nolah... i just dun wan myself to dwell in this anymore... just wanna make sure myself is alrite...someteims i duno whether im lie-ing to myself or not...i got a shock myself when i cried when my relatives ask me...n i couldnt control my tears n i hate it..cos i tot i have let go when i told myself tat im not going to think of going back....but when i cry..i am not sure...

guess mayb when i really let go..i can feel it myself?...when i really really dun give a damn on it anymore...

Are you ready for a new relationship or feeling comfortable with being single now? - Yeah, like suffaxile said, take it slow, sooner or later you will know for sure that you no longer dwell on the past anymore. But for now, it's a good sign that you decided not to dwell in this and I don't think you're lying to yourself. I really don't know why girls can just suddenly cry. Probably they are more emotionally attached, but that doesn't mean it will take them longer to heal.

just feel like not use to it after being back , and not use to it to lot things that done during the relationship...what to do..coz myself that lame

You patched with her back but you're not used to it?

vowed to stay single after 2 failed relationships this year
seriously, its so "sien" when shit happens.

it is what you called life. Find someone who wont feel "sien" when bad stuff happens. Learn how to move on when stuff happens

hehe...it's definitely siens when shyts happen wert i'm happy to be single. can flirt around some more.

Entertainment is a good way to pass time.

Just know how to seek fun

This post has been edited by Kampung2005: Aug 10 2010, 12:12 AM

Sometimes i thought i have got over it, but sometimes i still cry at night. I still see his facebook although i've deleted him. and it's quite a bad habit now that i often check him out after the breakup. and his posts makes me hurt. why am i doing that? i am just so stupid....

If u ask me, i am tired and scared to go back to the relationship with him. but i seriously miss him alot. and sometimes i wonder, does this really happening to me? why does it happen? was it just a misunderstanding? i dont know if i am regretting now or it's part of the healing process, where some times u will breakdown....

Pls help.....

sebrina, didn't we talk about this before? flashbacks will happen. No matter how strong you think you are, when you are at the lowest moment , it will come back to haunt you . It doesnt matter how many times the flashbacks comes, it matter are you going to give in to those flashbacks or be strong. Your choice Your call

i was like u before... but one day i just woke up and realized that i have to stop looking at her fb etc or i'll end up just stuck there hanging and nvr move on.
i also sometimes think of her and miss her when im lonely, but u have to stay strong and one day, u will be strong enough to leave it behind. but whats important is that u must have the intention to move forward first.

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH..Accidentally saw my ex pic in fb. he brings his new gf to meet up with his family. should i cry or laugh? Seriously, my tears almost drop but i laughed. i wanna cry because i see the one who is once so close to me is hugging another gal, i wanna laugh is because i dono y i was so stupid to spend my five and half years time loving someone like this..and his current gf is not pretty. Great. probably she is just treating him the way so NICE. whatever it is.. what goes around, comes around.

there is a reason why he's in the past. its because he does not belong to your future. dont get too saddddd eyyyy.. you are still probably just bitter. it'll pass

yea.. i will be okay.. Funny. his mom called my mom to apologize. that's crazy.. i'm doing well for these few weeks. starting to get use of life without him.. sometimes i still saw him around the college with his gf. it's kinda hurt but i don't really care anymore..

haha wow ! thats new ! guess thats the good thing of having a long relationship, well mine was just her mum text me to try to work things out but it didnt happen. been like nearly 6 months already yet still not doing too well well, taking the dont care approach is a must !

Agree..!!!

Well,got some new issue happen to my friend these few days,she and her bf ad together for 6 years,but she found out that he bf together with a china lady(yes,came from CHINA),and her bf choose to follow the china lady who currently working in pub,the problem is my fren still duwan to lepas her bf,she STILL go out with him everyday even she knew her bf dating with another lady......

BUMP! I think what you wrote there actually does helps those that is dreadfully going through such circumstances in life where they cant let go of their ex-es .

BUMP. How about getting a new partner after a break-up? It will shift your mind from your ex-gf/bf to new partner.

i think is a "habit" in wanting to feel the "present" of our ex in our life...
sometime we tend to find out wat happen to him / her is because we want to know that... he / she not being good because of the separation... but when they are happy... we do feel like loser...
so i think... move on.. find another target... swift your attention will be good... to show off to ur ex that... u live BETTER than him /her...