ladytarot99 and/or her husband got Super Good Memory. Can remember everything so clearly and so kind to share.
QUOTE(ladytarot99 @ Feb 10 2020, 02:08 PM)
I’m 29yo, better not saying how much my saving because I’m daddy mommy kasi, hubby inlaw kasi...
But I think I should share how much My hubby earned till he is 30 years old. Although his parents very loaded, but he is 100% self made yo
1999 = Graduated from UK, straight got his first job.
1999= Salary RM5k/month not include allowances (OnG offshore) ——— RM 50k saving
2000= Salary RM5900/month (OnG offshore) ——-RM 91K saving
2001 = Salary RM7100/month (OnGoffshore)——-RM150K saving
2002 = Salary RM8500/month (OnGoffshore)———RM210K saving
2003 = Salary RM11K/month (offshore)——— RM440k saving
2004 = salary RM16k/month(offshore)——— RM570K saving (30 YO)
In 2005 he left offshore job... collie based in office while starting his own company at the same time..
2006 his first 2 companies running
2007 he got his master degree and mba for free while still working as collie and running his own company at the same time...
2009 still working as collie and runs RM30millions nett worth private companies of his own..
2010-2011 he accomplished his PhD target, resign from his position an 100% focus on his companies
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2020 ——— we’re not finish yet..
I’m not trying to brag.. I just want to tell others.. Nothing’s impossible... unfortunately you have to set up your goal and do all of your best to get it... money is not an issue, but your mental is.. its important to be mentally prepared rather than financially prepared... if you are not mentally prepared, no matter how much money in your hands it would be gone in many ways, but if you are mentally prepared and have a big goal in life, no matter how little money you got, you’ll be able to take the maximum advantage out of it..
QUOTE(ladytarot99 @ Jan 17 2020, 05:10 AM)
Dowry =
1. 1 house/apartment ——(I got house)
2. 1 car / ox ——(of course i took the car 🤣)
3. gold (the weight must be even), can be formed as jewellery. ——(My in-laws gave 8,888 grams formed as custom made jewellery and they put on me before tea ceremony)
4. Wedding attire from top to the bottom include shoes ———-(i got 2 sets from my inlaw)
5. 2 sets of bed linen and pillows ————(got this also)
6. Glassware set/ tea set———-(got tea set)
7. Babies items———— ( I got baby’s jewellery also)
8. Money——— (USD 888888)
*incase the separation happen/unavoidable because of the bride committed adultery/infidelity, the bride shall return all the dowry and give up the children’s custody to the father.
If happens because of the groom side, all dowry is the wife’s right included alimony and kids custody.
If happens because of mother inlaw, bride keeps half dowry, child custody + alimony. ( I still can’t believe this written in our prenuptial agreement 🤣)
Bride’s father Gift (it’s all upto her family)=
-money ( My dad gave him 2 cars that hubby choose by himself, watches, suits, wines, and money that they never disclosed to me) (my mom gave me several sets of her stones jewelleries to be given to my mother inlaw)
Amazingly We survived 三書六禮/ san syu liu’ lai (you can skip this one)
6 wedding ceremony
And 4 crazy wedding receptions.
In Chinese tradition, if you pay full dowry, the wedding receptions is all up to your wish. The bride/ her family have no rights to demand a big receptions. If they wants to have big banquet, they should cover all expenses. Unless agreed by both parties. The only light tension in our receptions was because my father wants to pay for all of our receptions as I’m the only child, hubby insisted to pay for everything(my dad kinda kesian to my hubby). At the end, don’t know what happened, just settled, hubby paid for everything. Both of them happy🤣😂
My advice, go as close as possible but within your limit. It’s once in a lifetime thing. Don’t be stingy with the dowry, don’t be ashamed to put it in the prenup also Lol 😂. In case your budget is limited, it’s better to split 80%(20% money for her family and 60% get her gold or simply give her money) for the dowry, and 20% for the simple banquet/dinner. Good Luck!