reporting in since my first serious relationship since August 2017.

proposed for marriage but there's a lot of uncertainties and doubts growing within my gf/fiancee as we're both very different individuals and my financial status is not at a comfortable level to most girls and definitely not to her as she's financially much stronger than i am.

i definitely want to pull through this even though it is very difficult.

as justnits mentioned on the previous version, 168km is actually quite short, but at the same time, every weekend traveling has definitely put some strain to my already weak financial capabilities.

that "convenience" does lead to more frequent traveling and in the end, the cost turns out to be very similar anyways.

in a way, worse for me because i've blown my sports car clutch housing from a seized clutch bearing, and my sportbike's engine requiring a complete rebuild.

the added amount for just those 2 issues is an estimated (because i can't afford to deal with the bike currently) 6-7k.

for one, it doesn't have to be the race track (figuratively or literally), and secondly, there's always cheaper alternatives.

if anything, i believe in "when there's a will, there's a way"
otherwise LDR would be so much more difficult/unbearable.

i think it isn't so much on who's weaker, more on how she's financially stable with savings and reserves, while i barely have any savings (actually none before i met here, working on that around!) and recently i've having employment instability and losing my job soon so that does bring huge concerns and worry to anyone, or to any girls/female i suppose.

perhaps, you probably missed mine when i was emphasizing over justnits 's post.

sure there is public transportation but even that cost money and it surely will add up.
and besides, considering my hobby of driving/riding, you can see where my preference lies.

personally i don't want to view it as a complaint (although clearly that's how it is for you) as it is something more related to my own personal hobbies than a LDR matter.

if i were to recap/re-highlight on the original point, it's probably a matter of give and take, pros and cons.
and in online/social media or even forums like these, people tend to only see the good side of others (other couples) and often missed the negative side of things.

very possible, we both fairly matured working adults after all, and both in the same IT industry so we understand how hectic it can be at times. Just that i believe our relationship is still very young (since August 2017) so we probably still in that honeymoon stage and we both wanting to meet each other a lot.
Things toned down a huge notch after i proposed and we got engaged, maybe because of the things happening around me, and her being worrisome by nature. (having doubts of marrying me)

i'm mostly (almost always) the guy doing the traveling, probably cuz im a guy but i dont mind anyways since i really love driving/riding anyways lol
yes we are very well aware of our financial status, can say she's the finance minister already

Thanks for asking! it really depends on how defines fully recovery.
my implant is permanent, and according to doctors who have no idea themselves, my pain seems permanent as well.
and yes i am still in pain to this very second as i am typing this post, be it sleep, laying down/sit/standing anything, there will be constant nagging pain at my back, and it gets worse as i move any muscle involving my upper torso/neck (which means just about any activity lol)

technically only paid once, and thats fully paid by insurance. unless you count the occasional pain relieves like salonpas/yokoyoko lol
but naw my condition isnt a problem in our relationship.
we've been living together since our 3rd date (only weekends, obviously) and needless to say there's no way to hide a super long scar lol.

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while i do agree/can relate on the "guy must do this" bit, it mainly comes down to my hobbies/passion in motorsports and while the north south is a little boring, there is a few nice curves during the ayer keroh exit and also the back roads at batu berendam air port that always put a smile in my face tackling them lol

realistically and ironically, it is actually more economical for her to travel as her HRV is much more fuel saving and her foot is obviously lighter than mine
until i use 2 wheels of course, but no longer an option for the time being cuz the engine seized and i have no money to rebuild it

referring back to what you said:

except its what she thinks of me.
"will our kids suffer?" "what about child expenses?" "what about expenses living together?" "what about marriage expenses?"
i'm more on a "fuck it (obviously altered a little lol) let's do this leeerrroooyyy"

we've actually had many many long talks about it, and i don't blame her because they are all valid concerns.
but we'll eventually work to a good ending or at least a good compromise

Thanks for the kind words!
really miss my bike - been 2 months i havent ridden it already. Actually went gohtong/genting on my new kapchai (that i had to park a number plate lol), but my god so.very.slow. on the uphill LOL
if the damn thing isnt that slow, my LDR traveling cost would actually be quite low considering the crazy 40+ km/l FC lol
never in my life i've swiped my card, start fueling, and shortly after the fuel nozzle stops/clicks at rm2+
even on ron97.

Sorry to hear that, and thanks for the wishes.

Thanks you!

Well, 15k per month may or may not be rich, but we can all agree that you're very well to do.
That pay is easily double if not triple for majority of Malaysians in their 30's-40's

If anything, it almost doubles mine!
(But yes I still like Motorsports despite not being rich lol)

always would be highly subjective

LDR after all, is typically a doom and gloom affair.

I think it flew by you that both are male.

The previous post missed a 'r' (str8)

I suppose in today age, best to not stereotype/assume.

Personally this is beyond my understanding anyways and I won't pretend to understand lol

yeap agreed.

Thanks for the words of encouragement!

Good luck bro!

You've generally known what needs to be done, right?

15 minutes, be what does it mean to you? What does it mean to her?
To someone fighting for their lives, on their death beds, 15 minutes can seem like an eternity.

On a more lighthearted manner/jokingly, 15 minutes can also seem like an eternity to workers waiting to leave office while not having any pending task/work.
We all know how that feels staring at the clock lol.

You're tired? What about your gf? Doesn't she feel tired as well?
So how far are you 2 apart?

An hour ok ma.
If you don't have an hour, let her know later.

You're human also right? Even if you don't have greedy (hah.) , You'll have some other flaws and she'll have to deal with those too.
Matter of fact is that, are both of you willing to deal with each other's flaws?

150km is ok.
I'm in similar distance LDR.
It isn't easy, however we're planning marriage soon

Have you bought a ring with your estimation? It's not that easy

Since my marriage and MCO I've been staying with my now wife

Still haven't find a place to settle down in KL though so once I'm required to return to office, I'll be back to LDR

Then it'll end sour

My advice is when there's a will there a way, and that applies to both of you.

Can you wait?
Time waits for no one.