I was in the same situation like u but this girl is in overseas

We matched during start of MCO (Apr 2020), at the beginning everything was very good, late night talk, call, chat, gaming together. But we havent be able to meet, 2 weeks ago i decided to block her on all my social media, i didnt give any hints even though we chat everyday and without saying a bye or anything.... i vanish. Now looking for new relationship

you Ghosted her smh. only used her to fill your loneliness during those times, douche move. But for so many months u never really liked her or what.
I also started talking to this guy overseas since Mar/Apr and still ongoing until now, sometimes chatting can be a few hours. Just that we cant meet yet due to lockdown.

Anyway dead thread. wonder hows everyones LDR.

If I've got a choice I would never go into an LDR early on. They usually just die a slow but steady death. Relationship cancer.

I've got a Taiwanese ex, we were together for 3 years until I left. Even though she came over for visits maybe once every month, we couldn't do it because she's busy and I'm also really busy. At some point you truly how much you both love each other, but towards the end...you'll realise that it's because of that love that you should just let each other go.

If you've really found the One in your life, sometimes it's worth it. I've seen LDR couples that been through all these hurdles together are truly the strongest and their relationship more precious. Its definitely not for everyone...only the strongest mentally. Did you two not plan your future? that's the most important part even before getting really deep into the relationship. Like who is going to move, migrate etc...if no one can compromise then its doomed to fail.

My case also quite similar to his, also Taiwan.
We also have plans for future, what we gonna do.
It was delayed due to the pandemic, which is why I started to look for a job at there.
The thing is, she broke it up one day before I got a call back, which was few days ago.
I still haven’t got the job, but it’s a progress. Now I’m gonna channel all my energy to make all my promises came true, even though she’s no longer around.

Oh yes, we did plan. Quite extensively too, with short term goals and all. Problem is plans also change...
We wanted to go to UK to continue our studies together, but we eventually felt that our respective jobs were more lucrative than what we'd get even after getting more education done. She didn't like Malaysia cuz she couldn't do Malay; I didn't like Taipei because there's limited opportunities there, and I don't quite appreciate Mandarin. Anyways.

How about you? What's your story

For me we're not even in a relationship yet cause we cant meet yet due to lockdown as u know. Hes from Thailand. We met in discord like 8 months ago and talked almost daily since then, sometimes for hours. We are the best of friends now, there's feelings but we dont dare to make it official yet until we meet each other, its mutual we know that. Cause you only know if u truly love that person after seeing them physically.
Job wise we're both fine...hes on a high paying job there and it isnt expensive to travel between Thai/Msia. But we have yet to plan so much of course since we arent official yet. But we're both already mature adults to know the compromises we need to make. SO yeah just hope this covid thing ends soon.

(im on limited posts on this new acc lol i'll reply pm if needed)

Yes i admit is a douche move... and i have been using her
Seems like LDR no longer work for me...
Few years ago I’m ok with LDR but when time goes, and as u grow older, Seems like LDR doesnt work for me and i need real human touch along with me

Where do you met your taiwanese ex?

While i was studying there. I came back to work, to be closer to my family.
Then she wants to study phd, so i revise our plan.
It was painful, but at least I got to see my niece growing up. I got to be the uncle that taught her how to walk, because i was staying with my sister while i look for jobs.
The only silver lining in all this heartbreak.

I see... hope u have move on from her and found someone new

you don't give up.

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"

don't come asking why some girl ghosted you in the future aye?

I made mine no longer LDR

my LDR was from August 2017 and we gotten married on Feb 2020 and been staying together since i got the privilege to work from home during the entire MCO

Yes i do understand that... karma...

a bit late, but congratulations

Thank you!

Someone pls enlighten me as to how this constitute as a relationship???

April until October is 6 months. How is that not a relationship? Because they didn't meet in person?

dating apps, after chat few weeks; even we found some connection,
in the end just drift apart. cause of incompatibality, & stay in another state.
in my case, easier for both to keep looking for more suitable person.

yup, important to fill loneliness, boredom during lockdown times.
wfh can be stressful at times.

friendship? on9 relationship? ya, it lack the human touch/meetup.
but have the connection, & fills your loneliness

Come on... By now you guys should've know for a fact that how a person communicates digitally could, and most likely, will be very different from how they communicate in person. I'd give some leeway if it's FaceTime or video chat but texting, like pen pal in the olden days, is grossly out of touch with reality. If you have already meet and started the relationship prior to it going into LDR, that's OK! That's LDR! But if you text a random stranger for 6 mths, a relationship it is not! Maybe my take on the term "relationship" is different than most? Is it me?



Fill loneliness, boredom, these reason does not make those texting with someone you've never met a "relationship" right? I'm talking about boy girl relationship not friendship.

Just my 2 cents!