wah..you must be deeply hurt man    ...
well, im like you keep having flashbacks from march til now.. 3 months denial stage.. i feel you
nothing much can be done now, esp when they just got their new lifestyle now, they are enjoying themselves be it single or with a new partner.
yeah we all know we have to be strong and move on after all these attempts, but its easier said than done. 
right now im also trying to heal, but sometimes just keep falling and have to climb back up again..

to everyone here....let's live ur life better than before yeah!....let's try our best... i know is hard to do...i am also in the same path as all of u here...ex has already moved on with other gal...afraid to tell family scare they would worry about me...still trying after 2 months now.. i do fall sometimes n get emo..do think of talking back to him when i get emo but i know after that situation will get worse..i will think about more things......perhaps we need companion...mayb during this time we know who our true frens are ...hmm...alittle out of topic..haha

*high 5 to all!

thx for the advice Neonlight, yea sometimes i will think like that also,  be strong and convince myself that i deserve better.
but the hardest thing to get rid is - 'the feeling of love', because we still love our ex, we are not ready to separate yet - that's the feeling that make us suffering now.
no matter what i think and do, this feeling is there to make me down. i will keep miss her and wanted her to come back. but i know thats impossible already..
she already said it straight to my face ' i dont love you like i did anymore ' ARG#$%3353@3ggHHHHHHHH !!! PAIN aaaaa! 

maybe like what lazytongue said.. perhaps we need companion.. not used to getting single..

used to be good in relationship, but now.
she busy,
so i waited her,
then turning back and say don't wait for me, you may find someone better than me

mental breakdown on the spot.
 

sometimes i wonder why..why must those stupid dumpers can be so cruel..
how can they just leave like that? like nothing happen 

i hope so.
i was damn emo, heartbroken after receiving this
no choice but to just let her go...
i'll let god decide on this fate.

i do understand that i can't force him and i can't do anything anymore. There's no moving backwards but it's just so hard to move on sometimes. All i have to do now is stop having feelings on him. i believe when i don't love him anymore, that's the time i'll be fully recovered.    but i wonder how long do i need?    there's no answer.

oh hi cheryl, how are you now? feeling better?
neonlight bro,
not to pour cold water on you, but dont put too much hope on it, because you will fall more deeply if the outcome arent what you expect.. and by greeting you birthday doesnt mean she wanted to get back to you. to her it can be a normal friend greetings.
like for my case, i dont know why my ex still have the pics of us together in her fb..but our status have both changed to 'single'
i dont know what is she thinking.

is it she forgot to remove?
or by remaining those pic there, means she still have feeling on me?
or because she feel guilty? thats why she dont want to remove yet..
or she dont even bother about those pic at all, and totally forget already?

i dare not put too much hope on there too..because i scare to fall for the second time again. 

Painzz, whenever ppl ask me "how are u", i will say “Oh, I’m fine.”
Sometimes i hope there's someone looking into my eyes and say “Tell the truth.”

My heart cries, i know i need time.. he's doing very well now as i can see. i feel so unfair yet i can't do anything. i collapsed but i will try my best to stand up again. Without him doesn't mean i can't live. i do understand i must move on no matter what or how. It's just sometimes it hurts so much when i feel i'm cheated and yet he is so happy now.

u gonna accept the fact. there's no U-turn. no matter how much u don't like it to be, u still gonna accept they're just way this cruel. it does hurt a lot but there's just nothing we can do anymore....

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Added on June 4, 2010, 9:03 pm

Much appreciated.    before and when breakup, nice and good listeners from here had guided and accompany me to walk through this.. if you guys are not here for me, i think i was really burst dy. Thanks 

ah...yeah...i refrained myself from talking to him...it`s just that sometimes when i emo..i will feel like finding him. but in this 2 months, i think i have been progressing. Mayb i know that he has already got a girl. So, i dun really want to be stupid again.
hm...he din directly say about the gal ..then after that he turn back again his word n say that i think too much..there is no such girl...
he aso didn:t remove his fb pic where we took together with his sis during their wedding..
haih...i just dun wan to put any hope anymore although thats my situation. mayb he just feels guilty..so he dare not tell me he got gf already.
Starting from this yr, our relationship hasnt been good. Temporary separation until April we call it off. Before April, it was really suffering for me. I feel that after we really broke up, i feel better. Maybthere is　an ending.　Although after we broke up, we still went out but after tat it affects me. So i just ban myself from seeing each other.
I think that if there is a chance i meet a better guy...when i look back. I would have thank him for letting this go. Mayb its just part of it that God wants me to learn b4 i met the Mr. Right. Mayb during that time when we look back ourselves, we will just think that it is nothing. It is part n parcel of life. So, prove to ourselves that we will live better than b4。lets support one another here

"You will cry, tears will dry, time will pass and you will move on that’s the way it goes." Gambatte Dumpees!! 

Sometimes Im just worried I wouldn't get a good guy who loves me as much as my ex did...
I am someone who would love you and depend on you when i trust you, why do guys always hurt us when we're most vulnerable?
It's all unexpected...

vowed to stay single after 2 failed relationships this year
seriously, its so "sien" when shit happens.

Sometimes i thought i have got over it, but sometimes i still cry at night. I still see his facebook although i've deleted him. and it's quite a bad habit now that i often check him out after the breakup. and his posts makes me hurt. why am i doing that? i am just so stupid....

If u ask me, i am tired and scared to go back to the relationship with him. but i seriously miss him alot. and sometimes i wonder, does this really happening to me? why does it happen? was it just a misunderstanding? i dont know if i am regretting now or it's part of the healing process, where some times u will breakdown....

Pls help.....