I just talked to my fren who had his chinese wedding reception last week

He told me they received 15 RM10 angpao from the guests during that night

What do u think about this? RM10 angpaos not acceptable?

if they already calculative about stuff like this, they should not get married in the first place.

Post their name and shame them in FB. Come eat RM 100+ per pax dinner. Ang Pao RM10.

RM10 so cheapskate...
Those are ang pows you give to kids during raya.

people short of cash now, CNY coming

so gip RM10 loh instead or RM100

Previously I gave RM 20 because the meals were cold and bad. If hotels like Hilton, easily RM 200 per pax. Min also RM 50.

when you get invited to someone's wedding, and is pretty close to the bride and/or bridesmaid, you are torn between your commitment as a friend, your financial situation, your own personal problems. It is not you to judge someone is cheapskate based on the angpao they give for your wedding.

This post has been edited by amxpayne67: Feb 6 2018, 08:05 AM

people give what they can afford... what is the problem? blame the groom not choosing their guest properly.

RM10 for kids? kfc also need RM12 nowadays... RM10 for CNY is so cheapskate too... hari raya also people give RM10

how's that burn feel to you?

The fact that they come is good enough. I would rather not attend any wedding.waste my time.

kiasu

If close then should be no problem. They will understand. Im just saying in general situation, independent of any extenuating circumstances.

You said it yourself. RM10 also cant buy KFC, thats why its cheapskate.
Raya and CNY give to a lot of kids ang pows vs wedding which is one party only.


Bottom line is only the people who host the wedding's perception is important, not other people.
How important they are to you, how understanding they are, and how important it is that you want to keep a good image of yourself.

You dont tell how much you give, people wont know also.

that is why a lot of people hate to attend wedding ceremony. The so called "close" friend being understanding is really an understatement, because what happens behind the scene is badmouthing the guest based on their "gives / angpow".

Kau bodoh nak mampos takde duit nak buat wedding dinner pergi kahwin dalam hutan la jempot monyet dengan babi hutan datang wedding kau. Bagi pisang.

Kau buat wedding dinner sebab nak celebrate wedding kau dengan close friends, family and relatives. Pastu kau expect monetory return dari wedding kau? Kau tak ikhlas lah tu bangsat!

Takde duit jangan buat wedding dinner lah bingai! Pergi register kahwin pastu pergi kerja macam biasa.

Cheapskate bodoh macam lembu punya orang!

Orang dah bagi duit pastu demand lebih plak! PUIIII!

give any rm but all table full or minimum rm100 but only 2 table full?

which one they prefer? end of the day need pay all table they reserve also.

Rm10?
I'm still receiving RM2 these few years

cukur la dpt 10. haha.

This post has been edited by HafeesFadil: Feb 6 2018, 08:28 AM

No money don't hold dinner la sohai

all from the same guy. total rm150.
my grand uncle used to put rm2 in all his sampul raya. so when kids come, he would give you multiple sampul duit raya accoding to how much he wanted to give. im not too close so he gave me 3 sampul = rm2 x 3 = rm6 (back when I was a kid la). i guess it saves time doing it in mass production like this.

Bad economy

so he think wedding reception is an investment/business

LOL...

Personally I dont get invited often because I will just ignore all those invitations via whatsapp/fb/wechat etc. If you need to invite via social media that just mean thats the sort of friendship we are having... not close enough to get invited.

BTW, what most people failed to realized is how hard life is for some people. You maybe earning 5k or 10k a month for your own usage only but not everyone have the same luxury. Some have kids to feed too. Not to mention housing/car loan. Do you have to invite because you are neighbours? My parents has so many neighbours that they grow up together. When I was getting married, they selectively invited those who are better off financially. Is it harsh? Not really. When you are so close with them, you just have to be frank. They maybe ashamed to bao RM50 since really known for tens of years, and you also dont have the financial to really bear all these losses. Just invite them to the buffet on the pre night.

I think people shouldnt simply invite friends or neighbours that they think they should invite. Just invite close friends and relatives. Make the banquet small-medium sized so that you have time to greet the them properly. The food also arrived faster. Then it will be a better experience for everyone. As of now, what I can say is chinese wedding banquet is a nightmare for most people.

is like that lah, now economy also like that, if no money, don't buka wedding dinner and just have buffet only, atleast can cover some then make it fit to budget.

the guests need to pay for their wedding is it?
bukan dapat piap bini dia pun
owai

I don't see any wrong ..
Wedding dinner is about sharing happiness

And angpao is a sort of good luck/wishing u all the best. From wat I'm told, during grandma era, most angpao inside are hand written wishes..

They came and gip u wishes, it's all the matters.

