

don't give boring answer, give them choices to select.

Lol with that kind of response its just a waste of time.

ping a few more times.
she will change her mind at anytime

Suprisingly, i did better with CMB this week (after i changed main profile pic into a casual formal suit dressing style chilling for a drink), had both numbers with indian girls, set an evening date with one of them on this coming sunday.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Mar 5 2021, 11:40 PM

You need to be patience. Normally those girls I chatted with will surely give Whatsapps number to me. If you sincerely chat with them, normally they will reply. However, meeting up or not thats another story and another level.

Thanks for your advice, I'm just sharing some of the girl's response for laughs. I mean definitely not a serious material if she that's her reply.

ive chatted quite a few indian girls
usually they're flaky...even flakier than chinese i think
if those girls mention they don't know what they're looking for on the app
usually, its a waste of time.

I just had another Coffee Meet Bagel experience last night,
dated a 21 year old local chinese mix girl, sweet and seemingly promiscuous as well, she told me she wanna move out of malaysia because its just so much things she couldn't do at such a conservative country, at her young age i don't expect her to settle down early (even though her mouth says i wanna find a serious relationship).

It's a refreshing experience, cause i've dated CMB:
-auditor
-property valuer
-customer servicer met at Nu Sentral?
etc (maybe have deleted their numbers)

Some girls are just too passive, waiting for someone they like to pursue them desperately while they just sit back relax and enjoy the attention. But many guys will get to know them a bit longer before they really take action and there are plenty of fish in the sea.

Some girl just too scare to invest their time to know a guy better after experiencing a lot of desperate people in Tinder.

Ive tried a few voice calls during mco 2.0
total added up around 40 mins ish
when she turned out on date, its not my type physically obviously but she's chattable.

Where some girls , i hit it off with just 10 mins convo, two days later we already on first date, and she's my type and sweet.

There's a range, where you dont want to invest too much time to build investments.

No photos doesnt work. even if it does it will be for a very niche market which i doubt would be profitable.

Its unfortunate but people do judge a book by its cover, and if you dont liek the cover, you wont even read the story....

Heck I got attracted to my wife at first sight due to her having a pretty face and a ridiculously hot body...

You seems to be playing the numbers game. Its the right direction to go actually... swipe 100 and you will get 10, swipe 10, you might get 1... swipe 2.. good luck to u.

To do this you have to be outgoing and not the shy/takut malu type.

i mean im not the richest and best looking guy out there
those little things like good at texting, photo angles can add up to advantage.
i just got accussed of dressing poor last night, i wear a blazzer with slipper on lmao
i can get shy during first half n hour meet or few mins initial call

it has been warm up exercises for me...

women are attracted to guys with good face/ style, its just politically incorrect for them to admit those
my date last night specifically said she likes guys who have tatoos and dress well.
she says if she dress feminine, why she cannot expect the guy to dress better too.

Not having a good face/hot bod, i usually get my feet into the door by being witty. Then being a good conversationalist, intelligent, sharing vision/dream blah the usual "interesting guy" usually work.

For those girls who doesnt seem interested/no chemistry, cut it off early and dont waste time.

Had that experience during 2008-2016

Most girls i CMB from friendster and facebook

After continuous failure i left the whole dating game 4 good since

Had yet 2 found any active and chatty partnerships

how would you define failures, girls who are not down for LTR? Or its just bad quality of people in general.

To be honest to you, I have met quite many girls from dating apps. Meeting them for the first time is not difficult. The problem is maintaining the relationship. They are meeting other people as well. It doesn't mean they will definitely choose you when both of you meet. Be realistic and not desperate. Girl smell it.

met a 23 year old ah lian two weeks ago
just now got a text from her today she said 'purposely' ghosted me because ''casually seriously'' dating this guy
i mean its very likely the guy promises monogamy with her in order to have sex with her
therefore can pretty much tell these younger females, they're not stable at age 18-25.

I believe quite many girls don't mind trading sex with guys for their love, attention and care. 18 to 25 is the age range of young and dangerous. There are woman in thirties who are wild and outgoing as well.

there are assholes who leave girls after having sex with once or few times with the promise of 'relationship'
it's just terrible for a girl, that's why they call us bad boy = assholes, which is different thing lol
women in after mid 30s if they're still single and 'taking care of their body' plus strong successful career
they're very likely to find a fuckboy or handsome guy
just look at Elva Tsiao taiwan as example.

