why 7yrs and you haven't seal the deal?
its not easy to endure long distance and if you have insecurity, its better to cut it off.

no LDRs going on huh? lol

Still going on.. if ldr within peninsular Malaysia is considered ldr. A bit worried about the future whether it will work out fine.

still going on too, visiting her place like balik kampung(indonesia) once every month.

and we don't really chat now because we ask the same question everyday, just keep in touch if anything happen.

This post has been edited by deyamato: Nov 29 2019, 04:51 PM

If you have to travel to see each other (meaning you're not in the same city/town), then yes it's LDR.

lol well, you'd definitely run out of things to talk about if you talk every day

Without any sign or warning, my girlfriend just ended our 8-year relationship after just 1 month in New Zealand.

Angmo power.

This post has been edited by tonYe: Dec 9 2019, 10:53 AM

oh wow. sorry to hear

sorry to hear and goodluck on your next relationship

Me and my foreign GF barely 3km on each other house but feel like LDR. She work as maid so cannot come out. Currently we video call oly on weekend as weekday cannot use phone. After MCO she told me to visit her boss house on every weekend. DAMM awkward as her boss also my customer and also curi curi meet her before few times.

yeah it can feel like an ldr if you don't get to see each other regularly. it's good that you at least try to see her when you can

Hi fellow cupids,

How do u maintain a relationship where your gf/bf is in another state? Im in KL but she's in Ipoh atm.

How was your past experience marrying someone from different states?

She's studying atm but gonna graduate soon, then I might ask her to stay with me in KL. But the problem is she's a soon to be doctor, so gvt might post her to other hospitals not in KL

This post has been edited by Oklahoma: May 13 2020, 01:31 AM

Hi any advise on maintaining relationship in different states?

She in perak and i in KL.

Then her job might not allow her to stay in KL

How long have you been together? Have you talked about the future? Eventually, if you want to be together, sacrifices must be made. I think it would be good to have a goal to work towards together

either she relocate or you relocate...but what's your long term goal?

Long term is to marry of course

Man damn either of us wouldn't budge because we put career ahead of anything, I cant just find work in Sabah all of a sudden if she's posted there

We are young, early 20s who are focusing on our careers

I cant relocate to her place nor does she...

Then just marry without expectations of each other. Focus on the advantages: both of you can focus on career, and during holidays can spent quality time with each other. During LDR days just a morning/night text if nothing interesting to talk about, and try to call at least once a week to talk about everything that has happened the past week (family, friends, work, hobby, TV, can sex chat if interested also)

Just make sure when you both say focus on career, really focus on career, don't gatal gatal go flirt with other people or accept flirting from others.

Other state only, not other country. Kecoh ape?

lel take kesah state ke country ke if cannot meet face to face is already LDR

LDR is never easy. There is no right or wrong approach to it. Id say, if you are placing your career first, relationship second, then you must be ready to face many many fights later on in life.

When kids come to the picture, different story all together. If you both want to focus on career, my advise, stay apart and meet whenever you can. Maybe one day one of you will budge or have the luck to work in same state. but till then, not easy.