I only want to know how many of you already engaged in a relationship at this age of mine ? 22 isn't old but ain't young either, shitty things are going on in my life,

I started to feel bored of staying with parents, my sis already married and my bro is moving to his new house, left me and my parents, they are good but many times I have been thinking, is it now the time I should move out and learn to be independent? I have left the home and stay in university for the first year, after that move back to stay with parents. I don't appreciate much during my 1st year at university which was 4 years ago, that time I was being naive and stupid. Because of the decision to stay at home, I was hard to meet new friends at uni, my class are few in girls, I do not talk well to both guys and girls classmates. Now going to uni is no different than going for a boring office work, the secondary school friends are busy with their careers, relationship and their final year in uni, leaving me alone and lost in my life.

My result isn't good and I have to extend the degree course by 1 year. Expecting a lonely year,

What I worrying now isn't how much money I could earn, what my parents have given me made my life comfortable enough. It's whether I will live and die alone if things keep their current way, seeing many blogs and friendsters around, many people at my age are leading a colorful life. Sometimes I think of that I rather be poorer a bit, if that's the price I need to pay in exchange of a unregrettable younger days. This isn't whining, there's many other people are sufferer than mine, I just feel setback at times

This post has been edited by MagicPudding: Oct 4 2008, 02:48 PM

Its even sadder to show your sadness in this forum.

Regardless what, you really need to improve your communication skills and go for outings with group of friends more. Be interactive.

Your problem is socialisation, you're not doing enough. Socialise, get to know people, both guys and girls, don't worry about getting a partner, that will come naturally as you socialise.

grass always greener on the other side huh

dont worry i also 22 still single

Yup .. go out more often. Meet up with new people and open up.

You can't expect people to love you if you don't love yourself.

It's too late and too busy to redo the socializing as now is my final year, that's why I have regret of choosing to stay at home because of comfortableness

Are you by any chance, choosy in meeting women?

i also like stay at home facin the computer. homy type

don't worry to much about it. yes, do try to socialize more but if your final year keeps you too busy, do so after your exams are over. Just get to know people. I'm 24, single and living with my parents but I still have lots of friends. In fact, my problem is finding time to meet with them!

The problem is not choosy in woman, title been edited, love relationship is just part of the bigger trouble. In fact, I even have difficulties in getting a friend, not even need to say girls

This post has been edited by Dzon: Oct 4 2008, 02:53 PM

27 y.o. here, flying solo

and having zilch in socilising attitude

when you feel great, tonnes of ppl feel better than you
when you feel bad, milions of ppl are worst than you

so do whats comes natural to you

you dont need to be poor jz to be more socialable fyi

no topic to chat when come to girls

i suggest u take a short course after u grad

So you're shy and passive type.

let me say something about the culture in my family, my parents plan well for our future, they saved enough money for educational and future needs. They used to be stingy, which is why we almost never went on a family trip before, the things I did during school break were mostly reading books, going shopping complexes. My family members sucks in expressing feelings, celebrating birthdays, mother and fathers day is not a tradition of my family. In other words, my family life is quite dull. Not I want to blame them but I grewed up in these cultures which made me quite dull and closed-minded as well.

maybe u can join this gathering to know more frens

UPCOMING GAYTHERING.
Lai lai hamsup meruchan gaythering~

Date : 10 Oct
Time : Noon start all the way to the next day
Venue : Mana mana pun pergi
Agenda :
If friday afternoon got people free den we can go karaoke first. tongue.gif
Dinner cum shisha @ hartamas square at 7.30pm
Moving to Bar Celona around 10.30 liddat. wink.gif

The world is just awesome!
I love the whole world , and all the sights and sounds. Boom de ya da!

like that need to carry how much $$$ wor?

Excuses, its never too late, and you're never too busy. If you're too busy, that just shows you do not know how to manage your time, you're trying to tell me its hard to spare 1-2 hours in a day to go yumcha with friends or something? Set some time on the weekends or something to go have fun and socialise. Whether its going to clubs, pubs, a book club, etc. Just go somewhere where you can meet people. Stop making excuses for yourself.

