Hi all,

Me n my bf has been together for 9 years, coming 10 years. During our dating, we do have some arguments, but we manage to get back together after 1 or 2 days. Last week, we have a 3 days 'cold war' period. And yesterday he told me he has an affair with his colleague. How's that happen? He went for a drink with this girl, and the girl wanna see the kl view from my bf apartment. There's end up they sex on our bed...YA!!!IS ME and MY BF BED!!!

I said he has changed...n he told he will change it back to my old bf, he is asking me for forgiveness. I told him in 1 condition, I need him to say it clear in front of me n that girl. <------ May I know is this request over? He told he can't do it...n the reason? If I force him to do it, he will hate me.

Guys and girls,
Can anyone tell me what shd I do to comfort myself? I'm totally lost.....

Thanks.

why u want to force him say out loud in front of the girl ?

Bcoz tats how the gal know im his gf.....in fact the gal know my exist, but she still sleep with my bf...is obviously wat she trying to do...

What is the reason for you making this specific request. It's more like you should ask yourself whether are you willing to forgive him in spite of him cheating on you or will you not bring this issue up in the future whenever an argument ensued between the both of you.

There's really no point making him confessing that the "affair" was wrong in front of all the parties involved unless you want to make him lose that girl he had an affair with and thereafter you to initiate a break up with him, leaving him with nothing.

i dont think its a good idea for u to do that TS
since their working together its abit troublesome as well..

10 years and still bf?

get over him, there are other men out there who would give an arm and a leg for you and will not cheat on you, just don't friendzone them

cheer up, bf-gf things are not the end of the world. treasure your family, stay close to them, and then consult them.

i am not saying you should not give him a chance, if he is worth it, why not

How old are you?

What's wrong if i wanna make him to lose tat girl?I love my bf alot n alot...i just dun wan tat girl come n kacau us anymore...

Izzit wrong im trying to secure my feeling? I request to get marry, but he can't do it, marry is impossible for now. I can't lose him but it didn't tat he no need to so anything to win me back?

Are u guys suggesting I shd forgive him right after he confessed infront of me n said sorry?

Tat gal has surrounding my bf for quite sometimes, I did told my bf...but tat time i really got my trust on my bf, I tot he can tahan himself from making mistake..but I was wrong. Is this means my fault? I'm the one who make this happed?

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Added on January 2, 2013, 9:23 amI'm 26 n he is 28....we talked about marriage, but his family disagree me...

This post has been edited by qinetics: Jan 2 2013, 09:23 AM

Did you pay for half of the bed? If you did, just ask for your half of the money back.


It's just sex, unless he's got STDs from it, there's no reason to get your panties up in a bunch.

I'm trying to convince myself that was just a sex...but my heart feel pain when I tot he was having sex with other gal on tat bed...

thats why u woman sometimes dunno how to jaga his face, you can just look for that girl yourself and have a talk with her.

Ask him what is he willing to do to earn your forgiveness. And please let him know what he is asking. He is asking you to live with a splinter at the back of your head for rest of your life without having the right to mention it ever again.

Ask him how much does this sacrifice he is asking you to make worth and if is it too much for him to ask your forgiveness in front of that girl.

Well, if it is. I guess you should know the depth of your relationship with his answer and know what to do.

Not sure if ur bf kacau her or she kacau ur bf lol.

And marry doesnt mean he cant "curi makan"....

And why impossible to marry now?

This post has been edited by WaCKy-Angel: Jan 2 2013, 09:30 AM

is it purely just sex or feeling is involved? no point requesting him to do this and that if deep down inside you, you cannot forgive and forget. It will just haunt you.

Did he say this? Did he say he won't do this because he will hate you if you make him?

LoL. It's just sex. How is having sex with another woman behind your gf of 9 years back, is just sex? It's the destruction of 9 years of trust and love.

Ts, you should question his faith and loyalty in the relationship. He doesn't wanna get married and he can cheat on you after 9 years together, that's a red flag to me. A definite and clear warning shot.

7chai...im jaga-ing his face tats y I ask him to go talk to her...If i go n find tat gal myself...the gal n my bf face will gone to hell...

