The next thing is whether you can make the girl to desire/want you.

Damn similar to mine... Looks like setting location in KL's a wrong choice...

I lose out to you on age... Girls like to go out with older ones...

One thing I noticed girls I went out with all have one similarity. All want to travel/go jalan2/go out every weekend to find food now. No one want to wait to travel. Maybe because I focused on those earning RM10k/month girls. Lol.

Have to keep looking.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Jan 20 2024, 09:01 PM

I think if too old also not good choice. The age gap too big will be an issue.

They need to constantly update insta and tiktoks to show off how interesting their lives are. Very irritating

Low socmed activity is big green flag in my pov.

This is not tiktok. This one is want yearly overseas holiday, want to go jalan2 and food hunting every week.

Usually so that they can update their social media.

The eldest one I am talking to is 3 years, should be ok...

Just learnt that my match is no longer a virgin...

The Shanghai girl in SG also the same...

Both went for hookups when they were young... Body count for both = 2...

Luckily both also think hookups are terrible so both into long-term relationship only...

Just be wary about the two bolded sentences. If they ever did hookup willingly in the past, high chance they have that in their blood and might be a repeat offender. Just a heads up.

Face the reality. It's normal in these age. That's why if you can find a virgin, it's a gem.

Thanks to people like mystery who encourage promiscuity. Haha...

Are u virgin also?

Quite common for girls to understate body counts. Like 1 is actually 2 or 3.

Even exclude the mythical virgins, its very hard to find attractive but low demand/maintenance young women.

Of course still virgin bro... I admit I have sexual needs and I usually just "settle it myself" in my own room.

You can still explore sexuality without losing your virginity.


This post has been edited by TOS: Jan 22 2024, 01:44 PM

25 and still Virgin?
Its either being a "high" quality guy or just being naive in this sexual marketplace. Just stay blue pill yah

Not everyone wants to be promiscuous.

Thats like saying one can drive just by playing Gran Turismo 😆

But no worries, still got time.

Anyway, the girl in attachment you deleted was being very honest. Thats why most girls prefer more experienced men.

yes. be aware. nowadays the effect of feminist ideology started to become rampant in East Asia (China). I am not saying they are gold digger. But if you can support their lifestyle after you married them, by all means, go ahead with your pursue. If you don't have this confidence., it is wiser to stay away from all these "worldly troubles". At least, for the sake of your mental health....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2IQr-Bpt2k

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 22 2024, 06:25 PM

The Shanghai girl seems attractive but spends a bit too. I told her I am thrifty and she says we are incompatible in that respect... But then she says fortune teller informed her that she will 旺夫 (makes her husband rich and wealthy...) and 剋夫 (reduce her husband's lifespan) at the same time...

Maybe you sounded sarcastic but uhmm I think Ramjade and I share similar characteristics in many respect. I was raised in a very strict and disciplined manner. If I tell my mom I slept with someone else she will most probably canned me all the way to the street...

I think Ram and I both agree that sexuality is not a taboo and not something can't be explored. I read men and woman's health articles from time to time, understanding fertility and various sexual health topics and I become informed via this way.

Having sex with a partner means taking responsibility towards her... It's not a trivial decision to be made. Are both of you ready to be parents? Is she the woman you want to stay with for the next couple of decades? Are the couple's financial strength strong enough?

I don't sleep with a girl for the sake of sleeping with her. Can I take care of her? I will ask myself.

I am glad that my matches so far are no longer into hookups etc. As the Shanghai girl told me herself, she find hookups tiring and can finally understood why parents are very against sex prior to marriage due to the risks involved. (She satisfies her "own needs" herself too these days...)

Yea...

25 years old not young liao...

Honesty is the no. 1 selling point for ISTJ person... I think it works both ways, I treat my matches well, so do they. It took only half an hour strolling around the shopping mall for the Shanghai girl to say "you look like a very responsible man"

Uhmm in terms of sexuality you mean? That I got no comment. My matches tend to look at people hollistically I think, sex is just part of the equation.

A successful marriage is more than just sex, after all.

It's actually millennials way of life today. You need to travel yearly so that one is happy. It's more peer pressure. Friends all travel so I must travel as well.

1h video yikes. Haha...

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Jan 22 2024, 06:38 PM

Regarding this, there was a "30+ years old pretty girl" in dating apps mentioning she was independent a few years back. Graduated from oversea with photos of YOLO lifestyle fully displayed in CMB. In our conversation of that 7 days, we kept on chatting about money issue. Until the last day, she revealed to me that she is still living with her parents with 4 figure saving in bank account.....Yeah...of course, no phone number exchanged.....And I think she is still finding it hard to define her "independent"

Don't look money in bank acocunt or staying with parents. Why? I will give you an example. I have only RM1.00 in my bank account and still staying with parents but I can do LEAN FIRE. I was doing that just last year.

My ultimate aim is of course FAT FIRE and delayed gratification. Of course girls don't like the idea of waiting. So I just move on if they cannot do delayed gratification like me.