Few years back, i liked this particular guy a lot (so much so I was willing to forego the then current relationship for - due to incompatibility). He also has a long time 7-yr girlfriend then (but told me that he'd been wanting to end it but there was no reason to do so). The flower almost blossomed but died a pre-mature death when the he suddenly pulled out stating he felt guilty over the gf.

2 years back, they've gotten married but still telling me he's not happy blah blah and missing me blah blah, and the worse decision ever was to get married with his gf and if given a chance would have tried it out between us few yrs back.

What do you guys//girl think of these type of man?

It's very fair of you to explain that. Although I don't doubt that many people start a new relationship after a breakup to forget about the ex, there are actually many whom wants to make a new r/ship work. They may try hard and even try their best but sometimes things just wouldn't work out. They might run back to their ex-es which I think would be a better choice than staying in a new r/ship for so long until he or she hurts the other partner.

I have walked out from a r/ship of almost 6 years and have been single for more than a year. Never thought of getting a rebound because I believe love is like fate. You'll know when you find one. Don't force yourself to do something that you're unwilling because the outcome is not going to be a desired one.

I like how you'll wait for her at the cafe, but I can tell you, in this way, you're indirectly applying pressure to her. Making her feel bad that she makes you wait. But if she appeared (out of kindness), you might think that she still love you. It's a dilemma isn't it?

Thanks el. I'm slowly coming to terms on what's happening around me. But I have myself to blame, coz I contacted her again last night. It makes me feel troubled after the conversation. For the past 1 week, I dreamt abt her almost every night. Huh..

I did wait for her at the cafe on thursday night. And I was sure she wouldn't turn up becoz she's in Johor, I'm in KL and the cafe is in KL. I went to the cafe, snapped a photo n mms to her just to let her know I was there. Then I left. I agree it may pressure her. And I'm also sure she wouldn't come back just becoz of this. Stupid or naive as I may, I just hope to do whatever I could, so that I could have no regret later. I do hope sth may happen, but I would still move on with life. I hope I could do just fine.

The best way to move on is to keep yourself busy. I know it's difficult to resist dialing her number. How about deleting the number so you can't press that dial? Control yourself and after a period of time, you'll find yourself moving on. Go out with some friends on thursday and don't go waiting at the cafe again.

forget him
FORGET HIM!
forGET hiM!!
ForgEt Himm!!!
FORGET FORGET FORGET!!!

correct????

I'm in step 2 now >.<

Everybody feels the same, so you're not alone.

We do feel the same..
There's still this place for us to whine without disturbing ur frens

true 

After SPM, travel.