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SUSsomewhataut
post Apr 17 2023, 11:13 PM

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hi i used free version of tinder tantan omi okcupid, my profile is a mugshot with my job title industry and edu background, my matches on tantan comprise of 95% scammer and 5% low quality girl, other apps al low quality, will paying premium help me
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post Apr 26 2023, 10:52 PM

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QUOTE(parisiansky @ Apr 25 2023, 10:38 PM)
If u're willing to pay for premium, CMB is yr best bet coz there are more ppl looking for serious relationships there compared to other apps. It'll show your profile to more ppl, helping u to get more matches. Plus u get to see everyone's activity report which is very useful coz it'll help u to determine if that person is serious abt u or not.
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I get zero matches on CMB


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post Apr 26 2023, 10:57 PM

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QUOTE(Takudan @ Apr 22 2023, 11:20 AM)
Hi, short answer: no.
Long answer:
Finding a decent match takes a very long time, and even then you still need to meet up a few times before you can decide if s/he is a potential partner. I think... roughly out of 100 profiles you'll see:
- 80 are scammers or low quality profiles
- 10 are inactive/unresponsive after you match/liked
- 9 are found incompatible as you chat on app.
- 1 is a person you finally meet up

For example with Coffee Meets Bagel, it limits the frequency of you browsing through profiles, however the profiles there are generally higher quality.
For example with FB dating, there's no restriction and afaik no payment whatsoever, but the profiles there are way worse, the ratio is skewed more towards scammers/low quality profiles.

You can pay for CMB, sure, but I personally did not because I didn't want to try THAT hard, because every potential connection you make (those 9+1 put of that 100), you need to spend time and effort to try to connect. I treated the restriction as opportunity for me to take breaks.
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I don’t get any matches on cmb while I get tons of scammers and low quality girl, prove that cmb is scammer-proof

Putting my job title and education on my profile apparently didn’t help, I still get zero matches on cmb. My photo is a company mugshot and a workout photo, anything I can do to my profile more appealing ?
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post Jul 4 2023, 06:49 AM

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QUOTE(Takudan @ Apr 26 2023, 11:11 PM)
By company mugshot, if it looks like a passport or IC photo then that screams "boring".
Workout photos show your sweaty ass look, it's hardly good looking... I think you'd be better off writing your routine/hobby but not showing it in photo.
Selfies imply narcissism/lonesome, kinda turnoff.
Avoid topless photos unless you're looking for hookups.

Try a solo photo taken by your family/friends that you like. If you don't have then go out socialise more (don't forget to take a picture especially if you're wearing nice or the scenery is good!). That should be your main profile picture.
Add some group photos with you in it, preferably surrounded by your family/close friends. It makes you more approachable/friendly.
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My mugshot is my best looking photo, I think is the filter. I do have group photos, it didn’t help, been adding a few more group photos, still zero matches.

Will paying premium help or a waste of my money?

How about lunch actually, 4k+ for two matches, for someone who gets zero matches on CMB, is it a risky investment, it sounds really unreasonable but I’m running out of choices

I will pay anyone who can help me find a gf, just suggest a channel

What is my chance to get a decent looking gf at all? 28, engineering designer, 3000sgd a month income, 166cm, a bit odd looking, is my career decent enough to cover my appearance and height
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post Jul 4 2023, 06:51 AM

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QUOTE(Michael_Light @ Jun 14 2023, 08:28 AM)
Holy why is the subscription for CMB is so expensive like RM80++ per month?
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Speaking of expensive, Did you know the dating agency Lunch Actually charges 5k for two matches, success not even guaranteed

I’m getting zero matches on dating apps, it’s my last resort now

This post has been edited by somewhataut: Jul 4 2023, 06:52 AM
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post Jul 5 2023, 06:47 AM

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QUOTE(Takudan @ Jul 5 2023, 02:50 AM)
From what you're telling me, you better save the money and work on yourself. You keep saying you're odd looking -- you don't even like your own looks, how do you expect a stranger to take interest in you at all? Say if you earn 20k per month, will you truly be happy that a girl takes an interest in you, or will you doubt that she's in for the money? Be careful when you think money attracts girls. Sure it does, but I daresay it's the wrong type of girls for long term relationships.

Few k to match 2 girls ....... "Running out of choices"? You sound way too desperate. To pay thousands for an agency(?) to feed you 2 matches who may be receiving commission or something to go out with you, I'd say totally not worth it. Then again, maybe that amount is not a big deal to you, and it's all about your personal priorities. If you think it's worth the try to gain some experience, sure, go ahead. Just don't expect success from the get go.
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I’m 28 already, if working on myself works it would have worked a long time ago, I’m also very introverted nearly autistic, I wouldn’t be surprised if I’m diagnosed to be on certain level of autistic spectrum. I concluded that my disadvantages are not solvable but I think I’m still dateable considering that I’m able to provide for a family

To be honest I would rather have high quality girls who are after my wealth than having nobody

The agency told me that my chance is on the high side and already have some matches in mind, not sure whether is sweet talk or truth but I think they think that way because of my career and income, I was approached by them via LinkedIn which is probably how they source “educated professionals”, high quality girls won’t resort to these services but if the agency approached them to deliver a sales pitch like better matching result than ‘matching by pure chances’ in daily life then is another story

Do you know better alternatives? 5k without success guarantee could be a scam like you said


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post Jul 12 2023, 11:37 AM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Jul 12 2023, 11:30 AM)
How old are we looking at?
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28

1.65m

60kg

Fairly decent income and career

Own a 140k car

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post Jul 12 2023, 12:37 PM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Jul 12 2023, 11:40 AM)
I mean, the girl you want what criteria?
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18-28

Chinese

Not overweighted
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post Jul 12 2023, 04:30 PM

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QUOTE(Ramjade @ Jul 12 2023, 03:15 PM)
I prefer local
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post Jul 13 2023, 07:32 PM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Jul 12 2023, 11:40 AM)
I mean, the girl you want what criteria?
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You have any?

5k rom only pay
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post Jul 14 2023, 08:39 AM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Jul 13 2023, 08:02 PM)
But how many years we looking at?
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Don’t know how many years

Once succeeded matching, you just sit back and wait for the cash to come years later, you won’t need to work all these years
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post Jul 14 2023, 11:37 AM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Jul 14 2023, 09:07 AM)
5k doesn't seem like so much worth of waiting for this.
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5k for a middle man job is pretty lucrative

You make investment and wait for years also won’t have this much return
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post Jul 21 2023, 06:51 AM

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QUOTE(redracer2004 @ Jul 14 2023, 09:07 AM)
5k doesn't seem like so much worth of waiting for this.
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I make it one year of dating, okay for you?

 

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