Thanks for all the replies all.

I know everyone is divided on how I should deal with this. Anyways had a chat with her after I came back from work yesterday and she just brush the topic away and said its not discussable as the dye has been cast.

Oh well...

Sorry to hear bro.

Don't mind asking, how old are you 2 and how long you 2 have been married?

Check back here. This is just TS ignoring the red flags in his wife's behavior since they were just 2 years into their relationship. They were together for 5 years before getting married in 2019.

Okay can gtfo edi

So stubborn

Both of us are in our mid 30s. Marriage three years

the house under whose name? If its your name, ask her to move out. You dont want to keep giving her attention by seeing her everyday, let her cool down for week or even months, she has to come back and have a mature discussion.

I think this is a little extreme no? Do remember I have a 5 month old son who needs his mom.

Anyways I feel better getting feedback from everyone here

I won't give in that's for sure. Maybe give 1k or something that's fine

Based on her attitude, she's going to throw tantrum if this hasn't been resolved, watch whether she's going to hurt your son. Kick her out of the house to show who's the leader in the house.

Dont argue, dont reason with her within this cooling period
She has to know how to be an adult and sit down calmly.

The son, if you can jaga then you jaga for these few weeks.

If that's your logic, then maybe just divorce is better solution ? since she's an entitled brat kan ? no need waste money. no need waste time bro.

2016 she already shown some red flags and hasnt been resolved
dragged until today

Forumers are more excited on the issues than TS.

Is easy to give advise.

Sometime what they said would not be exactly what they are looking for from you.

In terms of this conversation i would say in her mind she would think you are stingy and the mentioned of allowances is in comparisons to others people husband and their action to spite you. Perhaps what she really want is for you to spend on her, showed her that she is more important to you in comparison to money.

While for your side, you are rational and you manage money well and the family finance is stable. You may approach the request as a commitment that if you agree it will be an obligation, while she may approach it from a need of attention point of view with nothing concrete in mind on how to spend the money given also.

Perhaps next time if you faced similar event again, try brushing the topic aside and do a little spending on her instead.

Either a night out at a fancy restaurant or some gifts. See if this solve your issue, and you can maintain your marriage harmony without breaking the bank. Women really don't know what they want sometime.

Edit: or you could have a wife that wanna enjoy the good life afforded by wanting you to spend all your income as how she treat her own income without any consideration on savings. In that case how you approach finance might be totally different, so i don't think this is solvable

This post has been edited by ChAOoz: Jun 13 2021, 01:15 PM

she has been raised by a materialistic family background and have anger issue
check out his old 2016 post

haha i did an edit. Anyway this is serious K, and it involve someone family and child, as well as their possible environment of growing up.

So before we give a be all end all advice of how a perfect wife should act, do see if a middle ground can be achieve.

well, pretty sure. your wife is the one having issues as she:

1) Never appreciate that by marrying you, her future and children are secure. 30k / month is the 0.1% of the goldmine already.
2) As she is working, she should be doing workhouse together with you, as both are working.
3) She is working 9 - 5, so should time to support you as are the bigger breadwinner here, because i think if your wife earns like 300k / month, u will be scrambling to support her.

Also, i think you can better educate your wife about being financial savvy:

1) Get her to understand about old age expenditure and the children's education. give her the raw figures for her to see
2) Explain investments to her and there is no such thing as get rich schemes.

Lastly, sometimes if you want peace and want the marriage to survive:

1) Tolerate her, give her the allowance of maybe 2k-3k or at least 5% - 10% of your monthly to her, just to keep her happy.
2) Need to have give and take, if she keeps on taking only without concessions, i think you know where this is going.

if you pay attention to his post, he claimed that his wife doesnt have patience for raising a kid also
its multiple red flags shown already, and TS still want to step into it
with his income he has no problem attracting new ladies if he wants to, its just regarding his son mental development only

hailat ... TS is a parent of 2 roles
i bet his wife also just a starfish on bed ... lol

his wife was on ephiphany phase already, sees him as bank account thats why faster demand marriage la
if he marries an early 20s female, the whole situation may have changed, your need awakenings

Well i think now people are holding up too high of a standard and expectation for both the male & female species.

Man want a wife that stays in the kitchen and treat them like king, while women want a man that take care of family while still splurging on them like an ATM.

Both sexes seemed to have the extreme end that habour high expectation what they want from the other half while they themselves are not perfect. Usually those kind seemed to never able to sustain relationships long.

In this case, yes wife might have angered issues, but TS do seemed to be very calculative, depending you are standing on the point of view as a man or a women, but each has their merits.

she's likely to be raised in a used-to-poor family
thats why men are encouraged to marry a younger female, because they're easier to be mould and have less baggages.
Spending money like water is not rational, it's not emotions that built this world, all logics.