Since you guys sound pretty steady & seem to be able to go the distance, why not have the child?

Else, if both of you think this child is a mistake, & that you wont be able to care for him/her properly, then its better getting an abortion imho. No reason making your future child suffer & be stigmatized for your mistakes.

TS, dont expect any really helpful replies here. Probably you could look thru past threads & PM the posters directly to see how they dealt with the situation

Best summary of the thread. I noticed most posters dont seem to understand that TS isnt exactly happy about having an abortion. Its not an easy way out, but rather a last resort that imho would be the best given the circumstances.

By the way things look, i think both TS & gf have to be financially independent.

What i am more worried about is the strength/durability of TS & gf relationship. If they have this child now, perhaps get stigmatized by both families, perhaps end up in financial hardship, get relationship problems, and may be split. The child might then be viewed as a burden, & not be brought up properly & with love & care. You can say I'm being totally negative, but I knew 1 particular person from such a background very very well, & frankly, at times I think it would be better if (she) had never been brought into this world.

Perhaps some of you who are pro-life (in all circumstances) could also drop into abandoned children shelters & see how their life is, maybe even follow their progress. Some make it out, but too many fall on the wayside to lead meaningless lives.

Oh damn, I'm rambling again. Anyhow at TS, be a little optimistic. You said there was some bleeding. Perhaps the pregnancy kit was a false positive. Its better to wait for the docs report before making any conclusions.

& I think we are still waiting for any 1st hand accounts on this kinda situation

This post has been edited by joe_star: Mar 23 2009, 10:57 PM

This suprises you? Not meaning to offend anyone, but yeah, i know quite a few church-goers who are pretty active in bed. Some even go church just to buaya gals

Why did she then get an abortion in the 1st place? Or did she go for a 2nd one after that?

I dont think so yea. A person should stand by his/her beliefs, regardless of what they may be. Note that I did mention church-goers, meaning these people are active in church activities etc etc. Its something I find in every faith actually. People rarely practice what they preach.

Trust only God. Haha.....the irony of that coming from an atheist.

But anyway, sorry for OT

That happens very often FYI

I kinda get that impression too, though its not for me to say & i respect whatever TS has told us. But you know what? I would probably do the same thing as TS(with my other halfs consent), & frankly admit that I'm doing it now to keep my life & future on track, & also ensuring that my future kids receive better care. Not only financially, but also emotionally.


Yup, in reality yes. But in the eyes of others, they are indeed good followers of whatever religion they profess. Anyway, I myself believe that our fundamental values/beliefs might be shaped by, but in the end transcend religions/faiths/teachings etc. Goodness....this is so OT already

Yeah, 3rd base is good enough

This post has been edited by joe_star: Mar 24 2009, 11:14 PM