This post has been edited by xcxa23: Feb 6 2018, 08:47 AM

if u know who will give rm10.. then don't invite that person la... u think u can or not? ur face more important?

if they are from poor family then i think is OK, at least they come and cheer for u.
if they are rich and still give RM10 then abit no good.
Anyway there is no rule said that u must give how much for wedding dinner angpao, it is up to the courtesy of the guest.
Unless u write on the invitation card that angpao must be >RM100.

bodo no mani dun marry la
wan big angpow put signboard notice la

Spot on bro
I'm even planning not to have wedding dinner.. I mean all if not most of it those so call relative and friends are 5 years dunno got meet once or not. Even if meet at street also nvr say hi

Might as well safe the money go for longer honeymoon..
But not sure if my other half will agree or not 😂

if mau set minimum price, put it in your invitation card

still can't beat my cousin who receive fake bank note

the unknown guest even take the initiative to scan RM50 notes and print it out

Chinese wedding dinners are the worst. Dinner always start late, food also not that nice, end late at night, somemore need to pay RM100. I can eat better food with that price. That's why I always straightaway say I can't attend and make up an excuse.

If you ned to break even or make profit from a wedding, you don't deserve to hold that wedding. People should have the mindset that you make a loss if they intend to hold such thing.

i think 2-3 years back when my sister getting married and i was calculating the money on groom side..there ppl giving only rm20 many of them but guess they living in kampung or some sort not earning too much money end up have to cover back couple thousand

WTH........... gave angpow only after eaten? U sure u went to chinese wedding?

nothin wrong!! it is still money!!
if nak harap return xpenses, better not open to many tables...

Yes. Saw the meals prepared next door already no appetite. It was a small restaurant anyway.

Luckily they didn't give you empty ang pao packets.

Should follow Shanghai style (if I'm not mistaken), they announce your angpow figure thru microphone immediately. Fuuyo....

Too cheapskate

As i only attend close friend or family wedding, at least 100 to 200

1. where was the wedding dinner value held first? low class place of coz get low value angpao should be expected

2. you wanna invite the people then you should already know what to expect.

izzit true that some wedding they put a statement that only cash is acceptable, gift is not allowed?

Not Acceptable

ask ppl come but want money. LOL chinese logic 404.

Its named ang pow for a reason. Its their right to give any amount.

If you have an chinese wedding, expect to be able to settle the bill by yourself, don't go expecting your guests to settle the bill for you. If you cannot afford it, just don't have the dinner

cukur melayu
kawin dtg makan tak payah kasi pun takpa

lol typical chinaman
wedding also want business
kek

not really
ade je melayu2 bangsat bikin kenduri kalau salam keruk tangan
wtf




This post has been edited by cikalakacikaci: Feb 6 2018, 09:25 AM

bhai kau tu bukan cina bhai
asal kau tacing bhai

Its the not married people belanja guest meh?

i went to 2 malay weddings. not hotel one, at home punya. both times the mother of the groom will do ala carte. you just order what you want and she cooks it on demand. dem.

I think also have to depend on the guest you are inviting, is the guest is someone you knoe or is a very distant friend?

next time when they get married n u r invited u give the same lor

rich people wont complain. if you scare lose money. do smaller wedding

i don't have control or say on the cost for the dinner, the date nor time yet I have to pay according to what you wish ?

RM10 mebe too little to your fren, but some family can fed few mouth liao for a day ....

that's why I feel the big Chinese wedding dinner mentality should die fast, it's expensive, tiring, a hassle, and 80% of the people invited are not even someone you know closely. Most of it are from the parent's friends. And those old people karaoke galore is a torture to boot.
Just invite really close friends and family, ideally not more than 60 people, a small dinner with bride and groom giving brief speech then done. Don't even need the guest to pay for anything since it's affordable.

Attended more than a dozen weddings & never seen anyone do this.

get married with the expectation of getting a profit via the angpow kah? lel

Nak ajar mereka adab bai. Kita 1 Malaysia. Ramai jugak kawan aku cina jemput wedding. Tapi blum ada yang macam TS.

kalau mau berkira sangat, dont do wedding dinner.
kalau mau buat jugak, pay out of own pocket is expected.

kalau ada hati mau buat profit from the dinner, then i say padan muka kena rm10 angpau. in fact if you kena newspaper in angpau lagi bagus.

+1 its true man. U wanna held wedding dinner u dont take it as business. Wedding dinner is suppose u wanna share the moments with ur close friend relatives family. I dont understand y chinese like this.

bagi packet angpao ngan gula sebijik kt dlm da cukup tuh.

RM10 also money what. U should be grateful they didn't put hell note inside the ang pao.

choi

Not trying to be racist, from my experience those are non Chinese frens. I accepted because probably its the norm for them.

waa 2018..still chinese so calculative...kiasuness too strong...

Angpow is "lai see".

No need complain guests give u lai see.