You remind me of my ex-boss

She super hyper even 10 years older

Mid 40s and still fukble

I did not know that directly from her but from other department gossiping heads that are close 2 her

The only obvious thing i know is she every 2 years change new toyota car

every 2 years? Slow already lol
I always troll girls if they're younger, they can change bfs every few months. Its just not 'looking good' for their reputation.
Women always 'have it easy', its like no matter how much money you flash onto their faces, they're still the mating selector #ironfact

Now we know why being THE GUY is very stresso

Unless you inherited valuables from your family treasure

Thats a mega head start hahahaha

This post has been edited by skylinelover: Mar 11 2021, 01:30 PM

right, it's like having gameshark on ps console from the start
anyway, we're getting away from the thread topic
like i can see why there are very few guys willing to hustle on talking on chicks being a womanizer
they just think by having money and status they are able to attract EVERY single chick.
they can just be lazy and splash money think themselves like a king.
it's a wrong mindset.

Actually, to be honest, middle age rich man seldom go for dating website/apps to hook up. There are plenty of Vietnam/Thai/China escort in Malaysia. If you got the look and money, all these woman will even approach you, do all stuffs FOC.
Thus, why need the heck of time wasting in dating apps, having all those risk of scammers and ??? Sometimes, I think dating apps is just for those beta males like me.

majority of rich males are beta
having money doesn't make you inherently alpha
they're married men yes they control big decision at workplaces, but back home he been getting wrecked by his wife.
dating females can be costly, it doesn't matter its sugar baby or fuckbuddy

but also,
when you spend money onto women, you head is rewired differently and see women differently as well.

I know this is a newbie stupid question. I've downloaded and try few dating apps such as Bumbee, OkCupid, and CMB. I just wonder do I need to purchase premium in order to chat with girls or just need to wait for someone to chat me?

can I just say that dating app actually makes dating worse?

Heres my opinion:
1. photo is such a huge thing in dating app and its mainly the first thing we see is photo then we decide from there. I think this makes people including me to be more shallow.
2. your personality is really hard to be congested into 1 dating app. most people are also bad at writing about themselves
3. Its so much easier to ghost people in dating app

I know that there are many people met their partner on dating app. I also met my ex on dating app. But I find that the quality of my relationship wasn't that great compared to last time when I met them from school and uni and i was friends with them for some time. I know that it will work for some people. all im saying is imo it shouldn't dominate the dating world like it is right now.

its also actually easier for shy and socially awkward person like me to hide behind my phone and 'meet' people on dating app. But the downside is i am never challenged to make new connection because i think "ok wat theres dating app".
Therefore I am never pushed to solve my social awkwardness and shy attitude.

I think people should go out more, dare to talk to strangers, be more open when strangers talk to you, and dont think its taboo to date your friend/colleague.

TLDR: Dating app bad, real life good

two ways:
1. have above average photos to attract them swipe on you
2. pay premium on subscription on application you think will work for you (try for a month subscription first), see how's the result.

for me, i liked tinder platinum so far, but CMB worked well for me at least a week ago, after i changed my photo.

you CANNOT wait girls to chat you up, it's not a real life situation, be aggressive but not stupid.

its just an excuse la, come on.
if you have a bad day, even if a decent guy come up and approach you when you buying groceries, you will still reject him.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Mar 12 2021, 10:26 PM

Id expect someone who cant think reasonably and shallow will reply saying i am saying all that because it didnt work for me or i have bad day.
and when i said that dating app is not good, its based on research on how the apps are made. The least bad i know is coffee meets bagel and probably bumble because they have good intention when making the app. but dating app is still dating app, it skips human connection that is actually necessary when you want to find real connection.

any application is a potential hook up app, it doesnt matter its match.com or CMB
obviously the paid website (not app) tend to be serious but id bet those sites are designed to take guys money, because they always rotate the same few attractive women.

Thanks for the advice bro. Still learning to use dating apps. So both parties need to swipe mutually in order to chat huh. Tinder platinum means tinder gold or plus?

once you upgrade to tinder plus, you can select either to upgrade to gold or platinum.
i will advice you just upgrade to platinum la
i dont know what age you're (they may charge differently), but for me it's rm5x.00 per month which is like nothing.

IMO, I think dating apps are options. Some people met through travels, schools, workplaces, friend's gathering, wedding dinner, etc. So dating apps are just another way of meeting new people. You said you never pushed to solve your weaknesses, I believe it's more on personal growth and improvements. Doesn't mean that if you don't use dating apps you will improve much better. It's all on you.