Go sleep with another guy - score settled

Ya...he said it...my heart stop beat at tat moment...

then i think u dun understand, sometimes for a man that already curi makan is hard for them to tell straight to the girl just end the relationship.

thats why what u should do now is meet up with the girl and have a table talk, but before that inform your boyfren 1st. Whether he agree or not, u also insist must go and see her

it's all your rights as a girlfriend to make sure that other girls know their place but it's not entirely your obligation to make sure that your boyfriend does not stray. unless your boyfriend is drunk to a stage in which his capacity to rationale is incapacitated, i do believe that your boyfriend intended what had happened to happen. you said the reason given was that the girl wants to view Kuala Lumpur from his apartment, plenty of public places in Kuala Lumpur to do so in Kuala Lumpur.

inviting a girl to his apartment does suggest a bit of malice intention over here. is it in the night? if it is then it's really not that appropriate.

in a relationship, fault is seldom of one party so you should not take all the blame yourself, he has contributed to it as well.

whether to forgive or not, i think it's best if you decide on your own, however you may want to take into consideration like prospect of marriage and the possibility of this recurring again in the future.

Agreed. If it's unbearable to live with, I strongly suggest TS to just turn around and walk.

Disagree. What's the point to have a close relationship. What's the meaning of fidelity and faithfulness if everyone were to keep a "back-up" just in case things don't work out?
Might as well explicitly indicate you want an open relationship just to be fair.

u know wat will i do if i meet up tat gal? I will go to their office n slap the gal n i will say it loud 'dun ever take off ur cloths in front of my bf again!'

FYI...his colleagues know i'm his gf...most of them knew..

Will this still jaga his face?

confirm gaduh even worse la

I don't see the point of meeting her. Waste time and energy. In the end it all goes back to her- to forgive and forget. Can she?

It takes two to tango. Even if she stops bugging your bf, if your bf is bored of you due to the overly long relationship, go "itchified", other gals can still come into his life the same thing will repeat.

no need be so ganas geh, do u think u will get plus point if u do this ? obviously no.

try talk to her nice nice, psycho her abit, if soft 1 cannot then try hard 1, i know u damn tulan but try to control yourself. the scarier u goes, your boyfren will just find another girl

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Added on January 2, 2013, 9:40 amif TS follow my method conform can hold herself.

This post has been edited by 7chai: Jan 2 2013, 09:40 AM

It cold.

not every single human in this earth treat Sex as casual as you think . she is almost devastated by the act tht her bf has done ,

but i do look up on tht guy after doing it tht he still have the courage to confess .
in some point there might be different point of view if you view it in a different way .

1st scenario - ur BF must be pretty much care about the ur relationship ,

2nd - in some point he might do it again . showing you the true him (Male always Male, lust will over powered by his own consciousness ) asking you to forgive even there a second time

3rd - He wanna a break up , but without him saying so .

4th - erm .............................. nvm ..... the above 3 enough to let you think alot already . better to consult a friend .... we don know ur BF .. cant comment much .


All the best girl . + oil !!!!!

then wat shd i talk to her....?? " hm...miss...u know im his gf ar?can u stop disturbing us?" or " u know my bf still loving me?y r u taking of ur clothes infornt of him?"

something like tat?

Why don't you try and turn this into a positive experience, instead of raging like he expects you would, change the script. Ask him "So who's better? Her or me?", be competitive, men find that attractive. And if he leaves you, he'd be beating up his balls wondering why he ever left you.

If you can't tell the difference between "just sex" and a full fledge affair, you're not qualified to judge.

You are pissing off at the wrong person here.
Let's face it. She has no obligation to respect you or your relationship.

Your BF on the other hand owe you his loyalty. Even if today you go over to the office and slap the girl will not solve the problem.
It's just a matter of time you will have to slap another girl. When is this gonna end?

i think hardly lor whenever it comes to issues like this and taking into consideration the time invested into the relationship. if me i think at the very point when the guy said "no" i'll straight slam the phone and ignore him for a long long time.

This post has been edited by shaniandras2787: Jan 2 2013, 09:45 AM

That is the absolute wrong response from him.

That being said, what you asked from him is not a very good idea. Having him ask for your forgiveness in front of her... or let's face it, what you want is for her to ask for your forgiveness too, isn't it? Do you really think that's necessary? Do you blame her for the affair? However it is, it's gonna be a horribly embarrassing experience for the both of them, and do you really think she deserves that? I think the only one who owes you something is the person who had your trust and betrayed it. That person is not her.

But for him to say he won't do it because he'll hate you... that is wrong. That is very very wrong. That implies that he is not sincere in seeking your forgiveness. That sounds like he thinks what he did is not that bad. In fact, after reading your post again, it sounds like he was angry at you about something even before he slept with that girl, and he's now telling you he slept with that girl to punish you.

