Hi all,

Me n my bf has been together for 9 years, coming 10 years. During our dating, we do have some arguments, but we manage to get back together after 1 or 2 days. Last week, we have a 3 days 'cold war' period. And yesterday he told me he has an affair with his colleague. How's that happen? He went for a drink with this girl, and the girl wanna see the kl view from my bf apartment. There's end up they sex on our bed...YA!!!IS ME and MY BF BED!!!

I said he has changed...n he told he will change it back to my old bf, he is asking me for forgiveness. I told him in 1 condition, I need him to say it clear in front of me n that girl. <------ May I know is this request over? He told he can't do it...n the reason? If I force him to do it, he will hate me.

Guys and girls,
Can anyone tell me what shd I do to comfort myself? I'm totally lost.....

Thanks.

Err...read all the posts? lol..as summary...I wan to settle down, just he cant settle with his parents..

Maybe I just not the perfect gal for him n his family...maybe this is my fate

TS,

Stay calm and thoroughly think. Any future in this relationship? It has been 10 years, any parents who disagree a girl/guy would have accepted the fact that this will be their child's life partner. And there is no way that parents accepted you earlier and suddenly disapprove it... unless you are the one doing something "ugly".
I always believe that, parents is a stupid reason to stop a couple for getting married... especially in today's generation. If your bf really want to marry you, he would have plans to settle his parents and since you are being supportive telling him that you will follow wherever he goes. He never put in hardwork to make this happen.. infact allowing his parents misjudge you.. that obviously shows that he don't bother.

What happen already happen. The matter now is can you afford to lost him? To be frank, do not test a man's patient. Yes, he beg for your forgiveness.. but if you react too extreme and challenging him.. he will just give up and say goodbye.

If you really want to sustain the relationship, why bother about wanting him to sacrifies or do something to win you back? Do he need to win you back ? if you have not even want to leave him.

He can did such thing to you, that means your position as gf already at risk. Is not about whether he needs to win you back.. is the matter that you need to maintain your importance in his heart in order for him to do more to seek for forgiveness.

Guys do not like women over power them, they want women who looks pity and soft. Hence, forcing him to confront that girl won't work. You needs to find way to pretend pity, that he bully you and mistreat your care to him. Try to control your anger, if you can't.. at least be silence and don't entertain him for awhile.. but don't show black face. When guys leaving in blank.. they will feel worry and do more for you.
Hope this work.