I'm not even 30 yet, but I think I would marry someone your age if im still single around late 30s or reaching 40 soon
if you're average or above average looking one, at that age, still looking good then why not?
looks are subjective, some people doesn't really look at looks as long as the person looks acceptable to them. beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder right?
I've recently met a girl through cmb, went out with her once, she told me as long as she can accept the looks of the guy, then why not? after all cannot be someone below her 'standards' cuz its a face you have to see pretty often and also to kiss.. lol. It make sense anyway, if you find someone ugly, would you even wanna kiss that person?

guys at late 30s to early 40s would probably be hanging out at a bar or some place more mature no?
like what other have said here, you can try to be more proactive, wear clothes that would put you out there getting attentions. since you don't drink, then try joining more activities online.
everyone starts off somewhere.. just be more proactive and willing to start or initiate a chat

honestly chatting here or through dating app - is like no difference to me?
everyone is just hiding behind words. You only get to know someone's true self when you meet face to face. Whether their actions are true to what they've said. some ppl are all talk and no action.
just start slow. get some matches, initiate a few chats, chat for a few days to feel them out, then come out and meet up at some place public. Have a meal, some decent long chat. If feel like they are good then continue to meet a few more times. no good then thank you bye bye..
There are still plenty of good guys out there de..
slowly find.. but first, come out from kampung. you are already being hindered by your location.

just wondering, what if the guy is a divorcee with no kids? would you date and marry someone like that?

haha I'll be 30 soon but I never really go to bars as well.. unless ppl ask to join.
but activity is a good start.. even if nearing 40 or in the late 30s, going to gym is a good start right?
get back into shape, start dieting.. at least look better for pictures in dating apps, slightly increase the chance compare to having a dad bod.. for guys la.
ladies, of course have hourglass figure or toned body then its a plus.. already attracted someone by looks, without the interaction.
then interact more.. if suitable then get together, if not then keep searching..

oh and just to let TS know.. I think CMB is a decent app for serious dating.
TanTan is full of scams, chinese speaking / writing only, ons
Bumble - kinda boring to me as well.. girls gotta start the conversation first. For guys, unless you're freaking handsome, chances are really slim. Also there's lots of girls from other races and not that many chinese girls
Tinder - everyone knows its just for ons or hookups.
FB dating - no idea.. I don't seem to like it.

someone correct me if im wrong


This post has been edited by technosakai: Feb 7 2024, 04:16 PM