I am thinking of studying or working outstation actually, but my age defeats my wish. I feel that's not enough time for me, I wish to change thoroughly in 1-2 years.

hmm, thanks for invitation, but it is weird to hang out together just that

There you go. You identified your problems. If you have the will, break the tradition.

stop complaining and live life happilly... u are too comfortable until u look down on urself..this is a bad mistake..Don't ever look down on yourself.. u got parents.. no one love u more than parents...u should be happy that u got them..

u see other people got colorful life but do you ever know what things they faced? it is not all good by just looking..they won't be telling u how hard their life was or what they ever failed in life...

to be frank.. im same with u.. but i never look down on myself until make my life so hopeless... be cheerful and think brightly then u will me happy..

This post has been edited by PinkyWhite: Oct 4 2008, 03:05 PM

You are right, however in my current situation, I found it weird to suddenly call up people which never called me, seldom talk to me, to have a meetup or events. I am a person that worry about what people think of me, I know I have to wipe off of that. At times I feel some of my friends call me only when they need my help, when they are living good they won't bother me. To call them out means I have to let go of my ego.

This post has been edited by MagicPudding: Oct 4 2008, 03:06 PM

I'm 22, still studying, still staying at home while all my friends have already been working for a few months or years..., yes i do regret about my decision for staying at home and still taking pocket money from parent but there's nothing i can do about my pass...so what i do is focus on what i should do now and stop feeling being useless..

u still 22...still got time ma

hey bro...no worries man. Here to encourage you.....go go go!!

Anyway, if finding a friend is a little difficult, try to know ppl with at least something in common, in hobby wise, find a group or something, forum gathering........... like Nike said JUST DO IT!

interested to join a new course?

pak-toh-logy

And you have a problem letting your ego out? You haven't realized your enemies don't you?

This post has been edited by peinsama: Oct 4 2008, 03:12 PM

Then let go of it. I'll give you a task.

Pick up your phone, call one or more of your friends, and ask them out for a movie/lunch/dinner/drinks/etc. Then just go meet up with them and talk. Don't expect anything except maybe some catching up, or something. Go, do this, NOW. Its a saturday, just call someone and see if they're free to hangout.

human mentality is a complex thing, what I perceive their live is a sinusoidal wave, my life is a straight horizontal life, everyday live the same routine, it's neither good nor bad.

haih. I have plan to reform after my current year, that time still studying in uni but will be much free in time.

Sometimes I can't help to think too much

Did someone mention its saturday? Yay....its CATURDAY!!!

hmph... u need a lecture! i will nag u till ur ear burn!!!! BOOMBOOMBOOM~

Damn sometimes I am getting frustrated, I think of I should not deserve this kind of life. Thinking that I can only do little or nothing to amend things, I started to feel sad and the future is bleak, I keep thinking more of these as I am getting older. At 22 years old, I can't even achieve things of 16 year old did.

This post has been edited by MagicPudding: Oct 4 2008, 03:21 PM

let me try to make you feel better

maybe you learn something from my experience

i am 27 y.o
like you i inheret a big ego from my father, the never wanna lose kinda way.

Unlike you i don't have the opportunity to study in Uni or college
My edu ends at Form 6 and so is my social life
started working shortly after
till now, I am still with the same company

1st three years is due to family issue
I become the breadwinner temporary
after that the situation improved, my elder brother got a job
work life is work life,
the recreation club organized outing, I would always shy away
never gone out to have a beer after work with the colleague

Right now i would say, I was a very cynical person
couple with "stories of friendship" from my father
and my own life experience (keep holding on to the memories of friend using me for their own gain)

I never ever really have a good friend
I have friends that, when others more popular friends are not around
would come look for me
Invitation to night supper/gathering, again I shy away

My phone always has over due credit, and a year I would reload it ~ 10 times only (RM10~30)

then 3 years back met a girl at work
again my EGO have the better of me
couldnt let go the thinking of me being sub-par to her
that I thought I could not handle the rejection - which is a certainty

then couple of week back
everything snapped,
she have found someone (unofficially info)

and my heart was broken even before anything has started

now, two week of maddnessss
I am just happy reeling back the pieces of my life back together

SO whats is the lesson:
1. EGO is useful in winning fights, not a way of life
2. Dont analyse everything soo much, you tend to loose focus on whats important - Life
3. Forget the bad stuff, always remember the good stuff that happens around you
4. add your own here...

