Hi, Dont give up....stay positive even though sometimes it can be tough...Better to expand your hobby first..for ie, pick up a new hobby like playing badminton or table tennis and slowly expand your circle of frens...but it won't be a straightforward path..Sometimes the line is not straight, there will be hit and misses...

Dont go bars or clubs..all sorts of men over there, not sure if you can find a good one or not...

This post has been edited by LDP: Feb 2 2024, 05:12 PM

This is a personality question rather than generalization question.

My friend got married around early 40s and his wife is late 30s IINM. I initially thought he has given up but looks like it is never too late. However his wife is not someone who he has just knew. They had been together in the past but broke up due to LDR perhaps. Somehow things worked for them during covid and now even had a 1 year old baby.

I personally think it would be hard to really know someone from scratch and then see if can proceed to marriage. That would be for 20s and early 30s. If you are reaching late 30s, I think the most probable is getting married to your previous lover, or through match-making where both are seriously looking to get married ASAP.

don't quite understand what's the rush of getting married. wise words for my granny, don't get married just for the sake of getting married, else you might regret in future. even my married friends, colleagues and relatives are complaining that they regret getting married. break the stereotype and there are so many other things worth pursuing in life besides a husband and kids. go do things that you enjoy or travel to see the world and you'll be amazed. best thing comes when you are not expecting and who knows that you'll meet someone when you are not expecting anyone.

This post has been edited by ahjummma: Feb 2 2024, 01:20 PM

I agreed with you don't get married just for the sake of getting married.
I enjoy my life but in the same time I want to find a life partner.

Hi, there are few ways to meet new people offline, other than those ppl already shared.

look for routine community exercise, it is more constant and generally speaking the crowd is there, in PJ there is an evening session every thur.

join those single speed date event, normally they costs ~RM250 with some sort of food and drinks, it may sounds weird but it is not.
for ladies just sit in allocated table, then guys will rotate each and every table so everyone will have chance to have conversation with all, usually just 3 to 5 mins before they rotate again. its unlikely to be awkward, just few qs already time up.

gl hf

if you are above average looking as u said, you just need to put your face here, all the guys here sure fill up your inbox messages to the brim.

if not pretty, then maybe the inbox will be filled with cobwebs

lol that kind like online dating app instead of posting here?

Lol, i can easily speak to 10 women in an hour during peak hour in shopping mall for possibly free at all

I would and I did. She's 7 years younger, highly accomplished, independent and very mature. She's a fantastic companion, she's committed and she inspires me to aim higher at work and do the impossible (attempt postgrad school).

What I can't stand the most at my age are the indecisiveness & juvenile behavior of the twenty-somethings who tend to be non-committal, incredibly vain (living lives ruled by socmed matrices) because they are by nature still 'shopping around' and YOLO.

And because I can't deal with time wasters and refuse to put myself in a position to be conned like a desperate sucker, I steered clear of dating apps completely.

lmao, dating apps is just a tool at the end of it
even in investing we are told dont put all eggs in one basket

In investment, we're told to look at ROI.

Throwing the dice thru dating apps ain't part of my investment strategy, sorry.

but that's fine
things are not exactly black n white
even in a marriage context
the odds of getting divorced is greater than before instagram was established

Good for u but hey everyone is different in interpersonal skills

TS need support and advice

speed date do make sense

Doing the same things over and over again and expect difference result is insanity......

To add, having a child at 45, means you would have to continue working way past 60 to support him/her until they can stand on their own feet.

Tbh if you mix around with more guys, I'm sure plenty of guys would date you, especially if they are not looking to have kids, which is pretty common nowadays. (Not saying you can't have kids at all but its' tougher at an older age)

What you need to do is put yourself out there, go on dating apps, join activities with more guys like hiking or badminton etc.

fwb material target la
I know a couple of 30s and 40s women
very difficult to find a new partner esp if they're single mom

A/S/L?

why not?

i see some guys marry lady in their late 30s and still manage to get 2 children.

I got married when I was 38 and my husband was 40.

There are still a lot of single guys around your age range