Nope. I stepped into my late 30s n i still seldom go to bars. I would say joining activities would be a good start.
I spend most of my time between exercising, work, and travels.
How do I meet people? from work or from exercising and also dating apps although I've only a hand full of ppl from apps.

Really tak paham why most reply here focus on the solution instead of solving the root cause first?

Yall keep giving suggestion after suggestion when TS only just gave half baked details.

Late 30's, above average, financial stable but yet to score a decent dude? Does not sounds fishy and red flag to you meh?

I don't mean disrespect or look down on you TS. But if you want alternatives from public, you need to at least come clean about yourself too.

perhaps too choosy. got money and got look, not easy to find a man to match her standard?
my single women colleagues are like that. earning 5 digits in early 40s, go yoga, go home hug dogs and go travel. no need man.

try going to church or ngo kinda gathering. shud be some1 waiting for u out ther

or u can go the slutty way, go happy hour and know garbage guys

nowadays...
Quality Male are 1 of the rarest commodity in Market.

What are the characteristics of this rare Quality Male?

I'm not even 30 yet, but I think I would marry someone your age if im still single around late 30s or reaching 40 soon
if you're average or above average looking one, at that age, still looking good then why not?
looks are subjective, some people doesn't really look at looks as long as the person looks acceptable to them. beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder right?
I've recently met a girl through cmb, went out with her once, she told me as long as she can accept the looks of the guy, then why not? after all cannot be someone below her 'standards' cuz its a face you have to see pretty often and also to kiss.. lol. It make sense anyway, if you find someone ugly, would you even wanna kiss that person?

guys at late 30s to early 40s would probably be hanging out at a bar or some place more mature no?
like what other have said here, you can try to be more proactive, wear clothes that would put you out there getting attentions. since you don't drink, then try joining more activities online.
everyone starts off somewhere.. just be more proactive and willing to start or initiate a chat

honestly chatting here or through dating app - is like no difference to me?
everyone is just hiding behind words. You only get to know someone's true self when you meet face to face. Whether their actions are true to what they've said. some ppl are all talk and no action.
just start slow. get some matches, initiate a few chats, chat for a few days to feel them out, then come out and meet up at some place public. Have a meal, some decent long chat. If feel like they are good then continue to meet a few more times. no good then thank you bye bye..
There are still plenty of good guys out there de..
slowly find.. but first, come out from kampung. you are already being hindered by your location.

just wondering, what if the guy is a divorcee with no kids? would you date and marry someone like that?

I guess it can get pretty traumatising if first few tries ady met a weirdo... Reflecting back, were there red flags you shrugged off during the chatting period? Intuition is very helpful to ward off potential bad apples; it's basically your subconscious telling you that someone/something is good/bad by reading subtle cues like body language, things that your conscious self did not pick on. Our brain is really quite brilliant in that, so give more credits to your unknown self.

We had decent chat then he asked me out after 1 month.

With IVF process it helps couple to choose the healthy eggs and sperms to get women pregnant, that’s only part of it. U are right women’s fertility ability plays important role too to carry and grow babies, normal women should be able to get pregnant by 45 unless they are unhealthy according Fertility doctor.

I am also hitting my 40s already pretty soon. I am also not sure if I should be seeking as well. Traumatized by my previous relationship 
I tried dating apps (but end up giving up swiping) cause I am someone who is very lazy to go for outings cause most the time I do things solo. Go coffee or camping solo. Am so used to it already anyways. I guess I am lacked in confidence nowadays.

i highly suggest u to go do a very detailed research on this matter.
on my own research, after age 35, bearing children will increase the genetic risks by a huge margin.
the child born have very high chance of having some sort of issue.

after going through your replies, i can see your future bf / husband will need to walk on eggshells.
because 1 factor, u have the need to win and only concede when people are being nice or making a big turn just to tell u something straight forward.

From your point of view, I interpreted that guys like submissive women, am not easy to deal with? haha, aiks.... maybe I should learn up "Green Tea" skill.

The concept of “ love” for majority of guys is a bit different from ladies.
Guys  are born with inherent hero instinct in their heart.
They values “respect” from their significant other, more than just the emotional part of love according to most ladies understanding..

There are a lot about respect, and it doesn't mean like what in Japanese culture things.

It's a lady putting herself at about same level of her guy, yet talk and act in ways her guys inherently wish to get.

If a lady adore a strong, capable, resilient and extraordinary responsible guy with high integrity guy, means to prepare to handle his strong characteristics.. means to every time,  use the inherently born soft nature of lady to deal with any disagreement. Because softness conquer the strong.

If lady prefer to have major says or dos in anything in the r.ship or marriage, means a guy who is willing to accept the nature of this lady is a better fit

It's a two way street.

However it's true that a lot of guys secretly like the so called green tea style, because that kind of treatment make them feel comfortable, and sometimes kick up their hero instinct.

In other words, a good and high value lady learn various effective skills and apply on right times ..Not to say that it's to chg the integrity of the lady.
But in order to let the r. ship or marriage  sustain

And only the right guy in the eyes of the lady, deserves.

Tier B
- Responsibility
- Loyalty
- Willing to Sacrifice
- Not Ego Babi

Tier A
- Smart
- Humor
- Confident

Tier S
- Creativity
- Wisdom
- Charisma
- Leadership

The concept of “ love” for majority of guys is a bit different from ladies.
Guys  are born with inherent hero instinct in their heart.
They values “respect” from their significant other, more than just the emotional part of love according to most ladies understanding..

There are a lot about respect, and it doesn't mean like what in Japanese culture things.

It's a lady putting herself at about same level of her guy, yet talk and act in ways her guys inherently wish to get.

If a lady adore a strong, capable, resilient and extraordinary responsible guy with high integrity guy, means to prepare to handle his strong characteristics.. means to every time,  use the inherently born soft nature of lady to deal with any disagreement. Because softness conquer the strong.

If lady prefer to have major says or dos in anything in the r.ship or marriage, means a guy who is willing to accept the nature of this lady is a better fit

It's a two way street.

However it's true that a lot of guys secretly like the so called green tea style, because that kind of treatment make them feel comfortable, and sometimes kick up their hero instinct.

In other words, a good and high value lady learn various effective skills and apply on right times ..Not to say that it's to chg the integrity of the lady.
But in order to let the r. ship or marriage  sustain

And only the right guy in the eyes of the lady, deserves.