A or B, the simplest and right thing, the BF should concentrate on pacifiying her GF, giving her mental comforts

i do think that abortions are always harder for the gal. TS will have to be extra sensitive to her needs emotionally.

In that sense, a person really need to ask GF to see if she really, really wants to do it...

crisis brings the best in everybody.

OK TS. Why until now you think getting ur gf pregnant IS A MISTAKE. Did you thought whether it WAS A MISTAKE before you bedded her ?

Nope, don't shove off responsibility by simply admitting its a mistake, and then abort the baby. You don't go around playing with life.

With arrival of a baby, treat it as a FATE, a path that's destined.

Meeting your gf is a FATE
Having her as your gf is a FATE
Being horny is a FATE
Being horny until she's pregnant is a FATE
Now, the baby is your FATE
Embrace this fate of yours.

Killing innocent life IS NOT solving. Unless you're heartless.

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juz read ur statement that both of u r ready then y not? seems the problem is juz to confront wit ur gf mum. mayb find a better way to discuss wit her.

if u plan to marry anyway so dun choose abortion which may cause health problem to ur gf or the worst will have negative effects such as unable to be pregnant again.

anyway, the choice is urs. juz make sure u dun regret it later.

If my mum abort me long time ago when she still very young and can't bear the expenses. I nvm..
Better then raise me out without care.
Pregnant and raise a child only take 10month and spend around RM3000-5000.. Take care a child hav up to whole life and expenses is more then what u imaging.

is that mean if u choose abortion juz bcos both parents will freak out? excuse excuse.......

well even for a gal, with all her motherly instinct may not be ready for a child. having a child takes its toll, emotionally and financially. even if she is financially capable doesn't mean she is emotionally. it's a difficult decision to make. she may still be scared and confused with the whole issue.

but no mattter what, they have made their decision so be it. just find the best way to go around it.

sometime,rm5.50 per 3 piece is usefull..it's safe for ur both...
dare to do it..dare to face it....
dun simply kill a baby....

But all i see is that TS is afraid of her mom will shocked to death.

he's been working for a year, that's hardly stable enough. Do you understand the current status of the economy? His GF will have to take maternity leave, and that would mean no income for several months, on top of that, there is no guarantee she'll be able to re-enter the workforce. To add insult to the injury, he may not even be able to hold on to his job for the next few years, considering the global recession. Did you even think of these factors?

If you think its not hard to raise a child, have you even tried? I used to help my mom take care of my sis when she was a baby.. I was not given full responsibility, but it was tough enough. Seriously, grow up and enter the real world, there's so much to think about in raising a child. His consideration for his GF's mother is just one of the factors. He's hardly being selfish, he's simply being rational. Unlike you morons who are unable to use your mental faculties.

Sigh. Most of you 'bleeding hearts' are convinced I'm doing this to avoid responsibility. Just so you know I'm gonna marry this woman whether the child is kept or not. But we cannot simply say hey we get married now and have the kid just cause its there... As pointed out countless times, its costly to raise a child and time consuming. Its not like a bloody digital game that you can just turn off whenever it suits you. Me and gf are not ready for that responsibility and it would make for a lousy upbringing. Sure we have the cash, but do we have the time? Its easy to say that we are murderers but I think i would rather be a murderer than a person who neglects his child. Least if i murder a baby they go without knowing anything rather than i torture someone from years of neglect. Hate me if you will curse me if you will I'm already upset that I have to make this decision because believe it or not I was very happy to hear she was pregnant. Its just that this is a terrible time for it to come along...

For those of you who have managed to see things from my end of the deal, thank you and rest assured I will take very good care of my GF. I love her very much and will definitely support her in the rough days to come.

And I will not show her this forum simply because too many of you are out to guilt trip us into keeping the child. You already know that GUILT will be a big part of the process and yet you seem intent on making us feel even guiltier. YOU ARE NOT HELPING. Taking the moral high ground just because you can does make you a better person. It just makes you a snob saying "I'm better than you".

Good for you to make your own decision...that means the decision is already there, go for it, and stay with your GF, whenever she needs you...

For her safety, do it earlier....

And of course, take care of your GF

TS, no need care what they wrote.. they only look for the surface.
Next time more more more carefully when ML.

I would assume most of the replies telling him to keep the baby and live happily ever after with no worries, are from immature people who had no idea whatsoever about responsibilities, both financially and emotionally as well as the time involved (not to mention the normal 9-5 working hours). Learn to be realistic.

He has only worked for 1 year. He has near to ZERO savings (anything less than 4 months of your own salary is NOT savings to be worth mentioning) and he has only been with the gf for 1 year. That is HARDLY STABLE.

For Gods sake, THINK with your brains. Ethics play no part whatsoever in this scenario if you cant even make it for the first FIVE years.

i'm sure ts still stay with parents.

let the granny look after the child, if possible get a maid under supervision of the granny. then both husband & wife get a work. RM1k each also can la.

what so damn diffucult about that?

Not staying with parents. Living on my own terms with my GF. How?

don do that man. the baby is the blessing. it is a give for both of u. baby is a good sign for couples.

u may regret in the future coz abortion means killing some1.

Ts.. mind to tell us about u?
How old r u now & race ?

when is the result ready? ur gf mummy is conservetif person? y u say can cause stroke, she had medical problem ah?

well, is a hard desicion to make, jus make sure you both won regret in anytime lo...