If you think you can forgive him and live with this memory for the rest of your life, then forgive and make sure he understands what he did wrong. If you think you cannot forgive him, then leave. Simple as that. No point in forcing him to say things in front of the other girl, what satisfaction will that give you? Will you be able to delete the memory from your mind if he did that? If she was the one who started to seduce your bf, then yes, go and talk to her nicely and tell her to stay away. If your bf is the one who initiated the whole thing, then you go talk to her also kena shoot back by her only.

How sure are you that this is an affair? Is it just a one night casual sex thing since he was in an argument with you? It's good enough he TOLD you that he went out drinking and slept with his friend. Wouldn't it be worst if he hide it from you and you had to find it out yourself?

If you ask me, he's annoyed with the relationship, he wants something new. If this is the case, no matter how many times you forgive him, he'll still go out and have casual sex.

The next issue is you guys can't get married because his family doesn't approve of you. So what are you guys planning to do with that? Is there a goal in your life to get married with him?

What's the whole issue about whose face to keep and whose face to humiliate here? The person that did wrong is your bf by having sex with another girl. The less you care about faces, the more you'll learn to appreciate the happiness in life.

Honestly, you sound like a really immature girl whose bf has just cheated on her and wants the bf and the other girl to suffer and kneel down to apologize to you, to prove this to prove that.

It's not courage, he was just telling the truth, being honest.

It takes two hands to clap, if your bf is not willing to talk about this issue and don't think that he has done wrong, then what's the point you love him so much and can't let go, or how pain your heart is? He could be at the point where he just isn't that interested anymore and just couldn't care less. Are you sure this is not because of you? Like noob13 said, this could be the consequences of the 'cold war' you guys had earlier. What did you or him did that triggered that 'cold war'?

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Added on January 2, 2013, 10:18 amI agree with your statement but many people still cannot accept casual sex outside of relationship (TS included).

Honestly, I've actually reach the conclusion where casual sex is just sex. And it would be fun to know who is better in bed and try new things.

This post has been edited by munkeyflo: Jan 2 2013, 10:18 AM

Who was your partner?
I just recently came to that conclusion only. Previously, was still half-half and I usually not very willing to go out with people that I know over the Internet. You never know who is genuine and who isn't.

Why you never talk to his parents directly? Don't tell me you together with your bf for 10 years already still haven't met his parents or still can't talk to his parents.

You guys sound like you never communicate properly but just have very heated arguments and cold wars. How do you usually recover from these cold wars?

The BF is somehow the really loyal type.

Have told him many times to go out and have fun but he says his body parts can't get arouse if it's not me. We have talked about it many times and he's not into exploring new things with others either.

FYI, I'm no where near a doormat. In fact, I'm actually quite the opposite. Just that sometimes, life is too short to take things too seriously.

I honestly don't believe any guy's body parts will not get arouse if there is a naked girl standing in front of him all horny and ready to have sex. Self-control is another thing.

TS bf not the loyal type I guess? Many types of guys in the world.


So like RUI said, we can't walk the talk. If you seriously had that kind of talk with him before, then you should be able to clear your mind and think this properly thru. Now it really happened, can you live with it? (for quite obviously reason, you can't) If not, then walk away.

As above, I don't believe that statement.

All the best to your future. Enjoy the single life which you have not had for the past 10 years.