Hi.

Would like to share my real story..

im 22 year old... but im still single .. i havent had any serious bf b4.. time pass so quick..

i rmb when i was 18, almost all my school mates and course mate did have their first love... but that time, im not desperate to getting one.. but sometimes i will feel not happy and ask why my mr right yet to appear..

but after few years, and im 22.. i seen many of my frens same age wit me had married... and have their own bf.. almost every of my frens..

im pretty and tall.. (this one all that knew me, give the comment) and i have a stable career at my age..

and all my frens thought i have a good bf oredi.. but when i told them that i havent has a bf b4 and now.. they are will suprise....

really...

there are guys approach me all the while, but i havent found any mr right yet... most of the guys approached me are quite immatured and some of them even married... or playboy...

everytime guys approach me i will take it slowly and treat it nothing.. and after a period, they will dismiss me... maybe they are not sincere and patience.. or maybe i got problem... with my deeds..

but now i felt uneasy when most of my relatives asked me about bf..

"have u ever got a real bf?'"

this kind of questions.. and it made me uneasy and desperate...

i hope i can find a good bf and hope he can be the one i can rely... and trust...

i rmb one guy did approach me is he thought that im an open minded girl.. "u know what i meant?"

and when he knew me deeply that im a conservative girl, he will find another gf... when i started to have a bit feel on him, he acted like this...

maybe all these are becox tat i havent met a real mr right?

i seldom go out with frens and mix around.. normally i will be at house during weekend or holiday.. i enjoy the time like this... and i hope this will ok for my future bf too.. i want to spend my freee time with my family... and i know that hardly a guy will accept this... thats y my scope of frens are not much .. most of them are girlss....

if got guys frens oso not my cup of tea.. or even yup, they also got gf oredi...

Any pix's ?

very sad story meh...
i want be your bf..

Seems like you are quite negative & like to compare with others

The only thing you can do is continue your life and mix with new friends if possible.

If you always keep searching for the "one", frantically, you will be disappointed at the end.

Sometimes, good things may happen as a surprise, you know.

Many of my friends, are already attached, but then.....since i don't, i guess i have other better things to focus, for now.

This post has been edited by Kampung2005: Apr 6 2010, 04:13 PM

Dun need to rush la ... ur 22 only. U should be worry at >25. Start as of frens... know more ppl first. And most importantly ur expectation got to be realistic. If u expect to marry rich guy only.. then good luck lo....

cheh~~~ only 22yrs old wanna scared no bf.
still plenty of time to choose and befriend. I can tell u lar... u lucky the guy din eat u and disappear.
If they really love you or not only for one night stand or wan to sax u only then would mind be a real friend with you.
No worries lar, one you work already sure can get bf one.
Too bad me got partner already, if not i can be friend with you too...hehe.

wifey material...good

i wan to be ur bf

Too choosy.

time walk by fast as fast .. age increase as the nombor 1 to 2..
well.. just can say.. wish u meet ur Mr.Right soon..

been seen ur comment on the topic " why r u still single " ..
is quite nice .. honest..

You're still young, get to know more friends but be SMART.
At your age you should socialise, know more ppls and i believed you definately will get the ideas of what you needed in your life, what type of guys is ideal for you, your living style etc

Sometime you just cant hurried yourself to get into a relationship, situation might just get worst when you simply choose your partners, thinking by just getting a bf might solve your relatives/friends pressure.

There's guys who likes to stay at home as well after he got a gf/wife..a family man...

Enjoy life and dont just stay at home.. Love will comes when you less notice it..good luck

u are too focus on comparison and getting "who is ur ideal partner", i think partly is because of "face problem".

instead of finding "who u want" which usually made u so blind to observe the surrounding, try mix around, know more ppl and learn to whoever that are available which "who you accept"

hey i am 30 and same as u

Yeah just take it slow. I'm 22 too, and not worrying at all.

IMO, the right one might appear and we might not even notice it because we are too busy looking for the 'perfect' one.

Age 22 isn't late to get a partner unless u follow tradional kampung way.

I would rather say you and the guy u meet is choosy and timing not right for your case.

You like to stay home and spend time with family is not a problem to guy nowadays because if u ask guy where to go pak toh today...i believe lot guy will say dunno or say stay home to avoid jam and it is so hot outside.

I think u dun have to reduce your taste and preference level. U're still young. Dont bother about married unless u r desperately want to.

Keep going and wish u found your true love somewhere around the corner..

Go out at the weekends & mix around wif fren...

Wan bf.. gif me your pix n FB

That's cos you haven't met me.

Jokes aside. How are you going to meet Mr.Right if you don't make more friends? You don't think he's going to drop down from heaven on to your lap do you?

