well i thank everyone who gave constructive feedback. i will just have to patiently wait for my GF to get back to me with the results from the doctor. We will take it from there. But honestly speaking, we're 80% leaning towards termination of pregnancy. Its a decision being made by both of us and we are prepared to live with the consequences of it. Makes me really sad but that's the best rational outcome....

TS and his gf will be the one greatly affected by it.  not you guys.  stop screaming murder!!

i do think that abortions are always harder for the gal.  TS will have to be extra sensitive to her needs emotionally.

Sigh. Most of you 'bleeding hearts' are convinced I'm doing this to avoid responsibility. Just so you know I'm gonna marry this woman whether the child is kept or not. But we cannot simply say hey we get married now and have the kid just cause its there... As pointed out countless times, its costly to raise a child and time consuming. Its not like a bloody digital game that you can just turn off whenever it suits you. Me and gf are not ready for that responsibility and it would make for a lousy upbringing. Sure we have the cash, but do we have the time? Its easy to say that we are murderers but I think i would rather be a murderer than a person who neglects his child. Least if i murder a baby they go without knowing anything rather than i torture someone from years of neglect. Hate me if you will curse me if you will I'm already upset that I have to make this decision because believe it or not I was very happy to hear she was pregnant. Its just that this is a terrible time for it to come along...

For those of you who have managed to see things from my end of the deal, thank you and rest assured I will take very good care of my GF. I love her very much and will definitely support her in the rough days to come.

And I will not show her this forum simply because too many of you are out to guilt trip us into keeping the child. You already know that GUILT will be a big part of the process and yet you seem intent on making us feel even guiltier. YOU ARE NOT HELPING. Taking the moral high ground just because you can does make you a better person. It just makes you a snob saying "I'm better than you".

Maybe he think this..
Milk.. should 4 package change to 2 package lo.
Pampers should 1 bag per month.. change to 1/2 bag lo..
Sakit..? makan kangkong can ardy..
Should giv him study.. haiya, bagi lepak kat luar jadi rempit sudah la.. 

Well, for those who are interested, the baby has been confirmed. The doctor confirmed the embryo is 4 weeks old and is about 1.5cm's in diameter. After much discussion with the doctor as well as family planning therapist, it has been decided that we are going to terminate the pregnancy. Termination will proceed this Wednesday so I hope that if indeed you are morally good people as you like to think you are, please pray for me and my gf as we make this very difficult decision. I asked her to keep the pregnancy just because I would like to have a child but after discussing things rationally we both have to agree that this is the best for all parties. On the brighter side of things, I have asked her to marry me and she has accepted. This does not change our decision to terminate the pregnancy as we cannot give the kind of support a child deserves in this troubling age. I may have lost a child... but at least I have gained a fiancee...

Thank you once again for your advice and kind words, especially to those who have supported me in this very difficult choice that I am forced to make...