SO whats is the lesson:
1. EGO is useful in winning fights, not a way of life
2. Dont analyse everything soo much, you tend to loose focus on whats important - Life
3. Forget the bad stuff, always remember the good stuff that happens around you
4. add your own here...
5. Profit?

man what's wrong with being single?

come everybody curse me so that I will not fall in love with ANY women. I need it.

have u had a relationship with a girl before(boyfen girlfren) If u dont, its trouble, but if u have b4, its quite normal to be single at 22, let it go by its nature for 2 years, sure can find love one

thanks mcchin for the long reply, arghh the biggest culprit inside me is the egoistic, I am not quite the shy type, but all the time I just don't want to let people think of me as a desperate person. I have these problems, but I hope no real people know that I have this problem, which is why I could only voice out in forums, don't even dare to write a blog on that.

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Added on October 4, 2008, 3:41 pmnever in a relationship before, only there was once a girl was being over friendly to me, but we never begin on that, that was many years ago.

This post has been edited by MagicPudding: Oct 4 2008, 03:41 PM

I curse you to fall in love with a woman, 300 pounds in weight, suffering from severe acne and eating disorders, but she'll be good in bed (or as a bed).

LOL~

so what? i also 22..never been in a relationship..no big deal

hahaha

From what u say,
i think u are just dont wan to do it
else, go do it now and dont keep on thinking of waiting
telling us ur life just make us think u are missing something
But the missing thing is the thing u need to go for it

I know I ought to do something, just that don't have the guts

Coward

i'm 20, working and still living the single life, so shut up.

im 24..and now im single

his 22 not 20~~

hm.. my turn, im 10 and im single XD

Go start a project or something; have a short-term target to achieve. For instance, finish reading a book or cultivate a plant from seed.

For me, i've set my target to visit Tokyo next year. So, i'd make myself busy immersing the culture and read Japanese handbooks till next year, when i fly there alright.

Single here as well; like ak_suknat said, i rather have someone curse me to not liking a girl, it's a poisoned chalice really

u are really 10?

I am single and theoretically I don't have friends as well

all you need its guts.... be a man dude..... 22 d... if ur social skills r still bad... u will suffer 2 during your working life...

find friend here then

I'm 14

41 isit...

i'm single too.. so? lolz

no wonder lah you abit hamsap

really 14 la

u r only 22 as a guy.... enjoy ur single life 1st man..... is too hard to work outside and all those things seem arisen and... i hate working in malaysia

SINGLE MA SINGLE LOH!!!! You Found a Girl that you liked... but she dont like you ... MA DONT LIKE LO .....!!!!! Face ugly ...... MA UGLY LO!!!!!!! people hate you .... MA HATE YOU LO!!!!!

You got your life... you're living good with your family.... have money to spend.... got so many entertainment nowadays like PS3, Astro and SPA... mai enough lo ....




Heh.... but im not like that :]

This post has been edited by TC5-Jenny: Oct 4 2008, 04:11 PM

ever heard of one night stands !?!?

i like this word 做不了“第一”，就做“唯一”！

mmm this is to remind me to be strong.. i'm not the best but i can be unique because i know that will be no 2nd me exsiting in this world

honestly, ur life sucks.

but cheer up, if u get a nice gf, life will be better!

but after getting married, it will suck agian

I don't have many savings lah, moneys are with my parents account, wish I could work if I got flexible schedule.

life will be colorful once again if u know how to utilise it and painting with different colors..... it will not be hopeless time if u never give up , i mean many pretties are waiting for their mr.right.. it could be u man..
Cheers

All you need to do is spam in CC. At least we get to know you.....as anonymous.

is it really ok to ask people out ramdomly?
http://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?act=ST&f=23&t=808113

Sorry, means your are still studying?

Maybe being single in 22years old still ok, after study can find a suitable job and start save-up some money for your future.

Single now is not bad, money all spend on your own, got extra can save up in bank.

If not single means sometimes you have to spend on your Gf sometimes . . .

Now a days many people around age 19-23 years old engage means they are not careful enough!