It's really funny sometimes girls/guys say they want to meet a potential spouse but do nothing to attain it , you have a better chance striking lottery. You need to make effort to be where a possible mr.right would be. If you want someone who is melancholic and homely who likes to read, go to the bookstore. Join a book club. Etc.

If you want someone sporty join badminton activities etc. Money ain't going to drop from heaven, neither will husbands.

You're only 22 So much more ahead of you. You're just not ready. Perhaps, broaden your circle of friends and who knows...

FB and msn pls?
I show you what is mature guys..
But minus the looks and $$ as I am unemployed..

tell me what u can give me, then i give u what u want nia

Problem is, you don't give yourself a chance, how are you going to find mister right? What like you have a list of conditions a guy have to fulfill? Throw that list away and burn it. Just go with your gut feeling la. You can't know what flying is like until you actually fly.

i think she's too busy filtering her 20'000 pm's from the 10 buayas and the 1000 dupe accounts.

So do something about it la.
Go out socialise.
If you're conservative then no choice you have to find a conservative guy la.
If you want to choose guys , guys also have every right to choose who they want to be with and if you're not their cup of tea, they will just find another one. Nothing wrong with that.

This post has been edited by Drian: Apr 6 2010, 04:50 PM

O.o ... 22 years old den so cham jor say untill ....

i cant imagine what if a 40 y.o. still single

TS, are u one of those princessy little queens?

yes u r rite..

hehe...

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Added on April 6, 2010, 4:54 pmwat u mean>?

This post has been edited by cutebabe1988: Apr 6 2010, 04:54 PM

Princess mentality usually means that a girl who always want the guy to treat her in any circumstances.

im 23 yrs old this year and i'm having same problem with u...haihh

when i found 1, always kena bang wall.... /.\

ic.. emm.. not at all..

i think we have thing in common..lazy want to go out weekend....

just be patient..u still young..but if course finding a good bf nowadays quite tough..but actually by 22, you should have a bf already..at least you get to know him at least a year or 2 before you start getting serious, meaning considering will you continue further in your relationship...don't think about sex before marriage..

good luck in your life..lucky me got gf liao..hehe

If you have not try to attempt one, how do you know whether a guy is good or not?

You need to try...

nah.. din't lie leh..

just kidding.. but me a bit mature for 22 year old... i mean my look..

maybe im quite tall... tats y... ppl will thought im older than my age... tats y normally guys will approach me will be 30 something and somemore had married...

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Added on April 6, 2010, 5:01 pmoff course no premarital for me.. im a very conservative person in this situation... but i will not expect all the ladies will think like me... i love my self very much... and i want to give the most precious one to my husband, i mean my mr right in future...



This post has been edited by cutebabe1988: Apr 6 2010, 05:01 PM

matured guy don play phesbook yo.

I would say you need to go out and socialise more. More friends more possibility. As you never have the first bf before, it's expected that you set the standard very high. Because everybody wants first time in everything to be perfect. So maybe you should try to lower the expectation a little bit, and see what happens. If you don't want to lower it, then no need to rush also, love will come one day.

Gimme your FB and Pix gurley..

Epci Failed..
I got shot down..
Time to retreat liao..
All the best, buayas!!

Just b calm.. Dnt b any worry.. Well, i believe in fate.. Perhaps 1 day, there will b a man who will look in2 u n think ur attractive 2 him.. Just b patience.. Gud things always come abit late but its worth waiting.. Its ok if ur single, God hav already plan ur fate.. Trust in urself n chill out gurls..

Bottomline, you're a conservative person. Which is why you don't go out much, which is why you can't get all the good guys, which is why you're wondering why you can't find the right guys.

The phrase "Nice guys finish last" doesn't just apply to guys, you know.

Hmmm... +1

pls.....u said those boys r immature?
ur self r immature......

ur so called mr. right is the handsome guy in ur imagination which actually comes from early age exposure to disney fairytale & taiwanese/korean/japanese drama......

i always advice girls like u....
"of coz u cant find mr. right/the one, bcoz u're not suppose to find it, u're suppose to mold it."

u see, the is no 1 is dis world where it is born to be perfect for each other.
2 person wit different personality will get 2gether like 2 pieces of dynamic puzzle pieces.
overtime, both form will change into a matching set of puzzle pieces.
dis is wen u realized theother person is mr./ms. right.

so ts, pls.....of coz ur still single....is ur immature thinking....
stop whining coz it is ur own fault.....

This post has been edited by tech3910: Apr 6 2010, 05:22 PM

+1

well, some of my friends (~25yrs) r still single (guys n gals alike). some have had their first love.. others.. nv been in a relationship b4.
the thing is.. each time our group of friends wan to go out for yumcha session.. they'll ask "available or x 1?.. if not, then dun wan lah", n so
they miss out chances of making new friends. One shd nv meet new ppl for the sake of seeking 'The One'.. mix around, be friends 1st, n if there's fate, love will blossom

guys dun come fallin fr the sky, TS. u gotta go out there and find em or else other gals will get em early. ur young, u need to broaden ur social circle. someguys may look like jerks but they prob not, some guys might look like good guys but they can be real jerks. never judge too much of a book based on its cover.

haizzz.....

can anyone bump this thread in next 4 years??

