Jan 4 2013, 01:03 PM
QUOTE(cc980024 @ Jan 4 2013, 10:00 AM)
Yes, break up is painful.. especially when you recall that you have been so closed to each other, used to do all the lovely thing together... and in a sudden both of you become stranger again. This is the ugly truth of being human.. we can cuddle and kiss like mad when we in love but once that change.. whatever we have done before for each other become meaningless. When I was young and broke up with my ex... this question always pops up in my mind "Why we used to be so lovely and why we have to change the status now?".. crying all the way. But time do heal the broken heart especially when you found your new focus (mayb a new guy, a new hobby, or career focus).
And when you overcome all this, you will find.. this 1 time breakup pain is nothing compare the long-term stress in a relationship. Imagine the freedom you gain compare being in a painful relationship.. there stress from partner, from both family, etc.
TS, you are consider very lucky.. although invested 10yrs.. but in relationship.. if it cannot be maintain.. even 30yrs doesn't mean anything. At least you are not married to him yet. Imagine those ppl married for so many years, with school kids at home.. and yet their spouse giving up on their marriage. Your pain is just minor .. coz you are single and 26yrs is still young to have an enjoyable and beautiful life ahead.
Fyi, my sister had just divorce with her husband few mths ago. She dated him for 9years then married for 5yrs. Her ex-hubby found someone new (a bar girl or something) and wanted to divorce my sister eventhough my sis begged him. To cut the pain short, my parents make the decision and force my sis to divorce. She is in healing process now.. though we know she is painful.. but frens around giving her lots of encouragement. Luckily she don't have kids.. although already 35yrs old.. still not too late. She nows have lots of programme.. almost daily have after work activities with frens.. live her own life .. seem to be better than daily went home after work.. waiting for the spouse to come home..and dull.
You will get over it. Your ex-bf is nothing to you in no time.
Very well said...This sum up all the encouragement you will need. And when you overcome all this, you will find.. this 1 time breakup pain is nothing compare the long-term stress in a relationship. Imagine the freedom you gain compare being in a painful relationship.. there stress from partner, from both family, etc.
TS, you are consider very lucky.. although invested 10yrs.. but in relationship.. if it cannot be maintain.. even 30yrs doesn't mean anything. At least you are not married to him yet. Imagine those ppl married for so many years, with school kids at home.. and yet their spouse giving up on their marriage. Your pain is just minor .. coz you are single and 26yrs is still young to have an enjoyable and beautiful life ahead.
Fyi, my sister had just divorce with her husband few mths ago. She dated him for 9years then married for 5yrs. Her ex-hubby found someone new (a bar girl or something) and wanted to divorce my sister eventhough my sis begged him. To cut the pain short, my parents make the decision and force my sis to divorce. She is in healing process now.. though we know she is painful.. but frens around giving her lots of encouragement. Luckily she don't have kids.. although already 35yrs old.. still not too late. She nows have lots of programme.. almost daily have after work activities with frens.. live her own life .. seem to be better than daily went home after work.. waiting for the spouse to come home..and dull.
You will get over it. Your ex-bf is nothing to you in no time.
However, we only listen from 1 side of story. I always believe things happen for a reason. Ts, maybe you need to reflect back to find out why? For now it is hard to reflect but eventually it will come to senses. I am not saying your bf is right but something could have triggered the incident.
This post has been edited by ProX: Jan 4 2013, 01:08 PM
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