He does not deserve your forgiveness yet. Not even close.

seriously, do u have problems communicate with others ? If u cant even conduct what you wanna express to her, i tell you basically your boyfren will gonna tarpau by her again.

I think something is freaking wrong with you..

In your mind your bf are the holiest man on earth?? The girl is the b**** that seduces him?

Open your eyes lady.. A cow will not drink water even if you force it to drink.

Interesting..... Reason?

The main reason im asking TS to do this, is also another way to let the boyfren realize how "supportive" the galfren can be.

Rather than plainly forgive and forget, another year come, another girl climb into their bed. lol

That's probably because you didn't ask him the right way. Don't ask him in the angry you, ask him in the seductive you. Guys LOVE talking about sex. Encourage him to talk, say you want to know what turns him on etc. When he says whoever is better (regardless of whether it is her or you, it doesn't matter), seduce him and have hot steamy sex. It won't be long before he forgets about that girl.

Now if he still feels like he doesn't want to say anything about it, then he's probably going back to the girl for a 2nd or 3rd round. Then I suppose it's time you start looking for alternatives, such as getting back the other half of what you paid for the bed.

sorry to say this, didn't meant to be a downer.
there's possibility that your bf will have another affair with that girl.

If you think you can forgive him and live with this memory for the rest of your life, then forgive and make sure he understands what he did wrong. If you think you cannot forgive him, then leave. Simple as that. No point in forcing him to say things in front of the other girl, what satisfaction will that give you? Will you be able to delete the memory from your mind if he did that? If she was the one who started to seduce your bf, then yes, go and talk to her nicely and tell her to stay away. If your bf is the one who initiated the whole thing, then you go talk to her also kena shoot back by her only.

How sure are you that this is an affair? Is it just a one night casual sex thing since he was in an argument with you? It's good enough he TOLD you that he went out drinking and slept with his friend. Wouldn't it be worst if he hide it from you and you had to find it out yourself?

If you ask me, he's annoyed with the relationship, he wants something new. If this is the case, no matter how many times you forgive him, he'll still go out and have casual sex.

The next issue is you guys can't get married because his family doesn't approve of you. So what are you guys planning to do with that? Is there a goal in your life to get married with him?

wow...thanks for all the replies...Based on some of the replies..I need to think about wat shd i do to jaga my "had affair bf" face after he dropped my face infront the particular gal??

After I hurt so badly, I still need to think about my attitude when settle this with him?He has the courage to tell me the truth...is this mean I shd forgive him without any reason?I shd appreciate for him courage huh?

U guys know? I love him so much...i can't let him go...my heart pain bcoz i love him...i wan him to confess bcoz i love him...i just wan him to do something to proof he still wan me...as wat can he sacrificed to make us back together...

Am I worng?

No more hope Liao... If u forgive him he will curi makan again next time.. Find another guy.. He seem alr bored with u even b4 married...

do you just want him to say those 3 words but didn't really mean it?!

+1

TS should seriously think about this relationship coz from what im reading, the bf probably didnt think of marrying TS.

Wrong??? Yes, u chosen the wrong life and/or path in your relationship.

Guilty? No.

Actually is totally up to you....

If you decided to forgive him, forgive to the end....
If you cannot forgive him to the end, then better cut short.... bringing unforgiveness into marriage is not healthy....

What is done is done no matter what.... if you know him well, maybe forgiveness can makes him a better person....
Of course there's also someone who just felt guilt and forgot that after forgiveness....

Nobody can tell you what to do, but weight it yourself.... it's your relationship anyway....

Words are cheap, and you are the one paying for prices....
Be positive, and look into the future...

wat 3 words?

No. The last thing you should do is jaga his face. Just that you should not jatuh her face. You should only blame him, not her.

No. Telling you the truth is one thing. Being properly regretful is another. I don't think he is properly regretful.

And I'm not sure he is very courageous either. Again, did you argue about something before he had this affair? That's what the "cold war" was about?

I need him to say it clear in front of me n that girl.

i think this request is ok wor, if i cares about one relationship i will do so
unless i want step two boat together lar, like what ur bf doing now
say request for forgiveness, n wont do it again

and u really believe about that?

pls lar dun be so

Actually, it's quite not right to "stone" TS because we're not sure how TS's boyfriend actually portrays himself in front of TS. The fact that TS still sticks with him for almost 10 years and still have not given her a ring in exchange for commitment beats me too.

