try going to church or ngo kinda gathering. shud be some1 waiting for u out ther

or u can go the slutty way, go happy hour and know garbage guys

For sure you would find it...
But there is a say also....
If we repeat to do the things we are doing now, we will get the same result.
Maybe you may go deep dive into your hobby for more new things?

Yea no.

Church also has its problems.

I was raise as a Christian, the drama in a church can get crazy.

However, there will be a few gems here and there. Just need to sift through it

Have fun

I myself in late 30's seeking but same issue with you, im a dude

Standard gathering like other religions.

Sing praise, listen to Gospel then ciao or activities afterwards

Just share your facebook here perhaps?

I would. You have good criteria. "average or above looking, caring and friendly"
Your work place does not have any candidate? Usually partners are found in Uni, work place, social activities or among groups of friends.
Forget about dating apps..As a guy, many guys in dating apps are looking for short term hook up. In short, sex. Because we guys know that the girls in those app are very open.
Join volunteer activities like maybe clean the beach/environment, if you are into animals then find out what activities they have, etc
If you are into sports like badminton, join in random group play, there are apps for that like AFA. Or join clubs that you are interested in, drawing, chess etc.

At least you will be able to find someone that has close interest with you easier to match up rather than rubbish guys from dating apps.

Next thing is when you join those activities, if you are interested in someone, you need to start do your magic. Get closer, make initiatives. Don't wait for guys to make the first move. And of course make known to them that you are single not by announcing but in a subtle way where they can get it.
Such as like "holiday is coming, do you have any plans? I am thinking to go to XXX but it's kinda bored to go alone" 
Or if u want to find out if someone is married especially at this age of yours, dont straight as are you single. U can use "how many kids you have?", then the opposite will say, I don't have kids. or I am not married.
Well, at the age of 40 to have kids, is still alright. You know your body best. If it's ready, it is. Else just enjoy married live without kids.

Y.. Go see the world la, get tied down for what... Pack your bags , go travel, meet new ppl in your journey and who knows you will meet your soul mate.

go to classy bar alone and dress better sitting there m sure they're guys will approach you

or else you could go to art gallery
basically just have a circle where you can mix with potentially higher quality circle of guys

I think going to church to try to find a spouse is frankly ridiculous. Firstly you shoule have the right intention to embrace religion. Secondly, unless you’re okay to have a much younger spouse, what are the odds of finding someone around your age and single? Either they also just joined and looking for a spouse (which is unlikely anyway) or well, perhaps you should wonder why he’s single in a place where people literally goes there to look for spouse. The odds are poor. It’s not wrong. Just unlikely. I wouldn’t bank so much hope there.

My suggestion is just to join as many activities as you can. Group exercise like boot camps or specialty hobbies like gardening / camping / hiking and those likes with big group gathering. Also aggressively join your existing social circle, however small it is especially when it’s a group setting. It’s not your friends you’re targeting. It’s your friend’s friend or friends friends friend right. So it’s about expanding your social circle. So need to go out more to meet more.

Finally I’m unsure why there’s a need to describe yourself including your car. People at this age are usually looking for companionship and compatibility. As you are short(er) in time to find and vet them, you need to be clear on what’s non negotiable for you , what’s tolerable and what you’re willing to try to be tolerable. Things like income, kids, family, race, height, weight, habits, character, etc must be very clear from the start. For the same reason, it’s always better to date friends friend as you have referral.

Im also almost 40 and i met my wife through my friend. Bias opinions but hey, it’s one success story there 😆 you can’t be wasting time trying everything. Need to work smart too. Good luck

If no intention to start a family is not a problem.
If you want a kid or two, risk will be higher when your partner is in her late 30s to 40s.

How to contact you? Looking for partner also.

just hypothetical question. to see what woman think
Would you marry a divorced mid 40s man with B segment imported car and an inexpensive apartment?

If you are around KL. There will be certain hiking gang you could go for...
Go for small hill for starter. Gasing Seems fine thou
But yeah...dont go out to Bar for guys....
/k is somewhat weird place to look for guys too. There are ppl from all over the places and tons of keyboard warrior too.
and around me, i know few divorce ladyssss only...
huh, is a weird world

How late 30s? For me no la. Sorry. Need to be truthful. My last age is 30years old.

If you don't mind divorcee, there is one guy here who is looking for woman around your age. Reason for divorcee, wife cheated on him or something like that.

Don't follow mystery advise unless you want to do hookup (have sex with strangers).

why a woman can earn like that but a man cannot?

the older you get, you will be looking for a man that are earning more n more and possible the one never married

and a man that capable of earning 20-30k/month never married (40s) is rare (and got abundance of option for younger woman) or "maybe" LGBT

I am in my early 30s. Actually you are wrong. Majority of girls I know will only date older or same age guys. Also older guys are more attractive to females Vs younger guys.

I prefer girls who don't care about skin/makeup. I like plain girls. One of the question I always asked girls whom I meet on dating apps are do you do facial? How often a month facial. If yes they drop in priority for me. Haha...

Btw, I am not that divorcee. If you want, I can ping him.

That's stereotyping about guys being old, grey hairbig tummy.

It's true. Go watch YouTube about relationship stuff.

A woman's peak is in her 20s, where as a man's value peaks in 40s.. this is the general thought and quite true from what i've encountered.
Imho, for a lady her requirements in a man should ideally decrease as they age, and vice versa for a man. For an older woman to have high requirements and expecting success is setting herself up for failure.. like finding a needle in a haystack.
Basically a case of supply and demand.

Outliers of course exists..