1st u have to know, u adi have a lots of friends here in LYN forum
2nd, in real life, its time for u to grow up, throw away all those guts, shy...and just go to build up ur socialise skill

And oh ya...many ppl say single is not bad too,
after i experience relationship(s), i tell u very honestly,
it totally sux....u feel worst than death when ur partner got some problem
when u holding the edge of a relationship it becomes
u wan death, cannot death;u wan live, she wont let u neither

like every body is saying here

ease off on the egoistik thinking

making frens involve some sacrifice

time, money(for the good of everyone type) and some of your attitude
which this case might be a good thing

u know wat ts..marriage is not the only thing u hav to think 24/7 or is not the only goal in our life as a mankind..at ur age,u can collect money,hav fun with frens,travel around the world,spending your time with family(well u know parents are not there till u old..So giving them some token of appreciation is enuf to make'em happy) n so on..dont just watch ur frens couple n feel jealous..grab something to do or just have fun with ur frens n family..by the time u realize the time has passed, u feel relieved coz u done all the enjoyment in ur life..juz giv u 1 advice..

FIND YOUR MAIN GOAL IN UR LIFE..and evrythg will do juz fine..gud luck TS..

ZZZZZZZZZZZ.

Just chill la. Dun need to kepoh kepoh whether u got a gf or not.

Go and find lots n lots of money 1st. U dun have money, u dun have anything. xD

ya money is important...
if no money, u no money to buy food...always need to think where to korek money so that can fill ur tummy...think till white hair also alot liao...pimples also more pop out...
if no money, u dare to go pak toh but ask girl to pay meh...where to put ur face!!

if got money, no need to 'fan' so many things...

last time my whole harta pusaka left rm20, feel so shit...need to sell things to make ends meet...but that was past, nw with money, feel so good...hahaha

I CANT STOP LAUGHING
but well said

not to worry.. when fate arrive, it will enlighten your path. Just live the life to the fullest, having faith is fate. understand?

In the first place, it doesn't seem like you're having any significant problem at all if you could minus out all that self-pity nonsense out of the equation.

On the otherhand, you're in a hell lot better position than others who are less fortunate which doesn't give you the right to procrastinate and delay living life the way you want to.

Wake up, kid. And do something. Because you know you can.

you told my story.. 1 year in advance... You're taking engineering degree? IS it the reason for less gal in class?

Agree this
Other than looking outside keep on jealous on something ppl have
Time to look things around ur side and appreciate what u having now

whooaaaa TS. u 22 and whining already.

i'd love to see what you be doing when u r 30. probably be an hero long before that already.

顺其自然啦。船到了桥头自然直。

很多像你年龄的人也还是单身呀！甚至比你大几岁的也有。所以你不必那么忧愁吧！

不过，别误会我的意思。我并不是叫你不要去找个终生伴侣。其实你现在应该开始去参加一些活动以便认识多一些人。

如果你整天躲在家里的话，你以为女子自动会上门吗？就算你自动自发的去找，你也未必会成功。至少还有成功的机会。

This post has been edited by samteng: Oct 5 2008, 12:17 AM

haha
1st year in ENG is hard.
same as me.
u got pile of works, u ain't got time to spend your rest of your time
like example 12 hours study, 2 hours eat, 6 hours sleep, 2 hours driving,
2 hours do your own stuffs

sometimes u need someone by your site.
i think the daily routine,
not girl's problems and stuffs.

My banana pawwah is high. Need translator NOW.

lol
u donno how to read?

22 only ma.. u should only worry when u are 30 and still in the same situation

你大概自覺不吸引 找不到戀人
你大概路過望別人一個個熱吻
孺惜 完全竇氣氛
偏你卻是軍身 令你不合群
可憐人 從沒有愛侶相擁一吻
你大概自尊心不再 再不敢出來
你大概害怕到未來 一世也沒被人愛
請看開 看別人甜蜜也閉O意外
不只你 和自卑比賽

*明日或者相愛變傳奇
但是你必先好好生活爭氣
生命似在垂死 只曾被嫌棄
在這殘酷世紀 不斷別離
能自愛別與世間去比
讓自信優雅地哪愁沒運氣
上天總找到你
來日註定愛的總愛你*

你大概未搞清真愛 要等等不來
你驟看 幸福的一對
不見背後漸忘愛
請看開 每段情其實也經歷苦海
不只你 有這種感慨

REPEAT**

如約愛在世間總愛你

Can i sing Beyond here?

TS is just another fangon...

Your future life even worse woh.....40 liao still virgin

at least i am not fangon..

and the future can be changed.

Good luck, John Connor

Me age 30 Life is Monotone ... works-eat-sleep-work TT

bahagia kalau single

Aku paham

What Wrong with me

nothingwrong, ur name is cheong.....go cheong to seek happiness