TS is probably acting all "stressed out", "doing all he can for the relationship", "willing to sacrifice the world for her" and is very good at script writing for all i care.

whether u can accept it or not, man is ego. what he want from u now, is forgive and forget without asking anymore question.

i dun see she do any wrong also.

you want him to confess to you, by saying that he loves you, rite?

you just need him to say it, even though he might really mean it?

No, she can't be going around telling every single girl seducing her bf to stay away. The bf will eventually start hiding things from her. She needs to encourage the bf to fess up more by rewarding honesty. She will then hold all the trump cards.

You need to work on your manipulation tactics, woman.

The bolded part is what she did wrong..

IMO she might probably be too naive to think everything is the girl's fault, not his bf fault.

What's the whole issue about whose face to keep and whose face to humiliate here? The person that did wrong is your bf by having sex with another girl. The less you care about faces, the more you'll learn to appreciate the happiness in life.

Honestly, you sound like a really immature girl whose bf has just cheated on her and wants the bf and the other girl to suffer and kneel down to apologize to you, to prove this to prove that.

It's not courage, he was just telling the truth, being honest.

It takes two hands to clap, if your bf is not willing to talk about this issue and don't think that he has done wrong, then what's the point you love him so much and can't let go, or how pain your heart is? He could be at the point where he just isn't that interested anymore and just couldn't care less. Are you sure this is not because of you? Like noob13 said, this could be the consequences of the 'cold war' you guys had earlier. What did you or him did that triggered that 'cold war'?

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Added on January 2, 2013, 10:18 amI agree with your statement but many people still cannot accept casual sex outside of relationship (TS included).

Honestly, I've actually reach the conclusion where casual sex is just sex. And it would be fun to know who is better in bed and try new things.

This post has been edited by munkeyflo: Jan 2 2013, 10:18 AM

Are u saying I shd do something to keep our relationship?unless i become his pet or else i duno wat can i do anymore..

It boils down to what you and him want from each other.

I bet you don't even know why you stick around anymore, do you? He probably doesn't either.

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Added on January 2, 2013, 10:23 amWell that just sucks. About a year and a half ago my partner PM-ed you asking about "new things" and you said you're not that open minded, now it's too late.

This post has been edited by s2peMocls: Jan 2 2013, 10:23 AM

Does she really hold the trump cards after he is being honest and confessed not once but twice?

You are suggesting TS to be the best doormat in this world.
I seriously doubt you would give similar advice if the gender is switched making you the real psedo-anti-feminist isnt?

oo..someone asked about 'cold war'...

Cold War
I told u guys his parents disagree us...reason? I was planning to buy a property for our future, I did ask him to join..so he said he will ask his parents for opinion. Then his parents tot I wan to lock his lovely son in KL(he is penang lang). But I really didnt mean it...I told him I able to go back to penang n stay with his family once he finish his business here...or I will follow wherever he go...he didnt explain to his parents I guess...

So when he told me his parents disagree me all the time..I was shock!I angry him y he never explain to his parents about my thinking..why his parents disagree me?Ya...I dumped him once 5 years ago...I regreted..n I used 5 years to fix this..but unfortunately his parents didnt see it..I might not be the best in this world...but I tot I adi did my best to love him..I requested him to explain to his parents, but he said his parents are angry n he need to be alone...tats how the cold war started.

Is tat clear?

Where is you BF. Please direct your BF here! Introduce him to me.

I'm really curious if you can walk the talk. Because if you do, you are the coolest GF/doormat any dude would want!

This post has been edited by RUI: Jan 2 2013, 10:27 AM

If you dig up my previous replies to a guy who found out his wife cheating, I distinctively cautioned him against confronting the wife, which many of the CC'ers recommended. I said, gather all the evidence and then use it against her when appropriate. It's the same thing here, as long as she holds the trump cards, he's powerless.

Seriously, are you that butthurt about that gf/bf stealing thing that you're just picking fights when there are none?

yes, she cant tell any girl's that trying seduce her boyfren to stay away. But, she must tell the girl that sleep with her boyfren to stay away from their relationship.

of course im not saying is entirely 3rd party fault, but without a signal of controlling, there will for sure have another round of affair coming on.

I'd have to say in this situation, you are at fault. You should have tried to fix it by saying "How about we buy a property in Penang then?" It will show you are flexible and at the same time committed to him.

Seriously, i do pity u.

U deserve better.

hm...i didnt said all is the gal's fault ok?>tat really pissed me off is my bf...not the gal. I will have my own way to punish him..but tats not concern in this topic..

