TS, dont expect any really helpful replies here. Probably you could look thru past threads & PM the posters directly to see how they dealt with the situation

Just trying to think of the possible outcomes...

Outcome A : Decided to abort, and life goes back to normal

Outcome B : Decided to abort, but if there is future health complication, and later both of you wanted to have child, at the end of the day, the in-laws might be upset

Outcome C : Not to abort, the child is there, but question of cost and viability/ preparedness of both of you in taking care the child

Outcome D : Like #49, this is the compromise solution, a bit of gamble, but still, this is the compromise...

This post has been edited by Kampung2005: Mar 23 2009, 11:45 AM

Think for the child's future.. U want he become rempit or F1 racer.

Live within your own means. Be rational. Looking at things you have described, abortion is the best solution with compromisable outcome. Dont listen to all the crap about killing a child and all. Obviously, they do not think of possible future complications.

Only keep it if you are financially secured and you are serious about this relationship, other matters should not make you think otherwise. Live in the present, while you plan for your future.

maybe you could be more specific of what kind of answers you'll like to get and we'll gladly provide you with it.

well i thank everyone who gave constructive feedback. i will just have to patiently wait for my GF to get back to me with the results from the doctor. We will take it from there. But honestly speaking, we're 80% leaning towards termination of pregnancy. Its a decision being made by both of us and we are prepared to live with the consequences of it. Makes me really sad but that's the best rational outcome....

Just tips, u rather kill YOUR OWN CHILD or discuss with both side parents? i think your gf parent.. they also dun1 saw u kill their grand children as well..
Think wisely..

Omg,another fella that have same fate like me ... abortion O_O

Then, go for it...

You have your own consent and importantly, your GF...

In abortion, it doesn't necessarily mean that you may have future complications, just the possibility is there...

I don't condone abortion but then nevertheless, if you want to abort, please do it early!

Again, if both sides of parents found out, you maybe in cockles and that is a serious one in terms of impression

This post has been edited by Kampung2005: Mar 23 2009, 12:01 PM

whatever your decision, no abortion please. A child raised in difficulty, will grow up stonger and understanding, more than those pampered.

To save the situation and for the sake of her mother and your life, just propose her.

Even if you're not ready from any aspect like financial, emotional and stuff, just go with the flow.

Where there's a will, there is a way.

Kill the child, and be a murderer ? OR

save the child and be a father.

You choose.

This post has been edited by mannquin: Mar 23 2009, 12:14 PM

U confirm or not..? a lot ppl get married coz pregnant. After that discover because the child also !
Dun simply say murder.. abortion s'time is good the baby !

imagine if your mum would have to abort you long time ago.....

no offense, just my 2 cents

Life isnt a fantasy story tale. Reality bites harder than you think. Get real.

stick with her. she'll need your support emotionally.

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Added on March 23, 2009, 12:24 pmraising a child is not just abc or not just about money. it's difficult... and even more if you're not ready for it. it's one of the reasons there's so many orphans around. worst yet, blaming the child if you're stuck in an unhappy marriage. if can't provide why bring the child to suffer? even married couples aborts at times.

TS has made a decision. let it be.

This post has been edited by rourou: Mar 23 2009, 12:24 PM

I would be very grateful if jigsaw in SAW exists.

People like you guys who suggest to kill the child should be punished

This post has been edited by mannquin: Mar 23 2009, 12:34 PM

Man this is pathetic. The amount of people here saying "don't kill the baby! its innocent", "Abortion is murder" , "Think about the baby!" yadda yadda yadda. You all need to bloody grow up and start living in the real world.

Do you people have ANY F*CKING IDEA how much it costs to raise a baby? I'm not just talking financially, I'm also talking emotionally, physically and the amount of time it takes. The responsibility is HUGE, and most people won't be able to handle it well, which leads to poor child growth.

Its bloody annoying to see the same stuff being posted everytime someone creates a "omg im gonna be a daddy" topic. Try to empathise with the TS, try to imagine you're in his situation now. How can you help him? What advice can you give? Be helpful, instead of repeating things he already knows, just to make yourself seem morally superior.

TS, abortion seems to be your most likely solution. If you go ahead with it, bare in mind that the emotional trauma on your GF would be quite significant, pay more attention to her during the aftermath. Even if she doesn't show it, she may be suffering from guilt inside of her.

TS and his gf will be the one greatly affected by it. not you guys. stop screaming murder!!

www.babynames.com

Its all about you, you, and yourself only.
All you can see is u might not able to support the child, yeah right u were thinking u were so good to think for the child's benefit instead u are just selfish.

Its not that hard to raise a child, futhermore he had mention their financial are quite stable and both party seems to able to take the child without any problem, except TS scared of her mom might shocked to death?
That excuse is pretty lame to me.