If want fixed or minimum cash then set door charge la. Don't pretend to invite guests for dinner to celebrate yr wedding

itu untuk event lain bhai

invitation card must write clearly. Ang pow money should not be less than RM100

dont expect reasonable sum FROM EVERY SINGLE TIME/PERSON, ALL THE TIME. When he gets generous sum (lets say rm500 from boss )... did he felt syukur coz its able to offset the less then favorable ones?


btw, some of my relatives arent' well to do... they make a point to help out during wedding events and we insist that they shouldnt worry about angpau during wedding dinner coz its waived.

This post has been edited by alanyuppie: Feb 6 2018, 10:08 AM

another sei sohai chinamen mindset. people invite you to their wedding supposed to feel happy for them, now first thing come into thought is financial burden

belanja makan ma. why expect the guests u invited to belanja your wedding dinner yo? it's your marriage, u wanna host dinner, u belanja makan. not the other way round. those who whine on the amount of cash in 'lai see' is cheapskate+vague. think twice if u have friends of that kind. are they genuinely happy to have u to witness their wedding grandeur, or do they just want u eat your soft rice?

Eleh cakap banyak, cheapskate lettew

Kalau finance buruk, hantar angpow cukup la jangan pergi makan

Hehe..my angpow just RM2 for kids

ok la at least you dont only put fai chun inside.

Remember the ppl who gave, then bagi balik rm10 for their wedding la

It's good practice to note down the names of the angpow givers on the angpows, you know which one paid how much, so that next time you can return the favor

This post has been edited by incubus_skj: Feb 6 2018, 10:13 AM

so, money is more important than the wedding?

BTW, to avoid getting smaller angpows from poorfags, he shouldn't imvited them. Only choose those loaded friends & relatives liao.

My yardsticks: if normal restaurant/malay wedding- RM30/pax.
Hotel wedding- rm50/pax

depend it suksesful marriage or not

the kiasu'ness is strong in you~

Put in some durex voucher also better than rm10!

last time I receive from non-cainis, so understand that they gaji not high but come enjoy the occasion. Not that I invited many.

Normally, those who give rm 10 are those whose parents just gave a few thousand

I got that too

Honestly if the guests are so fuckin cheap, they should do the right thing and decline to attend.

I mean, it takes 2 to tango.

Yes, getting married, people are normally ready to absorb the costs and besides the dinner, there is alcohol, photographers and lord knows what else.

But also, when you are invited, you fuckin better be able to pay market rate, or just decline to attend and fuck off to the side. I mean RM50 to RM100 is fine enough, but RM 10 ? Dafuq ?


This post has been edited by omnimech: Feb 6 2018, 10:27 AM

me too. and the halal meal set even expensive then the restaurant price. I told them, just put whatever you think u affort it.

let me get this clear, TS 'fren' invited someone to his wedding but expect guest to pay for his own meal?

I feel if you can't afford a big wedding, keep it small..dun expect guests to come pay for your costs. I kept mine at 30 tables, close relatives and friends and still managed to pay off dinner costs and the liquor with leftover for 2nd dinner. Photographer was part of the package from the wedding house.

Nowadays even couples take loans to save face, useless

Put RM10, might as well put newspaper at that point.

then for those who can afford the big wedding, you expect to go there as a guest, makan all their good food, minum all the alcohol and just give RM10 angpow?

lul

lucky i no have friends like this

yeah ikr

NMH this is your wedding and you invite people come to celebrate. People has no responsibility for sponsoring the wedding dinner regardless. People come already give face, some more wanna complain about ang pao small. How about those retired old folks who are poor and no income?

Wanna do wedding dinner should expect to pay all but not for making money.

if my friends invite me to their wedding, they better prepare for losing money. you invite me without knowing my financial background. what friend are you?

and you LGE, konfem all rich rich friends

My cousin had small wedding. 20 tables in bankers club. didnt have angpow collection , but still got a lot of ppl come give angpow.

i think chinese wedding been changing over the time

for chinese anything to congratulate or celebrating ang pao will be given but not the amount just take as wishing to another person

but over the years, then ppl is care more about the amount due to chinese want "face" so they usually order expensive food with the restaurant and come up from couple hundread to thousand a table

some not so rich and wanted "faces" then will hope guest will give some amount to help out by ordering expensive food per table , of course not many can earn from wedding dinner by it self...

but chinese now tend to forgot the true meaning of wedding, of course i know some are very rich and dont accept ang pao but the case is less

rm10 bukan money meh???

i recd once from a couple attending mine giving 20 for both

ekonomi bad. people have rough life now.

if you happen to bao rm10, just dun get your name written down.

after all who the hell know how much you bao?

win.

i got invited multiple times for friends wedding...of course i will give decent amount from RM80 to RM 100 for attending alone, coz we all know the drill ..i not rich or from rich family i will give base on my current financials