I know exactly wat they r doing...wan him to rmb this awful moment? i wan him to confess...ya he might hate me..but i think u guys will rmb it right?He will rmb wat he did to me...in hate or wat...is not important.

If you notice the difference, that relationship involves a legal contract and this doesn't.
You advice there prevent the husband from paying alimony in case of divorce.
You advice here suggesting TS to be door mat or worse object of sexual satisfaction.

Same advice doesn't apply here. There is NO trump card to begin with. What she has left now is her pride & self-respect. She can't drop herself to a level losing that.
Love is a bilateral relationship. It's kinda syok sendiri suggestion you giving there.

lol...i did said i will follow him back to penang...buying property in KL bcoz I can get a special price...I dun think I'm the mistake if I wan to invest in KL...

N if he really cant, just leave it...I will buy it on my own...but then y suddenly his parents disagree me?Can u imagine wat he said infront of his parents about me?

if you make him hate you, then ur relationship will not last long.

instead, make him feel like owing you for rest of life

So rewarding your partner for honesty is being a doormat in your books, eh? Guess I shouldn't be suprised that you advocate deception.

Trump card still applies here, it's called the victim card, in this case, she really is the victim and not only that, she put effort into fixing it. Look if you don't understand how things work, why don't you quit being a jackass about being outsmarted?

This post has been edited by s2peMocls: Jan 2 2013, 10:43 AM

owing me for rest of my life? So I have to beg him back to my side...n forget about wat he did..n he will feel he is owing me?

Guys...thanks all of u..

I posted here bcoz I wanna know more n understand more about wat guys are thinking...

no need beg him, but he will beg you instead.

Amanda Fong..is the one who got beaten?

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Added on January 2, 2013, 10:44 amHe beg me...he promised alot n alot..will this make him feel he is owing me for rest of my life?

This post has been edited by qinetics: Jan 2 2013, 10:44 AM

Amanda was married, but my point is you need to know how to play your cards right. Don't give in to your rage, sometimes you need to be cold and calculative, SOMETIMES.

No I cant imagine becoz u never tell, and u seems like OKAY with that for 10 years already??

Now, CAN YOU IMAGINE???

Do you even know what you are talking now??

When i read your replies earlier, you sounds like u are willing to do anything even if u have to beg for him to be with u.
Now u talking a different thing?

tats y i need to know how guys normally think....if i need to talk with him nicely...i need to know wat he probably will do for next...

Can u guys give more advises? I need comments....thanks

i know you are smart girl lai geh, you should know what you can do

Bcoz he never tell me...when I visited to his house...his parents seems ok to me...I never know that I was disagree by his parents...tats y I was shock when I 1st know it after 10 years..




I mean...even i beg him but i dont think he will feel owing me for rest of my life...i willing to stay together with him...but he sure has to do something to gain my apologize right? Being honest to me is not enough to gain my apologize...

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Added on January 2, 2013, 10:54 amlolz...7chai..u r funny..

We just chatting over here n u know im a smart girl....

My thought is....in this relationship...I was a fool...a god damn fool...

This post has been edited by qinetics: Jan 2 2013, 10:54 AM

once a fool, can always fool, doesnt mean u need to be fool

manipulative is a key word now

You are pretty lenient considering your bf had make a grave mistake.
But just to remind you, your bf consented on sex with that girl. He did not reject her nor he was drowsy from liquor.
Your bf will repeat. But he will be smarter next time on not telling you.

About your request, its not over but it is meaningless if your bf is going to repeat it again.
and you and your bf is dating for 10yrs to get this kind of mess? what are you doing with your life anyway? shouldn't you settle down with him long time ago?

What is the intend of the above if it's not dropping TS to an object?
A very insulting level for anyone regardless of gender to find themselves in especially after almost a decade of commitment.

Imagine what a poor soul would be if she/he has to do that all over when he/she is 60.
Your suggestion simply disgust me.

And what good exactly does this victim card does in this case webster.
No good and very insulting.

If she drops to the level you are suggesting, I only see more shit to rubbed on her face.
You are a misogynist anyway. I wouldn't expect you to come up with anything fair for TS.

Err...read all the posts? lol..as summary...I wan to settle down, just he cant settle with his parents..

Maybe I just not the perfect gal for him n his family...maybe this is my fate

Why did he tell you about his sexual encounter?

Did he feel guilty so he confessed? Or does he secretly want you to dump him? I don't think he wants you to dump him because he asked for forgiveness.