I do agree dating apps are focusing more on photos, but hey, people are relying on first impression by nature. We don't know that person unless we get to know them for some time. So I think dating apps are good but we as the users are also need to do our own part. For example, we get a real physical date, not just relying on virtual chatting.

Wish me and you all the best ya.

Still considering whether it worth the money. I'm 30. I think more expensive than young guys like you. As I scrolled through photos I do feel unrealistic though. Lol. More like hook up apps.

its a small amount of investment, just like you go buy a candy B for your dick strength
you and I age difference not huge, and you probably come from a nice guy background, which is totally fine.

My 2 cents - it depends on how you present yourself on the app.
Some may present themselves like a typical rich guy, looking sleek and smart with bombastic English to attract attention.
Some outright tells you they're looking for hook ups.
Some will say they intend to look for soul mate.

etc etc all sort of things.

So make your profile with intention of attracting (?) kind of female that you want.

I met my partner on Tinder 2 years ago and we are now married. Tried OKcupid, CMB before I met my partner, I would say it's really LUCK.

Whenever there's single friends seeking for love, I will just ask them try dating apps and I think this is gonna be a trend.

My tips will be dont chat too long online, try your best to meet up within 2 weeks once matched, so you know whether he/she worth your time or not.

Good advice. Move on when the meet up doesn't turn out to be good for both sides.

I would also say, dont travel more than 20 km one way to meet someone. Ive a girl she stays setia alam, we're both at least 50km apart, i told her to meet me somewhere in middle.

Seeing that you have met so many girls in dating apps, I am curious to know why you don't settle down with one of them.

some got married out of nowhere (happens to muslim girl, 'tunang')
some moved back to own country
some got serious relationship (happen more to coronavirus season because girls want more security now)
some got semi casual relationship (she's offered relationship after having sex)
etc

bottom line is i don't do LDR, and any relationship less than 6 months is not considered a serious ones.
you want to find a quality ones, they have to pass my test of time.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Mar 17 2021, 12:53 PM

Not sure if this is my problem. 9 out of 10 girls in dating apps will ghost me after exchanging a few conversation but I don't see any red flag in the conversation. I guess those girls I matched with are too bored or tired with the routine questions.

recently there was one tinder girl written she's looking for a tall and buff guy simping for her
they can be bored, but yourself cant be bored. Because you're the one who's chasing them 'initially', you've to do most of the work (texting, logistics etc)
my favourite line's, ''what are you looking for here?''
always screen out time wasters.

There are also quite many scammers in dating apps directing guys to some weird website with the excuse of safeguarding privacy. I thinking they are scamming for money and personal info.

so based on your experience, those answer they gave means what usually? can share?

if they write, ''nothing much'', its basically waste of your time
ive tried maintain a few video call during previous mco, at the end she isn't willing to come out

if they write, ''friends'', at least you've a chance

if they write, ''awesome...i like your (the thing your replied/written in your bio'', its obviously a green light.

i dont understand the last one... what are you doing here? and they reply with awesome? XD

For me, if they say friend, is like telling me she is up for anything, and is depend on your skill or how thich is you wallet... hahahaha

This post has been edited by siew14: Mar 18 2021, 11:21 AM

some they will agree your offer, still ghost afterwards
some will at least agree, and went on #1 date with you, and its optional they will ghost afterwards
i have a specific bio that attracts certain kind of females, though my pics are average
if she goes out on first date, at least she sees something inside you, and its our job to turn the interaction to what we wanted.
in sales job, the bigger hurdle is to get your clients to meet up in person, with you.

around 100-200 women.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Mar 22 2021, 04:23 PM

sugarbook still around? I heard this app developer kena jail time ady

Sugabook got taken down la haha deng

No not around anymore. Idk how you can access quite impossible

if she plays hard to get, obviously it's not worth your effort
some girls they've to go through that promiscuous phase

edited

This post has been edited by -mystery-: May 20 2022, 12:16 AM

I also started to use this dating apps since today , right now testing on Tinder, Immediately bought the gold one.
Never have experience using any dating apps before, so I read all the post in this cupid section, including the tips, detect scammer and so on..

My past Ex-Gfs I met in real life, but still a failure, since then because of broken heart, I went full time gamer to forget everything, forget the pain LoL rarely socializing outside but now I'm getting older and older, no more Laku.. so the last option now is online dating apps.

But I'm very very curious about this Tinder as the girls look like super model, 4 matches today, their conversation also looks legit, long messages/replies.
also the weird thing is, none of the girls i swipe/like like me back, only the incoming..so this maybe the scammers right

Gonna try coffee meets bagel if this fails and lots of scammers/fake