My guess TS still in process to be mature

and some guys are like jerks on the outside, but once you get to know them, they're actually really cool. But not everyone likes to peel onions because they're afraid it makes them cry.

aiyo dont w8 too long..just pick 1 and marry already...later your so call pretty will fade away..then all saham goes down..

emm... pic first...

then we can troubleshoot

First of all, u r still young. Second i think u r choosy when comes to choosing a bf. Third i think u r a little anti social.

Try going out, socialize more.. then things will happen naturally.

there is no need to hurry.

you be teacher, i be student. i bad boy de. spank me pls.

maybe put ur photo here...
i believe a lot of nice nice guys waiting for it liao

Did someone ask for a spanking? I thought I heard someone asked to be spanked.

For you, bend over.

You're the bad boy asking to be spanked, right?

I'm only bad in the presence of women. Single women to be precise.

LoL...look at her post on why r u still single..then i guess you will know why she is still single..haha

pretty?! LOL

Ok, I bring a single woman, and you bend over for me to spank.

The problem could be your expectation are too high, or even impossible.. But i understand how you feel.
You cant find your Mr.Right because you feel all of them are not good or understands you, am i correct?
That is because you love yourself too much that you think you cant find someone that is exactly the same like you.

You are 22 and you think you are too old and its time to get married? If that is what you think then you might as well dont find a bf because you are just getting one for the sake of getting one.
Im 29 and im still single and dont exactly see a problem, but im a guy btw

The problem may not lies in other ppl but your ownself..
You said most guys are immature but are you? or you just think you are matured but your not?
And how do you measure maturity?
Maturity are not something physical (unless you mean those 6Cs) and its very objective and differ for every person.
For eg, a guy that likes to joke can be viewed as immature and also as matured viewed by different person.

You are doing it correct by treating them slowly, but how do you mean "slowly" ?
What reaction or hint do you give to them?
Its not entirely your fault (because i dont know the whole story) but most guys are just using "hit and go" tactic to chase girl.
Meaning guy see girl, guy flirt girl, girl take bait, guy gets girl....This is if the girl takes the bait..
If the girl doesnt take the bait then the guy will move on to other target and continue the same thing.

For the bolded part you should change abit, go out meet more friends, mix around.. No harm knowing more friends.

Last but not least, if you think the guys around your age are too immature then you can try older guys in 30's
And dont give up choosing the correct Mr.Right

dear cutegirl, if u want a wealthy bf, please make sure u have something to offer. from what i can see in your posts, u have a shit personality and shittier attitude. so your only bankable asset is your beauty and even then, it'll depreciate day by day so please lah, look in the mirror before asking for stars and sky.

yala yala, immature blah blah, i know ur posts de.

Btw, u said u "dont have serious bf" does that means you have many bf b4 or you never have any bf?

Why your story quite similar to me one... lol!

Only difference is u tall and pretty female... me tall and ugly male and most of my circle of friends are guys... lol!

Just take your time in getting the right guy... Every now and then, try thinking in your head... In 10 years time, how do you see yourself... With a family or without a family, kids, house, job and etc... Once you do this, you'll need to think what kind of guy you want to end up with, one who can accommodate your future life ...

Your problem right now is that, either you are too fussy when it comes to guys (if you are, then you may need to learn on how to compromise) or else you are clueless as to what kind of guy you looking for... lol!

Finding the right person is something that you got to do carefully... You shouldn't end up in a position where you just settle with anyone off the street... lol!

I'd be wary of women who claim they are "tall" and/or "pretty" on the internet. I've been a victim once. Yes she's tall, but she's also heavy, if you catch my drift, and those who said she is "pretty", mostly family members, or those who have something to gain from telling such lies.

Take it from the spanker, it's better to go out with a girl who says she is short, fat and ugly on the internet and is short, fat and ugly in real life than to go out with a girl who says she is tall and pretty on the internet but is fat and ugly in real life.

But she is seeking advice... lol!

I don't think she's looking for a mate here, is she??? lol!

aduh, how long into the internet courtship before you saw her face?

She's also advertising herself, no doubt. Or she (or a he) could be trolling.

Mean she have some puppy love before (during school age)

I can tell u that it nothing if u still single at 22. (Although i married at 22)

Love sometimes come fast u might get married in another 2 year who know.

As u writing i might thinking u are type looking for somebody who willing to spend time to understand and know more abt u before he step another step further.

I can tell you that these kind of ppl is kind of hard to find cause u need maintain long term relation with a lot of fren only u might know such type of ppl.


