The concept of “ love” for majority of guys is a bit different from ladies.
Guys  are born with inherent hero instinct in their heart.
They values “respect” from their significant other, more than just the emotional part of love according to most ladies understanding..

There are a lot about respect, and it doesn't mean like what in Japanese culture things.

It's a lady putting herself at about same level of her guy, yet talk and act in ways her guys inherently wish to get.

If a lady adore a strong, capable, resilient and extraordinary responsible guy with high integrity guy, means to prepare to handle his strong characteristics.. means to every time,  use the inherently born soft nature of lady to deal with any disagreement. Because softness conquer the strong.

If lady prefer to have major says or dos in anything in the r.ship or marriage, means a guy who is willing to accept the nature of this lady is a better fit

It's a two way street.

However it's true that a lot of guys secretly like the so called green tea style, because that kind of treatment make them feel comfortable, and sometimes kick up their hero instinct.

In other words, a good and high value lady learn various effective skills and apply on right times ..Not to say that it's to chg the integrity of the lady.
But in order to let the r. ship or marriage  sustain

And only the right guy in the eyes of the lady, deserves.