hey , I was tried so hard to quit my last relationship, your thread is a bible at for the one who has to pass this phase.

It's a big hit for me , am I really this this guy? the one who fooled me around and dump me without a proper reason?!

I am thinking....

Mmmm i cant wait for "How to get over a relationship" BUMP!

Bump!

bump..!!

This post has been edited by mizwateva: Aug 28 2010, 11:56 AM

2 months of relationship may take you 2 years 2 recover

exactly. it may take years for a brief relationship.

BUMP ! Just broke up yest nite after 1 year + of relationship.

I am happy, I am moving on !

its good for u ..

i am still suffering from scar for a 4 years relationship ..

exactly
Mine took me 1 year ++ to recover

i feel you.
mine is 5 years relationship.
still suffering now.

if 2 months need to suffer for 2 years.
how about 4-5 years for us? lol i dare not think.

i purposely register a new account to keep myself more anonymous...been here too long to use my old account...i just need to vent out...

i just had the most painful break up in my history..i had many past rships..all failed..feel like such a failure..

how could i get over a gal whom i treated her all my heart & trust, only to be told she missed her ex and would go back to him? all in the space of a few days, right after a trip to cameron when i thought all was merry & happy...worst part is there's not even a single indication at all until the very moment...came as a total shock...i guess the only redemption is we were together for only 1 & half months...

i'm so tired...

She's not worth it.

I wonder if she went for you as a rebound.

Rebound is so unfair to the anyone who will be doormat.

Calm down, confide with your friends and start afresh, new day

Few years back, i liked this particular guy a lot (so much so I was willing to forego the then current relationship for - due to incompatibility). He also has a long time 7-yr girlfriend then (but told me that he'd been wanting to end it but there was no reason to do so). The flower almost blossomed but died a pre-mature death when the he suddenly pulled out stating he felt guilty over the gf.

2 years back, they've gotten married but still telling me he's not happy blah blah and missing me blah blah, and the worse decision ever was to get married with his gf and if given a chance would have tried it out between us few yrs back.

What do you guys//girl think of these type of man?

Ignore him.

He is not for long term.

He only whines when things going against his way.

I trust she didn't come to me as a rebound..it was me who went for her..her ex and ex were together for more than 4 years, so then what is our 1 month or so? They shared so much memories, went to UK together..it was that cameron trip that rekindled her memory with her ex in UK..it just feels like I've just shot myself for planning the trip..

I know I have to let go, but I can't..

I would suggest you to just walk away and keep a distance from him. I'm sure you can find a better guy than him.

Just because you have failed quite a number of relationships, doesn't mean you are a failure. It can be very demotivating for you knowing that she wants to go back to her ex. You have already done this several times on letting go the girls you loved previously, even though it was the worse break up ever, always remember that there are many more important things for you to face.

Thanks bluewind.

I told her I will wait for her. Yes, I'm just being ignorant. I guess I just love her very much to forget her. Told her I will wait for her every last day of the month at the cafe where we first met. We got together on the 31st of a particular month. I know she won't turn up..

But then I'll be fine since it's not the first time I have to face these. I just want to vent out here..it's really disheartening..but I know there r worse cases than me..

how to get over a past relationship..?

It's very fair of you to explain that. Although I don't doubt that many people start a new relationship after a breakup to forget about the ex, there are actually many whom wants to make a new r/ship work. They may try hard and even try their best but sometimes things just wouldn't work out. They might run back to their ex-es which I think would be a better choice than staying in a new r/ship for so long until he or she hurts the other partner.

I have walked out from a r/ship of almost 6 years and have been single for more than a year. Never thought of getting a rebound because I believe love is like fate. You'll know when you find one. Don't force yourself to do something that you're unwilling because the outcome is not going to be a desired one.

I like how you'll wait for her at the cafe, but I can tell you, in this way, you're indirectly applying pressure to her. Making her feel bad that she makes you wait. But if she appeared (out of kindness), you might think that she still love you. It's a dilemma isn't it?