But girl don't worry, It always just manner of time. Like me before i meet my current wife i always date other go out also. When time past i will know do i have feel against them or not. It take me abt 3 week to understand my feeling against her only i start the process of chasing her

Don't worry be happy. During ur worry time ur mr Right my just pass through u !!!!

about 6-7 months.

izit u aer the one not doin anything izit? mayb u trying to sell exp the guys all go after you but you show no interest or you try berlagak thats why they ciao izit?

id have to say , i share a similar fate with ts , only diff im a guy

troll spotted

++++

self praise is no praise..

edit: self praise is self disgrace

some ppl jz like to seek attention... no wonder still single

This post has been edited by jimmyktp: Apr 6 2010, 07:37 PM

TS is still single because she thinks too highly of herself, is too defensive, frigid and close minded. She doesn't know how to let loose and have a good time. Is it any wonder she's still single?

lets go out and bincang.

erm

same situation XD

diff is
i got mix around =)

appearance is not everything gal attitude ! a women's beauty is not from the outside but from the inside. surely there is a good man out there !

to above~

lol XD

i do trust He willappear
jus fate.

omg, you are 22 years old and im 22 years old, you tall and im tall, infact i like tall girl , ur pretty and im decent ! okay ON, lets be friend ! pm me your msn or facebook. u wont disappoint with my look, trust me just friend.

This post has been edited by sporkfoon: Apr 6 2010, 08:35 PM

sad case..... your true love will come one day.

This post has been edited by skan1: Apr 6 2010, 08:46 PM

lol
here become..

tackle place XD

its not tackle, we are sincerely want to make friend. ok.

okie XD

fren~~~~

u said so.
u gao tim with TS lo

i have lotsa girl friends who are 22 and have never dated before. so it's not really old. but u should seriously mix around more to get to know more ppl. cos i doubt u'll be able to meet your mr right if u just sit at home. ask your girl friends to intro some single guys to u.

and i do believe you will find the one later. he might not be perfect like your ideal guy la.. but if you 2 can click, then u'll be able to accept him for who he is (: anw, dont rush into things.. u have 3 years to hunt before you should really worry XD

You'd be surprised how many young, good looking, succesfull people are still single due to the fact that they are also shy and do not possess good socializing skills. Would you believe that my friend is 27 years old, owns her own buisness, tall, pretty and has a very kind heart with an incredibe personality and she is single because she is shy an doesn't socialize well.

p/s she also owns a house free of loan and 2 cars all paid for. That is how rich she is

Oh and if you're wondering why I'm not already with her then it is because she is like a sister to me and I hav known her since I was born even before I could remember.

22 years old is still considered young lar. you have plenty of time more to find the "right one". maybe you should start worrying if you are still single at 30 years old.

anyway, better not simply enter into relationship just because of your peer and family pressure. it could be devastating if you do. good luck in your search, TS!

I could help her with this "problem" =P

oh my god, you guys, all of you out there and your friends that are single. Totally lack of love from guys like us. mareshia punya girls 缺少了爱.

Don't worry girl, in Malaysia there are way more pricks than chicks. So you have much more to choose from than your male counterparts. Since you are a girl, you have an advantage of being pursued and not putting in much effort on your part. You know, it took me 6 years to find my 2nd love and man, it is even tougher than trying to get into Petronas as a Chinese.

Take it easy pal and don't give up as you are still young and tender. Don't let any douchebags screw your life up.

somehow TS need 2 get some "making-new-friends" session. dun always lock herself in the house. guy wont drop from the sky.

hey girl, don't ever get uself into a relationship just because everybody else has okay? it's a very risky thing to do. being in a relationship, having a bf, is something important which u just shudn't put ur legs in without important consideration. in fact, being picky is a good thing and it doesn't mean you have a problem alrite? i think a girl like you will meet the right one one day. i understand how u feel, and i feel there's nothing wrong with it. to be honest, it's so damn hard so damn difficult to look for the right one now eventhou being given whole street of guys to choose. because we just have to admitt it, good men are hard to find!
so, just take ur time aye? u are not old, just 22. im 21 only and i still not feel hurry.
because a late jodoh/yuan fen is better than a crappy one rite?
i've fallen to so many guys before just becos i wan a damn bf and none of them i felt happy with.
listen to ur heart, dun let ur eyes fool u. don't follow everyone. jia you

Well 22 years old is still quite young (even for a girl), start worrying in 2-3 years time. But dun juz wait if you already feeling anxious and lonely start socializing and make more friends (eg:-take up a sport- gym, badminton etc) because more friends equal to more chances. Dun worry about your relatives pressure cause they are not the one that will be dating or spending their life with the guy you choose. So choose wisely so that you wont end up with a jerk. Finally good luck and all the best in finding the guy that suit you the most.

you can play hard to get, but dont play impossible to get