It's already too late for talking nicely, time for talking has passed. It's time to DO something. Like I said, it's really about what you want from each other. Either you tell him "It's all cool" and be the woman he wants you to be, or you pack your bags and go.

If you choose to stay, there will be 2 things he could to be thinking:
1) I'm will never mess this up again, I will get my act together
2) Disaster averted, what a dumb woman. Now to set my next appointment.

In either case, you are now in control. He has committed a wrong towards you and you forgave him, it doesn't make you a doormat, it makes you powerful. It gives you the authority to decide what is ok and what is not ok in this relationship by your standards. If you had rage and slapped that s1ut, he would've thought you're a crazy biatch and would be glad to be rid of you.

Next is you make it such that it hurts to even think about leaving you, because you are now such a gracious gf, you do things to "forget" about this, such as making a nice dinner or going for a short trip to little genting or do something that boosts his ego. Buy yourself a new sexy dress even. When you're acting outside of the script, he'd be tuned in to what you will do next and won't have time to be thinking about other women.

But then again, it has been 10 years, does he still think you're hawt? (if you are hawt that is)

I think u should talk with his parents... Coz now im confused..
I thought u said his parents were against u both marrying, but now its about buying property?

If they are against the relationship then better ask ur bf to choose now rather than delay.. If its about property, u should find out what are their reason and discuss about it.


Apology does not need to do something..Do you understand what does apology means?
It means one knows they did wrong, and they promise will not do it again.

The only thing he needs to do is showing u he wont do it again, not by telling it to the girl infront of u.
But by not doing it again. And you will never know until u found out again, and hope u will not found out.

This post has been edited by WaCKy-Angel: Jan 2 2013, 11:01 AM

Well...wat do u say if he try to uncloth after a few days of the affair n before he told me the truth?

m i still hawt or not?

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Added on January 2, 2013, 11:06 amHaha Wacky-angel...good one..coz im confused too...

He told his parents he wan to buy property bcoz of my suggestion...property is for settle down...n he just told them I wan the who make the decision to buy property n get marry...he doesnt have any thought on it...lolz...is tat mean he never think to settle down with me?

This post has been edited by qinetics: Jan 2 2013, 11:06 AM

My advise is u should put this "Affair" thingy aside 1st and attend to something more serious.

You should think where your relationship is going.
You say his parents disagree about ur marriage but u are with him for 10 years already.

I think its time for him to make a decision, or you make one.
You are okay if he doesnt marry you? you know u will not get anything from him if he doesnt marry you and u will have nothing in the end.

if you knew this from start and you knew you could not have get the end result you wanted, is it better you get another guy who can give you that desired result you long for?
If his parents stands in the way, you can either make your stand and prove to them that you are the right girl or you can bow out and wish them all the best. Apparently you choose to stuck in between and drag this for far too long.

Who was your partner?
I just recently came to that conclusion only. Previously, was still half-half and I usually not very willing to go out with people that I know over the Internet. You never know who is genuine and who isn't.

Why you never talk to his parents directly? Don't tell me you together with your bf for 10 years already still haven't met his parents or still can't talk to his parents.

You guys sound like you never communicate properly but just have very heated arguments and cold wars. How do you usually recover from these cold wars?

The BF is somehow the really loyal type.

Have told him many times to go out and have fun but he says his body parts can't get arouse if it's not me. We have talked about it many times and he's not into exploring new things with others either.

FYI, I'm no where near a doormat. In fact, I'm actually quite the opposite. Just that sometimes, life is too short to take things too seriously.

Ok, keep working at it. You gotta know which buttons to push. Bottomline, he's got to see you're not worth losing, if he's too busy thinking about you, he won't be thinking about other girls. Sure he'll get horny for other women every now and then, but you've already decided what is ok and what is not ok, and he'll listen to you because you've acknowledge his needs.

Oh yeah btw, please go check for STDs. You never know who else that slut has been fvcking.

This post has been edited by s2peMocls: Jan 2 2013, 11:10 AM

I find it strange( and stupid) that he would admit it. If he really feels regretful, she should just stop seeing her and get on with his normal life.

Maybe the passion is lost.



This post has been edited by Drian: Jan 2 2013, 11:10 AM

UGPM.

Btw, RUI is really transparent on his hypocrisy, if you're someone he's going to have a chance with, then you're a cool GF, if he's got no chance of getting it on with you, then you're a doormat. And he calls MGTOWs misogynists, lol.