Many couples maintain separate finances including me and they have healthy relationships. There is no truth to what you said.

You have obviously not been married but relying on romantic idealism as your pillar of truth. I'm sorry to bring you down to earth but a married couple sharing EVERYTHING together in trust and faith seldom happen in the real world.

Sharing finances is fine if both parties have the same attitude, spending habits, plans and opinion with respect to money. Otherwise joint finances can be a disaster in a marriage.

What does she mean by the die has been cast?

If she is dead set on getting RM5K a month or walking out, tell her to hit the road.

Marriage is a compromise between couples. Both must be willing to compromise. If one party is dead set on not giving way the marriage is doomed to fail.

I can't believe what I'm reading here. TS has a wife who doesn't cook, doesn't do house chores, doesn't take care of the kid, doesn't give sex or only starfish sex, spends all she earns on herself and now demands RM5K from TS? What kind of wife is that? Maybe TS should give her some ultimatums or physical disciplining. If she can't shape up, let her go. With an income of RM30K, other women will be lining up to take her place.

And I heard TS ignored all the red flags before marriage. Never expect a woman to change for the better after marriage. She will probably get worse after she has trapped her man into marriage.

If I were TS I won't give her a single cent until she starts doing her wifely duties (including decent sex) and even then only give her 10%-20% of what she asks for.

This post has been edited by Ginny88: Jun 13 2021, 08:37 PM

You obviously have not read the previous posts in this thread before jumping in with this comment. Putting the money into EPF is the last thing TS's wife will do. She is a spendthrift who maxes out her cc and is still short of money even spending her entire RM5K salary on herself.

This would be true if the wife saves up the money she drains from her husband in case her husband strays. But TS's wife just wants more spending money.